Not like other men
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Alana
- Miss Emerald Goddess
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- Joined: Sat Nov 26, 2005 3:01 am
- Location: Grand Junction, Colorado
Thank you to all those who took the poll and posted. I reckon I got an answer and then some. However, it still doesn't totally answer my question as to what was meant by the statement. Apparently, it was very specific to any given relationship.
While I was told by several of my girl friends, including my wife, that I was different from most men they knew, there was never an explanation of what they meant. I generally took it to mean that I was more considerate of them, or was a complete wuss. It wasn't until I joined the forum that I got to wondering if there "something" about us that GGs could sense. In some instances that appears to be the case.
However, from the various posts I noticed that it wasn't just the CDg or the shadow of it that earned the statement. Some was based on personality and confidence (or lack thereof). I suspect some of it is based on upbringing (i.e., being a gentleman, treating a woman with respect, etc.). I know that I was brought up to be a gentleman and treat woman with respect. I definitely was naive when it came to dating and how to handle a one-on-one romantic relationship. Had very few of them.
As for telling my girlfriends about my crossdressing, that seldom happened. At the time, I was still confused about what was going on and felt ashamed and guilty. I finally came out to my wife several years after we were married. At the time she seemed like she might be accepting and supportive. However, I didn't take baby steps with her and committed a serious faux pas that apparently scuttled any acceptance and support that was present then. Went back into the closet and was still questioning the gift until about 5 years ago.
Anyway, I digress. Thank you for responding to the poll and relating your experiences. The posts indicate there are a lot of reasons for beng told "you're not like other men," and CDg is apparently only one.
Love and hugs,
Alana
While I was told by several of my girl friends, including my wife, that I was different from most men they knew, there was never an explanation of what they meant. I generally took it to mean that I was more considerate of them, or was a complete wuss. It wasn't until I joined the forum that I got to wondering if there "something" about us that GGs could sense. In some instances that appears to be the case.
However, from the various posts I noticed that it wasn't just the CDg or the shadow of it that earned the statement. Some was based on personality and confidence (or lack thereof). I suspect some of it is based on upbringing (i.e., being a gentleman, treating a woman with respect, etc.). I know that I was brought up to be a gentleman and treat woman with respect. I definitely was naive when it came to dating and how to handle a one-on-one romantic relationship. Had very few of them.
As for telling my girlfriends about my crossdressing, that seldom happened. At the time, I was still confused about what was going on and felt ashamed and guilty. I finally came out to my wife several years after we were married. At the time she seemed like she might be accepting and supportive. However, I didn't take baby steps with her and committed a serious faux pas that apparently scuttled any acceptance and support that was present then. Went back into the closet and was still questioning the gift until about 5 years ago.
Anyway, I digress. Thank you for responding to the poll and relating your experiences. The posts indicate there are a lot of reasons for beng told "you're not like other men," and CDg is apparently only one.
Love and hugs,
Alana
"Man, I feel like a woman!"- Shania Twain
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Chrissie
- Miss Sapphire Goddess
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Many girlfriends said that I was different. Often, the (especially when making love) they didn't really know if I was a guy or a girl. I was often an "exception" with other girls and their girlfriends--a guy who was one of the girls--even before I dressed regularly.
The first girlfriend I came out to (well, actually, she found out I was borrowing her lingerie) was shocked only for a day or too, and then it all made sense, and she admitted that she had often looked upon me as a woman, but was afraid to say anything...
xoxo chrissie
The first girlfriend I came out to (well, actually, she found out I was borrowing her lingerie) was shocked only for a day or too, and then it all made sense, and she admitted that she had often looked upon me as a woman, but was afraid to say anything...
xoxo chrissie