Hi everyone Just joined

Dar · Post by **Dar** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 12:05 pm

Hello everyone,

I can't remember when I had the desire to wear women’s cloths but I remember trying on my wife's bras and panties along with some of her other cloths. With changes of late my wife and I got divorced. (not because of crossdressing, she doesn't know) I now have the ability to dress more frequently. Just wanted to say Hi to all, found the site while surfing. Started reading the posts as a guest and realized there are so many who feel as I do. Had to sign up and get in. I think it is a great place. Lots to say will have to wait for another time.

Post by **DonnaT** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 12:30 pm

to the forum Dar.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 12:30 pm

Hi Dar,
Sorry to hear about your domestic situation, I am in the same boat right now, so to speak. I think you will find our sisters here to be a great group and we look forward to your participating with us!
Virginia

Joanna_S · Post by **Joanna_S** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 2:55 pm

Hi Dar!

I´m sorry about your divorce too but I hope that being able to dress more makes you feel better. You´ve come to the right place and we are happy that you joined our forum. Keep posting!

Joanna

Dar · Post by **Dar** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 11:46 pm

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the lovely intros. Couldn't wait to get home from work to see if anyone posted and to read the postings. After the divorce was final and I moved out got an internet connection, a credit card in my name and a P.O. Box. Had a little money and decided to treat myself. Bought some underware a couple of bras, high heels and got the courage to order breast forms.

So much to read here, hope I can comment and add some info for others.

Dar · Post by **Dar** » Wed Jul 20, 2005 11:12 am

Hi Dolly,

Thanks for the info, I may start hunting around the auction sites after a while. As for looking for someone else, the divorce was only finalized a few months ago. There are still hurt feelings to deal with along with my Ex to deal with. We have had to talk more since the divorce than we did months leading to the end. During the proceedings, which took many months, I was still living at home. Advised by my lawyer to do so as long as I didn’t feel threatened. This put a big strain on my nerves and a lot of stress on me. I also had to watch everything I said to my teenage daughter. Some questions she asked I wondered where they came from. Also some things I said to my daughter thinking there would be no harm when my daughter told my wife just out of info I would be getting a phone call from her that it was a problem. So I plan to take a long time for me and my daughter before starting to date again. I haven’t got my “own” place yet. Moved in with a friend who had a spare room. Kinda worked out good he was looking for a roommate, and I needed a place to stay. We work different shifts so I get the place to myself for several hours and this is when I change into Dar.

Connie · Post by **Connie** » Wed Jul 20, 2005 10:31 pm

Welcome Dar!

I warm welcome from a "jersey girl".

Connie

Dar · Post by **Dar** » Fri Jul 22, 2005 12:10 am

Hi Connie and Dolly,

Connie

Thanks for the warm welcome. I would appreciate it if you could turn the heat down in Jersey a bit, I’ve been melting away slowly.

Dolly

I really don’t feel like I am between “the rock and the hard place” since the divorce was finalized and I moved out I feel like I got the strength to push the rock aside and continue on down the road, enjoying the sights and smells of the surroundings. I have had several good conversations with my daughter about the whole thing and explained to her that the reasons I didn’t tell her a lot while the proceedings were in progress was to try to protect her and not put her in the middle. I didn’t want to start a lot of my statements with “I’ll tell you this but don’t tell your mother”.

I don’t think we have met. I have been in Jersey most of my life. Things are freer now for me as I can make my own decisions. There are still some things I will ask for opinions on but I am only going to ask my daughter. For example after I moved out I decided I wanted to get additional ear piercing, I ask her for her opinion because she still needs to be seen in public with me. She said to me “Cool Dad” so the next day I went and had them done.

I assume this is not the place to be discussing a lot of my thoughts and feelings about my divorce but it does help to get some things out. I feel that a lot of things in life that affect you on a personal level go into shaping who you are, what you do, and how you treat others that you come in contact with.