Lost Interest

Joan · Post by **Joan** » Mon Jun 06, 2011 4:43 pm

The compulsion for myself has never waned, if anything it increases gradually with time. I have never purged.

As a child and a young married person it was more of a lingerie fetish and the only lingerie items i wore were slips and panties. As I have matured this has developed to fully CDing, wearing a wig, and as yet minor experimentation with make-up.

It is this slow progression that is of concern to my wife, she has always been OK with my need to wear lingerie.

Joan

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Tue Jun 07, 2011 11:32 am

I couldn't stand it anymore. I felt like part of me was missing. I didn't feel like dressing but I needed to be whole so, today I dressed casual, culottes, floraL T-top and light make up. I feel a little better but would really like Wendae back. Thursday is therapist day and I don't want to miss the oppertunity to get out and about. I know this sounds strange to some but as we age our minds get fickle and you never know what to expect when you wake up in the morning. I'll bring Wendae back. Think I'll look at clothes on line. I did the vacuuming for wife as she is out. I'll fix dinner if she is home late.

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Thu Jun 09, 2011 2:35 pm

I thought the idea of getting out would revive the interest. Damn! She's still on vacation. That's what I told my therapist today when she asked where Wendae was. I told her she went on vacation without telling me she was leaving and that I felt as tho part of me was missing.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Fri Jun 10, 2011 11:21 am

I'm about to loose interest as I do every summer when it gets too hot and I appreciate the fashion convenience of being a guy.

Wendae I've often thought that our clothing choices and desires are influenced by the idea of permission and enough. When we are younger these things are forbidden and we can't do them that often. It's always a special occaision. Then we get older and perhaps give ourselves permission to just wear the clothes without it being a big deal. And perhaps we do it a lot more-I certainly do. And thus we get to do it enough and the desire wanes drastically from when this was taboo. It may well be that bringing Wendae to see your therapist let Wendae feel like she was free and now she is not pushing against the walls of her cage trying to escape, and thus you feel far less of a need for her to express herself.

There have been several times when my family has been away for a week and I've spent much of the week in my girl clothes. I find that by the end of the week my male clothes feel like long lost friends.

Zari

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Fri Jun 10, 2011 2:04 pm

Zari.... I think that you have it right. Sure will be glad when this spell is over.

MsJoann · Post by **MsJoann** » Wed Jul 06, 2011 11:39 am

I've had that same feeling too. But I dread the day when I totally lose interest and put it away for good. I find lightly dressing every day works good for me...even at work. Going full-bore dressing every day would wear me out I guess.

Martina · Post by **Martina** » Sat Jul 09, 2011 5:16 am

I havn't dressed in nearly 2 months since I put my clothes away for a party. I did wear a pair of panties that had escaped the tidy up when I ran out of boys pants and except for the fact that they were stretch lace and I could feel them on all the time there was no pleasure in it. I woke this morning thinking about the last time I had gotten great enjoyment from dressing up but it has not motivated me enough to get my clothes back from the attic. I am in full health and life is pretty ok at the moment so I don't know why I lost the interest. When I put them away I had expected to get them back within days because I was still interested. One part of me is relieved that Im not wearing them and not been on constant alert incase somebody unexpectantly arrives at the door and the other part of me wants the relief and comfort of dressing up. I notice that I am not window shopping as much because I know that I am not going to buy anything and travelling around the country with my work is not as interesting because I know I won't be shopping in towns were I am not going to be reconised. My laundry is piling up downstairs because it is always Martina in one of her short skirts and ruffled panties who takes care of that. I might make a dress up date with myself for a night next week and see how it goes. The worst thing that can happen is that I might get some ironing done

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Sat Jul 09, 2011 7:24 am

Martina, such a range of thoughts.

One thing that caught my eye was that life is okay right now. Some girls dress just for relief from pressure -- thinking they aren't in charge then. But in the next breath, you have chores you get done.

You talk about losing some of the fun in your everyday and work lives without being dressed, but then you say you're relieved for not having to worry about unexpected visitors or people recognizing you.

In my humble (like I'm ever humble) opinion, don't make dressing an effort. Just let it be there as the mood strikes you. It was a part of your life and you said you enjoyed it. Relax -- maybe go ahead and get Martina's things back out and put them where you will see them, like in your closet with your drab things. Throw your panties in with your other undies. See what happens as the moods strikes you.

BTW, if you worry all the time about visitors, start training them to call in advance. Strangers? you never have to answer the door. If your friends call unannounced and you have them wait while you take a little time to change? Okay -- they are your friends; they can wait. If they wonder what was going on, just tell them you have a nice habit of being naked all the time at home now. If they press, well just maybe it's time they learn. Again, just my humble opinion.

Life is good; dressing should make it "gooder" , hopefully not "worser".

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Mon Sep 26, 2011 10:11 am

Yaaaaah! Wendae is back and I'm whole again. My first day dressed and golly what a wonderful feeling!

Anne Bonny · Post by **Anne Bonny** » Mon Sep 26, 2011 10:23 am

I have gone for months, even a relative year or more in solid male mode with absolutely no desire to dress. But...the desire always seems to return. If you have lost the desire - sounds like this bothers you because you are posting on this site about it which could indicate the desire is still there somewhere. I would not fret if it turns out you have returned to the conventional world you can leave all of this and move on, really makes no difference. But I will bet the desire returns better than an even chance of that - I believe this is in our genetic make up....

I can add to this post that Stress, emotional turmoil can take the winds out of your crossdressing sails, lessen desire, things happen in life, and like a storm at sea they eventually pass then the sun will come out, and calm and relaxed desire returns....

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Sep 27, 2011 7:22 am

Welcome back Wendae!

What do you think made her want to return, and at this time as opposed to any other time?

Martina I was reminded of something by your post. Sometimes dressing just fills up some space for me. A good example is being home alone. Sitting by the fire in a skirt and then going to sleep in my nightgown can make a night alone special, whereas if I did it in guy mode it would just be another night alone, sort of lonely, while my wife is away.

Zari

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Tue Sep 27, 2011 8:44 am

I've often wondered about that. Maybe it's the cooler weather? Don't know and really don't care. Only that she's back and the need to dress all the time is stronger then ever but there are interruptions.

Ralitsa · Post by **Ralitsa** » Tue Sep 27, 2011 2:05 pm

I like the explanation about cooler weather. But anyway I really like wool skirts and cute sweaters with boots up to the knee, and the whole scottish, autumn style. OK I really like sundresses too, but I can't really wear those but I can wear a skirt and sweater very nicely.
Zari has a great point about spending the evening by the fire in a skirt and going to bed in a nightgown being special, again a very autumnal scene, and one I also enjoy.
It's starting to cool off here too, and I'm looking forward to the change of style from the casual, easy summer outfits to the snug, cozy, and preppy autumn styles.