Society is gradually coming to accept sex vs gender

[Anne Bonny]

Society is gradually coming to accept that sex and gender are separate things which soon may mean that angst will be a thing of the past. Terms like transgender, sex change, gender neutral and gender equality are almost words we hear every day and frequently they are stated in terms of acknowledgement, or as matters of fact - our day is coming! Gender neutral toys, gender is a consideration for bathrooms in school. This means that men of female gender and women of male gender may some day be able to live out their lives as they desire. I would be able to be a wife and have a husband and submit to her dominance and loving leadership, and still have my say as any woman would and at the same time wear men's clothing and be masculine when I want to which may still be 60% of the time which I would be perfectly willing to accept knowing I am accepted as a man of female gender or as a woman.

[Martina Hall]

The key word being "gradually".


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[Karin]

I think you're both right.
I've been very gradually unveiling my transition to the outer world and its surprising. I got the odd comment for girl stuff, but nothing mean or bad. People at work have clocked the bows in my hair, painted nails, femme jewelry, all things pink, emotional behaviour, makeup and perfume. Some even saw me about town dressed and yet not many really figured out why? Some thought I was just weird. Some just thought I liked pink lol. A few just assumed its cos I have daughters and that I just don't give a damn. I've been told of a few recent discussions about me and it seems the only thing that has let them put 2 and 2 together...is the hrt. Yep it was the girls that finally made breakthrough!
People just don't seem to care anymore really?

So now in coming out I've found that most assume that I'm gay - even tho they know I'm married. But you're right about things changing, cos when I've actually explained things to people they seem to 'get it'. So far there's not been a single harsh word..only strong support. This is in a large factory that I would consider to be a tough cookie to crumble? Yet its just happened!

I'd say we still have to teach people the detail..but yeah..our day is here in my opinion.

[Anne Bonny]

I think it helps me to think of this in terms of gender seperate from my sex. I also think of that gender as mixed, and can only speculate that my gender is 40% female by trying to judge how often I feel feminine and would enjoy dressing were I not hindered by the angst. Some of us are past all of this but at 56 I still hide all of this except to a few safe people. I dress at home and leave the windows open but I find myself tortured afraid someone will come to the door, drive up, or that my neighbor will see me getting out of his car at lunch. I might venture outside for brief periods but only when it is very dark and there is not a sole around. Under dressing does not count, except bras cn be seen under a t shirt or polo shirt and the extra curvature is very apparent so I hide that. Shaving all of my legs can only be hidden by long pants, but some men do have rather hairless legs. Nail polish, have to wear shoes when others are around.
I have driven in a skirt and heels on some long trips but always had my male shorts and shoes available and would change prior to pulling in to gas up.
It is pathetic and I wish life for us were not this way because my life is more than half over and I still hide my true gender mix.
How often I have been on a walk and envied a lady stepping out to pick up the paper in a lovely dress but I can wear a lovely dress at home when things are right. Sons are out. And though my wife is in the final stages of dementia I am not really comfortable dressing in her presence because I know she just tolerated my dressing.