Good Friends

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Fri Nov 11, 2005 9:58 pm

Hi girls,

I have told you before about my friend here that when I told him I was a crossdresser, he said that he did not have a problem with it.

Well we communicate by email because even though he lives here in southern california, he lives over 100 miles away. Anyway, we have not seen each other in person for quite a while now. In a recent email he asked when I was going to come and visit again.

While he knew that I was a crossdresser, I was not certain he understood that I dressed full time, and because we only communicate by email lately and because we have known each other for so long, 22 years, it is not unusual for us to go months, and even years a few times with little or no communication. For these reasons I have not really kept him up to date about my personal life and was not certain what I had or had not told him about because I lost all my old emails in a crash back in September.

So? I sent him the following email.

Elizabeth wrote:
Hey **** and *******,

As you know I have gone through some life changing events including
divorcing my former wife. I have thought about coming to see you and *******
but I was not sure that would be appropriate without really talking to you
first.

As you know I am a crossdresser, but more than that, I am a transsexual,
meaning I am literally a girl trapped in a man's body. I also am not gay and
have remarried. Perhaps you should look at my homepage.

http://elizabeth-alive.com

I now wear women's clothes 24/7 and have not worn any men's clothes since
August 2004. I know you said you didn't care about me being transgendered,
but I was worried that I might cause you embarassment if I were to visit
your home. I am still the same person I have always been, I just wear
women's clothes now. I have no plans to transition but might still take
female hormones depending on what my doctors say as I had a mild heart
attack back on Septemeber 11, 2005.

I have always and still value our friendship, but also don't want to cause
you or ******* any discomfort. I will not take it personal and will
understand if you prefer me not to visit. If however it is not a problem for
you and *******, I would love to come visit some time and introduce you to
my new wife.

I really want to make it clear that I value our friendship and really don't
want to make either you or ******* uncomfortable, and I won't feel any sense
of rejection if you would prefer not to have me visit you. I understand how
un-nerving this kind of thing can be.

Rudy

He then responded with the following email that I found very uplifting and amusing.

Elizabeth's friend wrote:
Get real !!!!!

If I have ever given you the impression that we would not accept you than
let me set it straight.

I value your friendship regardless of your sexual preferences or anything
else.

I would love to meet your new bride.

Just don't tell me your Republican Please !!!!

I am not sure if I can bare that.

:0~~

****

It is so nice to have real friends who value me as a person, and not just what I represented in my former life. I just wanted to share this with all of you who are mulling over "coming out". It is not all bad and in fact can be quite uplifting.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Fri Nov 11, 2005 10:42 pm

I am happy for you Elizabeth, "enjoy"

Not so sure about the Republican part of it though?

Sonja · Post by **Sonja** » Fri Nov 11, 2005 11:53 pm

Wow, its nice to see there are such good friends out there!
Good luck,

Sonja

Valerie · Post by **Valerie** » Fri Nov 11, 2005 11:56 pm

I just bet that made your day to find out that it doesn't bother them about your changes,Elizabeth. I guess that is when you find out who your real friends are,

. I also am glad you shared it with us. I have not told anyone else besides my SO,who really doesn't like/understand,how I am. I guess you must understand the person before letting them into your world. There are those out there that I think would not understand. But your letter has given me hope that there are those who would not judge me for what I enjoy but more on who I am,

.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Nov 12, 2005 1:57 am

lol!

That was awesome Elizabeth!

You're right he is a good and true friend.

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sat Nov 12, 2005 3:22 am

Hey Hey there sweetie,

This just arrived in my inbox. How fitting.

Friends Overall
================

I have friends in overalls whose friendship I would not swap
for the favor of the kings of the world.

~Thomas Edison~

Post by **DonnaT** » Sat Nov 12, 2005 7:47 am

Congratulations on having such a great friend Elizabeth

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat Nov 12, 2005 8:14 am

Elizabeth,
Some one once told me that as we go through life we have many "acquaintances" but friends, "FRIENDS" most of us can count them on one hand. Remember what one of our sisters wrote and I will take a few liberties with it. An acquaintance will come to jail and bail you out, a friend will be sitting in the cell next to you saying, "Damn, that was fun!"
I wish only the best for you and Raven, I am so glad that you two found each other!
Love,
Virginia

Danette · Post by **Danette** » Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 pm

Good for you, Elizabeth, that you have such a wonderful friend. It makes my heart glad that there are people out there that judge on who you are and not what you are.

Once again you have made me one step closer to finding out who I am.

Thanks Again, Elizabeth

Hugs,
Danette

Katy-Jane · Post by **Katy-Jane** » Sat Nov 12, 2005 4:05 pm

Elizabeth,

thanks for sharing, that was such an uplifting post to read, just at a time when I needed uplifting too! Thank you so much,

katy

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sat Nov 12, 2005 4:18 pm

Hi girls,

In the struggle to "come out" almost all of encounter the struggle of trying to convince people that we really are still the same person they have always known.

It is so nice when the message gets through. I have had the fortunate luck that both of my closest friends have not wavered in the least in accepting who I am, along with meeting Raven(SO) who also totally accepts me.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Georgia(SO) · Post by **Georgia(SO)** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 10:29 am

Thank God you're not a Republican!

Congrats on having a very cool friend!

-georgia(so)

Leslie Langford · Post by **Leslie Langford** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 11:01 am

Hi girls,

Someone once described the term "friends" this way:

A "friend" is someone who helps you move. A "good friend" helps you move a body.

Sorry - I just couldn't resist throwing this into the discussion (LOL!). Sounds as if we're talking the "good friend" variety here. More power to them!

Hugs,

Leslie

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Nov 15, 2005 11:47 pm

Elizabeth that was a very encouraging post.

I think that crossdressers do tend to be slightly skewed towards republicans (we are definitley over represented by ex military from what I read) so that may be in your future also. But we will accept you here still.

(or until, depending)

Andrea

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Wed Nov 16, 2005 4:41 am

Hi,

Please be careful about the political references. If anyone wants to continue this discussion about political stuff with regards to CD'ing let me direct you to the lovely Hot Topics area.

I promise this has been safe so far and I totally laughed out loud at Georgia's response.

She got that jab in, but still kept then got right back on topic and supported Elizabeth. Andrea took the opposite approach of support first and political stuff second.

Again, no fouls here, but pretty please, lets keep it that way.

Thanks again Elizabeth for your awesome thread!!!