The first time...

MsMike · Post by **MsMike** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 3:08 pm

Hi,
I am real curious and I am looking for open and honest feedback from all sides.

What were your thoughts, and feelings upon first seeing your partner all dressed up?

Thank you,
MsMike

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 8:22 pm

I am sorry, but I guess I must have slept through your last class?!

I don't see SO after your name so I can only assume that you are referring to (most of us anyway) our GG/SO?

When we had our "committment ceremony" at a chapel in Las Vegas and she wore her wedding dress I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world. When we go out to parties or to eat or the movies, she dresses nicely. She does not see Virginia as competition, it is just two girls going out together for a good time.

Now if you are going in another direction, my SO does not or is not a crossdresser, so what can I say???

Virginia

Post by **DonnaT** » Thu Dec 17, 2009 6:58 am

Virginia, I think MsMike's question was directed more toward the partners (SOs) of the crossdresser, to get their first reactions?

But she did ask for "open and honest feedback from all sides," and didn't place the question under the "Dear GG" topic.

When my wife first saw me fully dressed, she thought I was very pretty. She commented that if we have a daughter she would be pretty. And she is (see my gallery)

Wendae · Post by **Wendae** » Thu Dec 17, 2009 2:32 pm

Mine was not a happy camper!

Carly · Post by **Carly** » Thu Dec 17, 2009 2:54 pm

Since your lacking GG input I'll add that my wife was also not and still is not a "happy camper" on this issue.

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Fri Dec 18, 2009 8:55 am

Well as I have said many times here my wife was so amazed she couldn't believe who she was looking at and after we went out together she was turned on she wanted me to dress all the time. Well that was 45 years ago and now I believe she is just so use to Carol it's not the turn on anymore but just a loving relashionship.

DanteCarrie (FTM) · Post by **DanteCarrie (FTM)** » Mon Jan 11, 2010 5:54 pm

my partner is a cis gendered, hetero male. he wouldn't cross dress, although I'll never stop asking him too. the idea of my lover in women's clothes? if i could get one a massive erection would be my reaction. no lie forgive my crudness.

Letitia_Jolie_GG · Post by **Letitia_Jolie_GG** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 12:35 pm

Well... haven't seen him fully dressed yet, as he's mostly into lingerie, so the first time I saw you wearing panties and a corset
I expected that I'd burst out laughing, but it wasn't quite like this. (Though I may have laughed a bit); he was really cute and it it was touching. He looked kind of vulnerable... and very sexy too

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 1:17 pm

MsMike wrote:Hi,What were your thoughts, and feelings upon first seeing your partner all dressed up?

I know it's not what you're getting at, but my first thought was...

"Is that MY skirt?"

I owned more femme clothes than my ex-wife did.

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 1:18 pm

Letitia_Jolie,

I believe that's how we had 4 kids she was turned on and I was vulnerble

Renee N (SO) · Post by **Renee N (SO)** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 4:18 pm

I just recently found out about my husband so let me see if I can put into words how i felt the first time I saw him dressed.

I had a variety of emotions running through me. I was angry, jealous, upset, sad, but mostly fearful of how my reaction would affect him. I did shed a few tears and was a little uncomfortable. I wouldn't go near him for the first few minutes and felt a little like a deer in headlights; i couldn't look away. It was a lot to take in even though he was only wearing a skirt and blouse.

I think it went better than I expected because my husband has been very open about his CDing since I found out. I was with him when he bought clothing and he asked me to help him the first time he put make up on. Being involved in the activities leading up to the actually CDing really helped me. Little steps are the key at least for our relationship. Then it won't be such a shock when he is completely transformed into Ashleigh.

I hope this answers your question and I'd be happy to help in any way I can. I am here to learn and soak up all of the information I can so that I can be supportive of my husband.

Letitia_Jolie_GG · Post by **Letitia_Jolie_GG** » Sun Jan 31, 2010 1:06 pm

Carol Ann wrote:Letitia_Jolie,

I believe that's how we had 4 kids she was turned on and I was vulnerble

Hee hee... I'll remember that

Jen (SO) · Post by **Jen (SO)** » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:51 am

I haven't seen my man completely dressed up yet (I only found out about 2 wks ago), but he has dressed up in nightclothes for me once. I asked him if we could go shopping together on Sat. for him to wear something that night. It was somewhat awkward at the store, I know he was really nervous and I think he was worried I would freak if he showed interest in anything. That night when he came to bed dressed, he just laid down beside me (we usually fall asleep cuddled together) and that upset me a lot. I was worried he didn't want to have anything to do with me while he was dressed as Amber, but he told me that he was just worried I would push him away.

I think I was mostly nervous and worried he would act completely different, but I was more relieved and happy that he was just... him, dressed in other clothes. I was also surprised that I liked the feel of the clothing, a lot softer that the shirts and boxers he usually sleeps in.

I don't know the reaction I will have when I see a complete look at Amber, but I admit I think about it a lot. We're taking this slow, at the pace I choose, so I think the next step is makeup, which I'm really excited about!

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Tue Feb 23, 2010 12:18 pm

Hay Jen,
Hon give your man time to relax as he may be a bit shy about his dressing in front of you..

Ah makeup, oh what a fun time my wife and her sister had doing mine many a years ago.

Now it can get funny or be painful on you if and when he want's to wear a wig. I support you for trying to support him, hugs

Jen (SO) · Post by **Jen (SO)** » Tue Feb 23, 2010 6:21 pm

Thanks for the sweet words, Carol Ann!

Yes, I am giving him time to get used to the idea of me knowing (I found out in a fairly difficult way), but he is actually more excited and relieved that I finally know and accept it more than shy or reserved. He is very much wanting to dress up completely for me, but I think I need more time and to take it in baby steps. He is supportive either way... he really is an amazing wonderful man, and I am lucky to have found him - he is my soulmate in every way.

I am so excited about the makeup! I think it will be a lot of fun, and a way for us to have some great laughs and for me to show him some "tricks"!

We did the pore strips over the weekend and had a lot of fun. Again, a baby step for my comfort level.

He has only bought stuff online - so it was different for him to go shopping the other day, but he said he really liked it and wanted to do it a lot more. He also said that he wanted the first outfit he wore for me as Amber to be something we bought together. I'm looking forward to shopping with him, I think it will be fun for both of us!

Thank you again for the kind words and all the advice you and the others give here on the forum. I felt so lost and unsure when I first found out and all of the info and guidance I have found here (as well as at home) has helped me infinitely. *hugs*

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