My (SO) is very supportive and is leading the way for me at this time. She does not help me get dressed , but does from time to time suggest outfits she would like to see. She helps with my makeup cause I'm terrible with it and it makes it fun.
I would say she is the perfect partner
Does your partner help you crossdress
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Angel.Marie
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At this time my current SO is pretty darn accepting, and has helped me pick out clothes in the stores, and go through the makeup isles and such. At home she's been my baseline for getting my makeup on the right path. She's just been stellar overall.
There are times, and we'll just call it timing (or lack thereof) when I'll just be down and out of nowhere she'll walk over to me and put lipstick on me (when I've nothing else for makeup on) just to cheer me up.. but conversely, she saw I was sad one day, and did the same thing, which got me going and I went and changed and just dove into my makeup and she even helped with the eyeshadow and eyeliner too.. (she's constantly trying to help me expand my horizons) BUT then afterwards SHE got a little depressed because, even though she helped me get dressed that night, she realized she really wanted the manly me that night cause she wasn't feeling so well either. I felt sad about it then, even guilty, and told her I was going to change anyway, and she stopped me.. but what I am supposed to do in this scenario? Well, by the end of that night I had changed to my girly jammies and ended up cuddled up behind her on the couch watching a movie, still with the makeup on (hers was too), we were just two girls on the couch relaxing after a hard day then...
There are times, and we'll just call it timing (or lack thereof) when I'll just be down and out of nowhere she'll walk over to me and put lipstick on me (when I've nothing else for makeup on) just to cheer me up.. but conversely, she saw I was sad one day, and did the same thing, which got me going and I went and changed and just dove into my makeup and she even helped with the eyeshadow and eyeliner too.. (she's constantly trying to help me expand my horizons) BUT then afterwards SHE got a little depressed because, even though she helped me get dressed that night, she realized she really wanted the manly me that night cause she wasn't feeling so well either. I felt sad about it then, even guilty, and told her I was going to change anyway, and she stopped me.. but what I am supposed to do in this scenario? Well, by the end of that night I had changed to my girly jammies and ended up cuddled up behind her on the couch watching a movie, still with the makeup on (hers was too), we were just two girls on the couch relaxing after a hard day then...
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Alee goes to this terrific big Salvation Army store with me and we scatter to look for things. While finding stuff for ourselves we find things for each other too. She's brought me some of my prettiest things (blouses, skirts, dresses, even a woman's swimsuit last time out). She dotes on my Valentine PJs with hearts all over them, and frequently compliments me on tops, nighties, etc.
Angel Marie, I must say I've yet to have that experience: her putting lipstick on me. Lucky you! That'd be enormous fun. The sensation of being two girls together ... what could be nicer or more accepting?
As to what you do when she suddenly wants the male you, though -- that's hard. I guess a lot of us have been through it, and it's like a sudden fender bender, it stops you cold. The feeling of having to change at that point is woeful.
Yet I think within reason it's best to follow her whim, at least sometimes. It's fair because she's been following your whim, and even enjoying it up till then. Hard as it is, I'd say make an effort to switch back into male mode if it will make her feel better.
It's give and take. Makes it more likely she'll be accepting again next time you're femme. Far better to keep the situation fluid than have her suddenly dig in her heels because you're not being as cooperative as she is.
That's my take. What do others think?
Love, Robyn Katie
Angel Marie, I must say I've yet to have that experience: her putting lipstick on me. Lucky you! That'd be enormous fun. The sensation of being two girls together ... what could be nicer or more accepting?
As to what you do when she suddenly wants the male you, though -- that's hard. I guess a lot of us have been through it, and it's like a sudden fender bender, it stops you cold. The feeling of having to change at that point is woeful.
Yet I think within reason it's best to follow her whim, at least sometimes. It's fair because she's been following your whim, and even enjoying it up till then. Hard as it is, I'd say make an effort to switch back into male mode if it will make her feel better.
It's give and take. Makes it more likely she'll be accepting again next time you're femme. Far better to keep the situation fluid than have her suddenly dig in her heels because you're not being as cooperative as she is.
That's my take. What do others think?
Love, Robyn Katie
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Jennifer
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My wife has never actually helped me dress except a few times when she helped zip me into a dress that was a bit tight. For the most part her involvement has been to help me pick outfits that are more suited to women my age. Many years ago I was guilty of buying things a twenty year old would go for and while she agrees some things I have are cute she has guided me to have fashion sense. For us a fun evening is going through catalogues drooling over outfits we both wish we had the figure for and nothing is more satisfying than having her point out a gown saying "Wouldn't you love to be in that?"