Putting The Glass Down.

[Loretta Ann]

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A lecturer was giving a lecture to his students on stress
management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience,
"How heavy do you think this glass of water is?" The students'
answers ranged from 20g to 500gm.

"It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how
long you hold it.
If I hold it for a minute, it is OK.
If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance.

It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it,
the heavier it becomes."

If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will
not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly
heavier. What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for
a while before holding it up again.

We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be
refreshed and are able to carry on.

So before you return home from work tonight, put the burden of
work down. Don't carry it back home. You can pick it up
tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you are having now on your shoulders, let it
down for a moment if you can.

Pick it up again later when you have rested.

Rest and relax. Life is short, enjoy it!

~Author Unknown~

Cross dressing (for some) is a way of coping with stress. It is a method of Putting The Glass Down. To the degree that it serves that purpose it is healthy. To the degree that it causes stress ether with in ones self, or with in ones relationship it is not a healthy activity.

I think it might be interesting for us to share how this plays out in our individual lives?

[Virginia]

Hi Loretta,
I will take a shot at this. First, we all have crosses to bear, some more that others. I can only speak for myself and if that particular glass is something that I have or can garner control over, I will not only empty it out, but smash it on the ground, stomp the .... out of it and move on. Some glasses are like fine art and are very delicate and must be handled as such. Others, well we just have to deal with them - we learn to deal with them in our own ways. For me, training for competitive powerlifting events is my way out! However I must admit to being some what over whelmed recently with things that are going on in my life but as I have learned to trust Virginia in these situations, she comes through for me like I have come to expect - not the dressing up and going out so much as just her way of dealing with things - she is amazing! ( Sorry for the third person but it seems the best way to describe what she does for me!!)
Hope you don't try to psychoanalysis this too much, I have enough problems as it is .
Love,
Virginia

[Lynne]

Yes one needs to put the 'burden'(s) down, from time to time. imho, it's a matter of 'how' and maybe more important, recognizing what the components of the 'burden' are. Personally, openly recognizing and accepting "Lynne" laid down (for the most part) a significant part of the burden - a part that I wasn't really conciously aware of for a long time.
Not sure if this makes any sense, but it's helping me clarify things a bit.
Thanks for listening.....:-)
Hugz
Lynne

[Loretta Ann]

Hey Sis,

The psychoanalysis is your job. I hope you will one day be able to do that in a way that will enable you to clarify what you said in a way that I can understand what you mean. Or more importantly how it works for you.

And this is not meant to be a criticism, but an observation. I am unable to understand what you have written well enough to be able to decide if there is anything there that I can incorporate into my life.

But I am glad it works for you.

[Loretta Ann]

Yes one needs to put the 'burden'(s) down, from time to time. imho, it's a matter of 'how' and maybe more important, recognizing what the components of the 'burden' are. Personally, openly recognizing and accepting "Lynne" laid down (for the most part) a significant part of the burden - a part that I wasn't really conciously aware of for a long time.
Not sure if this makes any sense, but it's helping me clarify things a bit.
Thanks for listening.....:-)
Hugz
Lynne

Hi Lynne,

For me dressing to nines puts that burden down. It puts me in a different world for awhile, where there is no stress.

[Eva]

when i put on a skirt, things don't hurt.
eva

[Merinda]

when i put on a skirt, things don't hurt.
eva

One of the main reasons why I dress is to escape from my male self for a while and become the girl that carries no baggage.

The very first time I went out in public I felt like I had been re-born and all my male associated hang-ups were no longer relevant.