I don't understand why anyone would
want to wear those things either. At the end of the day those would be the
first things to come off
don't get me wrong, I love to wear high heels!

(I'm only 4'10'

) So, I usually wear some sort of a heel everyday. but not the ones over 5"... too hard to walk in all day and my feet hurt in them too. :x
and the pantyhose...UGH! to me they are so itchy, when I used to have to wear them for work (business attire) I couldn't wait to get home to get them off. In the summer, I usually try to get my legs tan, so that I can go without the pantyhose.
I do like to dress very feminine, I wear dresses and skirt often, I always did. I also do wear bustiers and garter belts, but only when we are being intimate

I couldn't wear those all day. But, now I'm finding the older I get the more comfortable (still being very feminine though) clothes is what I want to wear sometimes.
But that's just me.....and everyone is different
As for the clothing "exciting " my Dh. Well, we have been working on that one this past week. My Dh tries to reassure me all the time. I think that it will just take time and communication. Lately, for right now, it has been just us. No clothes involved, for either of us. Don't worry, only in our private/intimate time

Which has been just as, if not more passionate for both of us, since our new found closeness. We agreed to work the clothing in again slowly. I think that I went into overload the first time around. I think that it was all too much too soon for me. Well just have to keep working at it.
I would like to know how others have dealt with this also