I understand of how sometime religious people will use their indoctrination to not be supportive of the trans life be it transvestites or transgendered people. Fine, believe what they were taught but a maybe for peace and decorum, keep it to themselves. Sure they can choose to be belligerent and antagonistic verbally to us. But when they often talk as if they know about the lifestyle we CDers have and enjoy in peace, as well as for TGers their choice to transition, I find it laughable but try not to be insulted, as we each choose to be insulted.
To read, see or hear their arrogant rhetoric is eye rolling for me in their ignorance. They have no idea about what drives us as persons to crossdress or for some to transition, but they surely know in their minds it's wrong and sick, it's not natural. What the Hell does natural mean?
For me from my earliest childhood thoughts to developing these as a teen, normal for me was to crossdress. I did not dress in girls clothes until I was about 12-13 and got into my moms stuff. Like many of us probably did, or if you had a big sister her stuff.
I did not fully understand it back at that age, but I knew it was apart of who I was, even if puberty at times made me confused and angry at such. As I became an adult I began to realize that crossdressing was NOT going to stop for me. As hard as it was to be at times, I just knew I had to go with it. If I tried to stop it, I'd be miserable (I tried many times especially when I was married and the misery was intolerable) or worse I'd likely commit suicide. I did not want to be miserable nor to commit suicide. My life as such has been always a stormy one of my love and need for being feminine and dressing girly to wishing I could stop.My crossdressing has advanced through they years from putting on clothes to now doing full makeup and wigs. I feel I kill it looks wise. I love seeing my femme side when all dolled up. The girl in me loves seeing Lacey and how she appears and acts, The male in me wants to date a girl like her and I would date her if that was possible.
It gets me back to those who are quick to cluck tongues and condemn us. They have opinions OUT of their butts but will tell you, me, us that they know better than our own minds and hearts, IT'S SICKENING! People in all your judgement, sometimes keep you opinions to yourself ok?
If a CDer or a TGer says they feel as such and are who they say they are as it's not a game to them, then dammit believe them. We all should have the right to pursue each of ours journey to happiness. But those who condemn and want us stop and to live for them as if they own our lives. These very people would likely not allow others to try to have them do so but with us they will twist us around and make demands on us to do so just for them. They are the ultimate selfish persons.
One does not have to like a CDer or a TGer, one can choose to not partake in said lives. But it may be their loss and IMO families and good friends should care enough for us to be happier in our lives and not have to feel the often crushing weight of disapproval. We harm nobody, we only try to find balance in our lives like most others do. For me it's crossdressing, for some other it may be transitioning. SO BE IT! Love your family, love your friends.
Right on!!
But scads of people are not over it. I think the reactions—fear, feeling threatened, hostility, jeering, wish to defame or attack, you name it—are only partly conscious, partly coming from a deeper, unexamined layer. I suggest a great people never get over that reaction. And the ones we hear from are only the vocal onces, probably by far the majority just silently seethe.