Building wardrobe and puzzled

[OliviaM]

Olivia now has 2 pair of kind of skinny jeans, leggings, tights, and pantyhose. 4 tops (not the sixties pop group, but I do like their music), a black skirt, red and black pumps, black boots, and a hairdo. While it felt amazing to buy, and trying on everything was great, today I was wondering how to keep everything hidden, when I will wear everything, and concerned about the money spent. I am not questioning my feminine side, just confused about how and when I will express it. As I mentioned before, I have no female friends to share with and no venue to meet them. Well, I did see that organization in the city and I think I have enough to wear in order to go there. I do still need a couple of dresses and make-up. I guess like everything else over the last 4 months It will be one day at a time.


Olivia

[Eileen (SO)]

Olivia, if there is a group meeting, you should go and introduce yourself. One of those members might live close to you! Remember that group meetings are for support, not a fashion show.

The meetings my husband goes to, some first timers dress as males to see what this is all about. their meetings has a place to change too.

Eileen

[Davita]

Hi Olivia,

When you said hide your stuff, who from? It will make a difference in your options.

As for spending too much, then the best way to handle that is either cash or a budget. Also, the pickier you are about buying the longer it takes to spend. Lastly, don't buy something, not like it an then think ti's not worth the return effort. If you spend less on gas going and coming than the item you're returning, then you you saved that bit. Also, returns just means shopping again with money you already spent.

Eileen is right; take advantage of a support group if you have one close and you like the folks. Also, they will help you get out into the public and work on your confidence.

Lastly, you said most of your friends are guys then you said something about not having a venue to meet up with them? Was that it? Girl. You don't have to change anything you have done with the guys except sharing the potty. Now I'm kinda sure that's not what you meant about a venue, you probably meant you aren't ready to come out to them?

[Ms. Erin]

Our society group has Sunday brunch and after brunch we all, or some, go to the thrift store as a group, and shop and give advise etc.

Look up if there is one in your area, attend a meeting and see from there.

[Kelly]

reading between the lines, I think you are expressing a frustration. A few years ago you took a big risk and confided in a colleague that turned out to be supportive. You probably knew she would have been supportive due to your prior interactions. Just guessing here.

Now you are in a different environment and hoping to recreate the circumstances. In time you probably will, but it will take time - perhaps a long time - to forge a friendship and cultivate a sincere level of trust. In the mean time the sense of frustration.

You can continue doing this; and you should, because it is part of your style. However other approaches may pay off as well. Do take the previously suggested advise and find a support group.

I just did an internet search on 'crossdressing support groups in rockaway ny' and got a ton of hits. Some aren't relevant, others have promise. So fire up bing or google and start a the vetting process and go make some new friends (just don't forget about us when you do!)

Kelly