Coping at home with my mom

[Anita]

Hi Dallas--
I see it as the glass half-full, that you don't have to hide it from your mom. That, and having a supportive sister, are a big deal. I'm sorry that it didn't go well the other night, though.

I see that one tough aspect of this, for both you and your mom, is that you can't look at the world around you for role models. She can read about this all she wants, and she's still not going to see crossdressers down at the local grocery. She won't be meeting mothers of other teen crossdressers, because most of their mothers don't know. There still aren't any high-visibility CDs or TGs in music entertainment, although I trust that's going to be changing. But it's not happening right now.

My point is, when you meet people face-to-face, it has more impact. Your mom could see that crossdressers can lead productive lives, even if not everyone knows or accepts.

If your mother is willing to read at a number of sites, it might help. But people who resist this sometimes do not want to read about it, either.

Hang in there. ..

[Gaven McLaren]

Dallas I understand what you are saying as I have the same issue with my mother. While I do not live with her anymore she still will make comments about me not being able to find a girl that will like to be with a person that likes womans clothes. I love my mother but she does not understand. Nor is she willing to learn which is the hardest part.

[Dallas]

I had to lie to her and the rest of the family (the gods bringing luck) whom which actually thought I was joking. Then we laughed about it and I got some jokes layed on me. But it's not worth going through all the drama. It was a huge dramafest. They don't understand, nor will they ever. I'm just going to give up.

My sister is cool with it. My girlfriend doesn't know about my CDing but she was there when my sister let me try on her skirt and my girlfriend got a picture lol. But I'm just not going to bother. Maybe at my age this isn't a good idea. I would just like to wear a dress or skirt in private every once in a while. It's not like I'm going out in public (which shouldn't matter if I was anyway, cuz I'm sure alota you guys do).

[Stephanie W]

Hi Dallas

Sorry to hear of your frustration with trying to talk to Mom. Try and be patient as there will be other opportunities later on where the subject could come up again.

At such a young age, I know how I felt going through this, especially not having anyone to talk with about CDing. At least you have a supportive sister which is truly a blessing. Glad to see your girlfriend was cool with you doing that. Who knows, she may turn out to be ok with the whole thing?

For now, just enjoy dressing when you can in private if that works for you. As you get older, you will probably find a greater need to dress outside of your environment, so if/when that happens, take it slowly and know you have a great resource here to help you on your way.

In time, I still remain hopeful, you'll have that "good conversation" with Mom and that will be a load off your shoulders. I'm interested to know whether your sister would be willing to help you in any way. Does she know about this forum? So many folks have no one to turn to so you're luckier than many people. If you can, keep talking with her and sharing your feelings about what you are going through. As the old saying goes - a trouble shared is a trouble halved!

Best of luck.

Stephanie