Gay or Not

[JoAnnDallas]

On one of my Nail Salon visits, I did have a GG that was sitting next to me, ask if I was Gay. I told her NO, I was TG. She just looked at me for a few moments and then went back chatting with me. I am sure all of the tech know I am NOT GAY, since they know I'm married and have meet the wife a few times, but I bet they know I'm TG. I am a old Vietnam vet and still understand the language some. Enough to spot certain words and phases and a few times I have heard the Vietnease word for CD spoken when I was in the Nail Salon.

[Merinda]

Many years ago there were those who thought I was gay because of my girly hair style and my long nails , that rumor was smashed when I had a relationship and eventually married.

A few months back I was joking around and put on a flamboyant gay voice as part of the joke , the work collegue was suprised at how good my impersonation was and came to a conclusion.
Flamboyant voice + shaved arms + long nails = dress in drag

There was no questions asked about sexual preference , he now believes that I'm a Hetro crossdresser so he's read me perfectly.

[JaneB (SO)]

Yes.

And I certainly wouldn't care unless it was my husband.

[Kyra]

I personally wouldn't think he was gay, but I agree with the general concensus. Most guys would automatically label him as such.

My initial reaction would probably be more along the lines of a knowing smile...afterall, why would I be in the nail salon too?

Hugs,
Kyra

[Jan W]

Coming from our perspective I would think/know TG.

From a straight perspective I would think gay as.

I have had many interactions with straight people who have been shocked to hear I am not gay. And I do mean shocked.

[Ann Stef]

Not so much gay, but a sissy anyways.

[MsJoann]

I couldn't help but to share my experience on this subject.
Usually, while at work at the shop, I have certain friends stop by to visit with me. One in particular is a retired forensic psychiatrist who happens to be a good friend.
Just the other day, a TG friend, Angie, stopped by with coffees. She has long hair in a pony tail, wore cargo capris and a vest, sandals with painted toes.
We had a nice visit until my other friend came in unexpectedly. Needless to say I could feel the tension. I saw Angie curling her toes so no one would notice. After an introduction we were all at ease and involved in conversation. Angie was the last to leave, I hugged her and kissed her as usual.
The very next day, I was visited again by my psych friend who proceeded to grill me about Angie. He noticed her clothing, hair and painted toenails. Granted she was not wearing makeup but just had that androgynous look. She was read right off the bat and was accused of being gay. Angie is not gay.
It only still proves to me that some people, though accepting, still assume that what they see is nothing more than a gay guy in a dress. I have other friends that think the same way...it's sad.
Someone said here that this is part immaturity. I believe it.

[ChristineK]

afterall, why would I be in the nail salon too?

Nice Point

Things are much better than they used to be. I still feel that if I was to present in town that I might get a beat down for "being different" here in the south it is still "The South"

Most people are accepting or would just prefer to ignore you but the home grown corn bread eating boys are not so quiet.

To answer the first post: I would think gay but not care. Who am I to judge, I'm all screwed up too.

[Carla L]

Not so much gay, but a sissy anyways.

I'd have to agree here.

Recently I went into a womens clothing store, dressed as man, looking for a new top. The clerk approached me and simply saying I was a crossdresser she assumed I was gay. I told her otherwise, though it occurred to me, "So what." I really didn't care what she thought.

[Carol Ann]

Carla L,

Wow I would have lost my cool if a sales person said that to me but it has never happened yet. You know it's none of their business if a person is gay or not, I am here to spend my money in your store. Now I will admit a lot of ladies smiled at me when they said " can I help you find something". I can handle that as they most likely know the cloths were for me. . There is a right and wrong way to treat a customer.

[Maria]

When I am out and about as Maria, I have never been questioned about my sexual orientation. I have shopped at a local bakery, discount stores, dined solo at a seafood restaurant, etc. without any problems from the merchants. I am simply another customer. If I had any problems, I wouln't return there again, and I would patronize other businesses that are friendlier to the customer.

Maria

[JoAnnDallas]

That day the GG asked me if I was Gay, I was in all boy mode. Guess she figured ionly a Gay man would get a

Pedicure
Toe nail polish
manicure
fill
nail polish
eyebrows waxed.

[PattiG]

IMO, those of us on these forums are a lot more aware of all the possible variations in people's sexuality and gender.

A lot of people don't even know what "bi" is and assume that anyone who has sex with the same is "gay". Likewise in gender preference, "gay" is a simple catchall for people who think anyone less than 100% hetro and 100% masculine must be "gay".

Just my thoughts.

Patti

[DonnaT]

IMO, those of us on these forums are a lot more aware of all the possible variations in people's sexuality and gender.

You'd thinks so, but from reading so many comments on sexuality and sexual orientation in a number of CD forums, it seems many don't have a clue

[PattiG]

IMO, those of us on these forums are a lot more aware of all the possible variations in people's sexuality and gender.

You'd thinks so, but from reading so many comments on sexuality and sexual orientation in a number of CD forums, it seems many don't have a clue

Donna,

I said "more aware". You are right, many don't have a clue, but we are probably more aware than the general population. At least some of us have a clue. ;-)

Patti