Lovely chat

[Andrea F.]

On Sat. 9/6 Andrea had one of the warmest chats with the members of this site. They really helped to bring more of my femininity out. I do feel like one of the girls here. Dressing is a big part of my very being. It is something I cannot stop doing. Sometime in the near future, Andrea will emerge and go out dressed. That will be a huge step towards being myself and whole. I really don't like being masculine but more feminine. Society would be much better off if there was more femininity in it. The sweetness and compassion that goes with it would be far better than the overly masculine male that permeates society. I am a firm believer in dressing and allowing anyone who wants to do so without being judged for it. I am so happy the younger generations are helping to make this happen. I do hope sometime in the near future, us girls can go out dressed as we wish and not feel ashamed about it. I mean, why can't we just feel loved and accepted for who we are? We just like the prettiness and choices that come with dressing. Men's clothing can't even come close to women's. I do look forward to chatting more in the chat room with you all and learn more about the future of dressing. I would like to develop a close circle of friends too. That's what I need in my life now and talk about my feminine feelings with you all. I am much more comfortable with myself now more than ever. Once again thank you so much for all that you do for newcomers like me. I really do want to become part of this family.

[Ralitsa]

That's very heart warming to hear, Andrea. I'm glad you like it here. When I joined several years ago, I felt the same way, that here is a place that really suits me. The people here are great, very supportive and with good advice from hard won experience!!

[Requal Jo]

I am pleased that you got to chat with someone the other day Andre. It sounded that it greatly assisted you.

[Carol Ann]

Andrea,

As I have said many times that is what this forum is all about, we are here for you and everyone else

[Eileen (SO)]

Society would be much better off if there was more femininity in it. The sweetness and compassion that goes with it would be far better than the overly masculine male that permeates society.

You've never met some of my friends then, Andrea. Women can be real bitches when we want to be. So nice to hear you're finding your real self now. It's much more than the clothes that make the person.

Eileen

[Anne Bonny]

Having worked in Nursing for 20 years and involved in nursing through school prior to that I knew many strong women, some were very good leaders who I loved working for, but many were not. When women are not nice they tend to have a rather ruthless, cruel, and at times manipulative backstabbing viciousness that they can use to destroy any who cross their path - gives me shivers. Women tend to be catty and unforgiving when crossed where men can get angry with each other usually they come back and ease the tension and remain friendly, though some men can also roll over others in a sociopathic way. If you want to see the good the bad and the ugly in people Nursing is the place to be. It is so naive to believe people in the medical or the caring professions are wonderful, caring people with halos hovering over their head. Nurses eat their young they really do! There is competition for advancement, ambition for power and control and the environment is stressful beyond anything imagined because we have people's lives in our hands and not even the slightest mistake is not observed without blame being placed and punishment exacted. Medical legal issues make for mountains of paperwork to ensure everything is documented, then there are the layers of bureaucracy and the rivalry between professions Medical, nursing, and Management and all the smaller specialties. The medical field gives me the willies just thinking about it so I am very glad I do not need to go back to work, and if I ever did it would be only something where I was not involved in direct patient care. The hours are also horrendous - 12 hour shifts on the floors that begin and end at ungodly hours in the predawn hours and in highly stressful handovers with people giving reports and those coming on frantically taking notes and becoming more and more stressed as each patient they will be in charge of is gone over, even if your patient load is small or light you know that you will be the one having to accept the new admissions which can be high acuity, and very demanding in the amount of work involved to get them all settled. Women I think handle this stress better than men do, but then I never handled stress well. I can say that I was competent, that I worked hard, met or exceeded standards and got through my rather short 20 year career intact and am now very glad to be out of it --- and yes a few times I did get all dressed up in a proper nurses uniform with a cap and all the supplies in the pockets ready to hit the floor just to see what wearing a nurse's dress and hose would be like...I wish.... but today it's scrubs, or scrub pants and a colorful top that female nurses wear, in the Military we wore our battle dress uniforms with boots that were like tennis shoes - you know same uniform or fatigues all military wear when deployed and for the bulk of my career that is what we wore unless something special was going on then it was the dress uniform. I spent most of my career in the clinic as a diabetic educator, assistant nurse manager, internal medicine Nurse and loved it - never cared for in patient care for the reasons listed. I got the same pay with 8 hour days no weekends, and only 7 am to about 5pm much less stress and much nicer people. So those are my years in a woman's profession.