Precious moments

[Julieann]

I am wondering how all married CDers find or make time for your female persona. Being able to get all dolled up is so important but not always possible. What do you do?
JulieAnn

[Melyssa Anne]

lWell, I am one of the lucky ones. I work from home and have a lot of say when I work my hours. My wife knows and is supportive. Some weeks I dress every day and some weeks not at all. Someitmes I get out for the afternoon and shop, go to the local park / pool, or whatever. Sometimes my wife and i plan a girls night out or a girls weekend away.

Trust me -- i know how lucky I am.

[Leeza]

I am one of th unlucky ones as my wife is not supportive. I do have a granddaughter who is and lives close. I can do a little time there although that is not always the best.

Probably my best times are trips to the dr. I can usually plan to leave early enough to do some dressing while on my way, change enough to see the dr. Then change back to fem for the rest of the day.

I am looking forward to a trip when I can spend a day or 2 in fem.

Leeza

[CharLee]

To answer your question JulieAnn, in my case I have had open and honest conversations with my wife about my need to dress. Listened to her concerns and feelings about it, then came to a compromise with her to when and how often I can get dressed that she would be comfortable with. When I feel the urge to dress I always ask her if she would mind if I got dressed, if she says she doesn't want me to dress I don't.

You must always take into consideration how your wife feels about your dressing, not just your desire or need to do it. In this way you show her that you respect her feelings on the subject. With me, this has lead to my being able to dress more often and for longer periods of time.

[KimberlyS]

I am one of the luckier CDers. My wife does not like my CDing but has come to realize it is part of me and something I need. So over time, and continue to work through, a cding arrangement that is acceptable for the both of us. I am able to under dress and wear outer androgenyous femme clothes as long as they are concealed and I present my male self to the world. I have my wife approve, if you will, my outer femme clothes as a courtesy to her. And I will from time to time have her check to make sure everything is concealed ok. We both work in times where I can get more feminine looking time either around the house or out and about away from home and the small town we live in.

Some times she needs less of my CDing and I back off for a bit. Keeping open communication on the subject keeps things easier to deal with and less likely to blow up. Trying to be aware of her stress levels and moods helps and adjusting to match those. And being flexible!!!!

kim
joe in a skirt

[DonnaT]

I don't have a need 'to get all dolled up.'

I dress as I please around the house, sans makeup and wig. My wife can handle that better than seeing me all dolled up.

I doll up when going out.

[Merinda]

My wife chooses to be absent when I dress up , so I choose to dress up when she is at work.

Make up is used for photos or going out

No make up for general domestic relaxation dress ups

[April Rose]

I dress in feminine clothing quite often; most evenings after dinner and part of the time on weekends as well. I don't wear makeup, forms or a wig though. Since I don't go out, there doesn't seem much point in it, and it seems to keep things at a level my wife is comfortable with as well.

I do have a wig and make-up and will dress completely from time to time. But mostly that's for practice. Don't get me wrong. I'd like to be able to pass as a woman even if i don't go out. But for me, feeling feminine is more about living a certain way than achieving a certain look. I'm most content when in a dress and apron, cooking , cleaning, sewing or doing some artsy craftsy thing. When it comes right down to it, I'm really a wannabe housewife.

My wife has her anxieties, but in general she is hip and open minded. I check in almost obsessively to be sure she's not bothered with the amount of time I'm spending dressed. The last time I did she told me I was paranoid and I needed to chill.

Anyway, I think that what works for us is that my feminine self contributes something to the relationship. It's not just an escape into narcissism.

[Erin L]

Since neither my wife nor my son know about Erin (although there is some reason to believe that wife knows of some Erin-like activity), the only time I can dress is when I am working from home (like today). And since I am about to be promoted (so they say), the opportunities to work from home are much slimmer than they used to be.

Sometimes I wear panties under my drab clothing at work, but I find it can be too much of a distraction if I've worn something a little too...ahem...naughty.

[Diannna]

Being retired of course makes it a lot easier for me. Most of the time I hve all the day time to dress. I don't need to do make up all the time. Just being able to dress as I please is enough. Sometimes I"m still dressed when the s/o gets home. She doesn't mind. It's usually due to I haven't finished some house work. I don't have to do house work, but hey, I enjoy it, and it does give my s/o a bit more time to just relax after work.

[KimberlyS]

....Being able to get all dolled up is so important but not always possible. What do you do?

JulieAnn, funny I have read this post several times and this just hit me.

For me yes being all dolled up is fun. But I have found that I do not always need to be dolled up. And other times I can not be all dolled up. So I have learned I can dress femme in a variety of modes and may feel femme just may not look outwardly femme to others. It works for me. But I know for some they have mostly one femme type of mode that they need.

kim
joe in a skirt

[Absaroka]

I work out of the house alone so during the day I often work en femme. But I never get dolled up. No makeup, no wig, and no heels. I've had family members come home and I can quick change between the time my wife parks the car and when she gets out. One time my daughter came home (okay this wouldn't work in a dress) and I had everything but the skirt and the inserts. She looked right at me and didn't realize anything.

Absaroka

[Patti D]

I try to wear something fem everyday, under my work clothes.
In the evening my wife wants me to dress up, usually she will set out an outfit she would like me to try on. Or I will just find something casual to put on. Around the house my dress always include panties, hose, bra and forms. Outer is usually a short skirt and blouse. I'm starting to wear my wig more also.

[Sandra Jane]

I wear panties in the day when I am with other people but I have to wait untill my wife goes out before I can get fully dressed.

[JenniferPL]

I wear something 24/7, mainly panites for the last 14 years. Laterly bras under loose fitting tops. Litight colored lipstick that is hard to notice. Recently my wife got me to try a sports bra, which I really like.