Need some advice ;(

[JayK]

Hey everybody, well this is my first time on a forum, im a boy but i feel like i was born a girl, i crossdress but only when im in my house, my family dont know about it, i just need some advice on some things, here they are.

How do i go about telling them so they accept me around the house?
I still have a buldge when i wear yoga pants / leggings, how do i hide it , it hurts tucking (left testical).
Im afraid to go out to a store & try on girlish clothing, how else can i get the items i want?
How do i figure out what size i am in leggings/pajamas/jeans/shorts?

I have yogapants on now, there a size medium from joe boxer, they are tight on my thieghs and my butt, but they show my ankle, i want a size small for a tighter look but itll be even shorter on me, like capris, should i go for a large?

Thank you everybody so much, im VERY VERYY glad there is a forum for us people that NEED the support we need & help with coping and advice we need, thank you all in advance, i will be returning (;

-Jason A.k.A Jessica <3

[Anthony Simon]

This is a lot of questions, which I guess you've been stuck with for a while. So congratulations for opening up. I'm sure that took some courage. The thing about you feeling you're a girl who was born a boy is probably your biggest issue, because how you react to that - and what precisely it means, impacts on your whole life.

The other thing I can say something about is buying clothes. Just go in the shop and ask for help. Then everyone knows where they are. I do that with wigs, shoes and coats/jackets - these items I need particularly to try on. They'll be able to tell you what your size is (though women's sizes do vary). It's almost certain the salespeople will respond reasonably professionally (because it's their job and they need the sales). Occasionaly you can get trouble (Minor) from other customers (in my experience).

[DonnaT]

How do i go about telling them so they accept me around the house?

Only you know your parents. Are they liberal? Ever heard them say anything derogatory towards other lifestyles? Are they laid back? Etc.

Once you figure you can tell one or both, then just be straight with them.

I still have a buldge when i wear yoga pants / leggings, how do i hide it , it hurts tucking (left testical).

You could try a gaff or real tight panties or panty girdle.

Im afraid to go out to a store & try on girlish clothing, how else can i get the items i want?
How do i figure out what size i am in leggings/pajamas/jeans/shorts?

Use the string method.
Measure yourself with a string and mark your various sizes using different color markers. Use the string at the store to check for sizes that will fit.

I have yogapants on now, there a size medium from joe boxer, they are tight on my thieghs and my butt, but they show my ankle, i want a size small for a tighter look but itll be even shorter on me, like capris, should i go for a large?

I have no idea. Try a large and see?
Do they have them in other sizes than small medium and large, like actual waist measurements? Or in Tall/thin type sizing?

[Ralitsa]

As far as what size to wear, the only good way is to try them on and see how they look on you. Really, just buying clothes according to size doesn't give good results.
A few weeks ago I picked up my niece from the Army to go to a funeral, and she obviously needed something to wear for it. So I bought her a really cute dress before I picked her up (and got myself one too ) and it fit her perfectly, but just didn't look good on her because it was the wrong shape for her body. Unfortunately it wouldn't fit me But she gave it to her friend who has somewhat of a different body shape, and it looks great on her.
The moral of the story is, you just need to spend some time shopping to find what you like, what fits correctly, and what looks nice on you. Of course you will be nervous the first several times you go shopping, but you get used to it after a couple times. Most of us here have found that this particular habit does not go away, you will probably have it your whole life, so you might as well start figuring it out now. Also, since you are still young you will continue to grow quickly, so your sizes and styles that you like will change quickly.
About how to tell your parents: you can always try the age-old trick of "there is a boy in my class who likes to wear girl clothes, what's up with that?" and judge by their reaction. They might say something like "well you shouldn't be mean to him because of that, you should be supportive of his feelings." In which case it's all cool, and then you just say "well what if I were to wear girl clothes, would you be OK with that?"
This tactic is the oldest trick in the book and most people will see though it, but they will go along with the game anyway. If you go back and look through all the posts here, reactions from parents have been all over the spectrum, from complete rejection to complete support. In general, I'd say it is advisable not to shock them too drastically, but sort of give them time to adjust to the idea.

[Absaroka]

I'm hesitant to give suggestions about your parents, as only you know them. Some folks never tell about the stuff we discuss here.

On to an easier topic, shopping. I get a lot of my stuff at Goodwill and Walmart. No sales assistants trying to help me and giving a reaction. You can check out the changing rooms in advance with guy clothing and then bring in girl clothes with them. Don't worry too much about checkout. WIth sizes start with S, M, and L A lot of times guys clothes are one size up. You can look at sizing charts on dept stores websites. One tip. Bra band sizes seem to fit differently on men than women.

I have a wife and two grown daughters. Over the years I've bought lots of stuff for them. The stuff for my daughters is obviously not for me, it's way too small. But some of the stuff I've bought for my wife would fit. THe difference in my comfort level in buying them clothes vs buying them for myself was at first very noticeable.

I've been known to consult other women shoppers for stuff I'm getting for my family. Sometimes I consult about stuff I'm getting for me and say it's for my wife. The reaction is always very positive. You could start by buying a girls shirt, it's a convincing present for someone.

Another place you can buy sexy lingerie without any raised eyebrows is places that sell lots of lingerie along with sex stuff. You can say you are getting it for your girlfriend, or you can just say it's for you, and they won't bat an eyelash. There is a reason why you find so many guys in those stores, and also why you find so many guys in Victoria's Secret Trust me, they aren't all shopping for someone else.

As a last resort, wait till October and tell folks it's for Halloween. I got an absolutely wonderful and hilarious reaction from the sales ladies at Bare Neccesities ( now they are only on line, too bad) when I asked them to measure me for a bra for Halloween. They laughed very hard, but it was a very friendly laugh. A couple of days later I went to visit them in full witch drag, and they really seemed to enjoy that. It's best if you do stuff like this at a time when they are not busy.

One last thing. If you really feel like you are female in a male body, this is more than just crossdressing. In that case you will likely need help in sorting this all out. You can look up transgender for teens stuff and see if there are any support groups in you area. The local triangle club may also be able to suggest something for folks who are the T in LGBT. If you have really really liberal churches they may also be able to make suggestions about support groups. You can try just calling on the phone, it's very anonymous.

Since you live in the city, there are stores that cater to male crossdressers not to mentino stores that sell all sorts of clothing where you would not be deemed odd no matter what you bought.

One thing that was scary till I did it was I called a store (Zoe and Co) in RI and asked in advance could they measure me for a bra and put it in terms of I didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable. They said yes, a lot of their customers are men shopping for themselves, and that they set aside certain times to measure men for bras and discouraged women for coming in for fittings at those times.

Absaroka