updated news

[Penni SO]

Hi ya all,
It has been some time since I have posted here,in fact too long.
It now has been just under 3 years since Marie started transition...well 3 weeks ago she had her Gender Re-assignmnet Surgery..all has gone very well and she will be home this Friday.

Life is fantastic,our kids have adjusted extremely well and so too have their peers from School..many of those have been part of the whole transition process.
Our life together is fabulous and will continue to be so..we will have the same ups and downs as any couple...we are still very much in love and over the past 3 years I have over come many barriers...especially that of sex..however when you love someone as much as I love Marie..well lets say things come naturally and I hope they will continue to blossom.

We have had wonderful support from the childrens Schools,families in the Community etc..my family still struggle with the notion that I am still with Marie..but all I have asked them is too respect my decision..after all it is our lives,our children are happy well centred individuals and we live a clean and healthy life..what more do they expect for me..my mother continues to say she weeps for me.My Spinster Aunties in England have been a tower of support and that is despite the 1000's of miles apart..they have given their support through constant emails and phone calls while Marie has been away.

Marie's mother has been fabulous and very,very accepting..the rest of the family..well lets say they don't make contact and unless they have too.
But my new motto for life is control what you can and those things out of your control,well let them go...there is no point jumping on the pedestal to those family members who cannot and will not accept..one can only hope in time they may change..and if they do,well we will always be around to welcome them to our home....but for those family members who seem to have nothing but negative thoughts and attitudes,I am afraid we must hold them at arms length.
What we have is extremely special and it is going to stay that way..we have worked extremely hard and shed many tears through this journey,our life,our needs and desires have been truely tested..but I guess they have needed to be,so that we both made the right decision for our futures.

So now we head towards phase 2 of life and the journey,,for though Marie has had her op the journey has not ended.....we will continue to learn about each other,and she will continue to learn the nature of a woman...life is contsantly in motion and I am sure we will have tears and laughters to share......for the rest of our natural lives.

Hugs Penny

[Lucy Michelle]

Hi Penny, a great update and the best of luck to you and Marie.

[Gaven McLaren]

Yes thanks for the update. I am glad that you stayed and you have the support of at least some of the family. Please continue to post here.

[SilverLady(SO)]

Hi, Penni!

I was just going to write you, and here you are posting an update!!

I am so very happy that Marie has finally transitioned, and that you and the family have had the support needed. Family and friends that just cannot, or will not, accept that you have the right to live your life as is best for you, well, I keep them at a distance, too! No one needs negative people in their life, even if they are blood relatives . . . that has been my motto for many years now, and one that I will continue to live by until my last breath.

Big hugs to Marie, the kids, and yourself!!



Love ya!!

- SL

[Kay]

Penni, Marie and family
I wish you all many more happy years togther.
Love and hugs
Kay

[Kimberly Kael]

Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts on the journey. I'm very sorry to hear that there are still family members who refuse to look at things from your perspective. Love that goes deep as yours is a rare and wonderful things, and Marie is lucky to have someone as devoted and caring as you.

All the best!

[Stephanie W]

Penni, you are one in a million and I wish you and Marie all the happiness in the world. As you said, you've been through a lot together and my hope is that your families will someday come around. If not, as you said, you need to move onto the next phase of your lives, with or without them.

Take care and best of luck to you both.

Stephanie

[Virginia]

HI Penni,

Congratulations on this new stage in your life! I hope you will continue to visit with us and tell us how you are both doing in your "new lives."

We understand the stresses and strains that this can put on everyone involved and of course the happiness that it can bring as well.

We wish you good fortune and we look forward to your sharing this new phase of your "Magical Mystery Tour!"

Love,

Virginia

[Sylvia H]

Hey Penny!

You are still out there! Nice to hear from you.
You have to be about the most caring person Ive ever met on line. We should all be half as lucky as Marie to have you around.

As you say, deal with what you can and evryone else who roadblocks can just (&*^#

Never say die,

xox
Sylvia

[CJ]

Hi Penni,

Thanks for the update.

There's not much I can say here that won't sound contrived... but I'll say it anyway.

You have a heart of gold, you. And both you and Marie (as well as the kids) have shown those around you what it means to have courage and to hold fast to the things you believe in and to the people you love. Truly, you are "such stuff as dreams are made on."

May both you and Marie never forget that you each live also in the other's heart and, though your respective journeys may not be easy ones, they're each made easier by the other's love. Marie is truly fortunate to have you in her life.

As to tsk-tsking family members or friends, well, let them look to their own lives first. If they can give or receive even half the love you and Marie have for each other, they may--I did say, "may"--be in a position to see what keeps the two of you together. If not, they move in darkness.

But you! You keep to the light, Penni. This world needs a million more of you!

Again, thanks for the update. Stay in touch. I wish Marie a speedy recovery as you both feel your way into this new life.

Love,
CJ

[KimberlyS]

Penni, It was good to hear from you about how it is going for you, Marie, and your family. I wish you the continued best.

[Carolynn]

Hi Penny. Please convey my congratulations to Marie on her surgery. You are both to be congratulated on the way you have handled her transition with you kids and peers. I wish it was possible for more to have the same experience.

Carolynn

[Maria]

Congratulations to you and Marie on your journey together!

I think it's wonderful to have family members, friends, and many forum members who support this new chapter of Marie and Penny together.

Maria

[DonnaT]

Hi ya all,
It has been some time since I have posted here,in fact too long.
It now has been just under 3 years since Marie started transition...well 3 weeks ago she had her Gender Re-assignmnet Surgery..all has gone very well and she will be home this Friday.

Life is fantastic,our kids have adjusted extremely well and so too have their peers from School..many of those have been part of the whole transition process.
Our life together is fabulous and will continue to be so..we will have the same ups and downs as any couple...we are still very much in love and over the past 3 years I have over come many barriers...especially that of sex..however when you love someone as much as I love Marie..well lets say things come naturally and I hope they will continue to blossom.

That's fantastic Penni. Three years on . . . time sure flys doesn't it!?

It's such great news to hear y'all have survived this period in your lives together. I wish y'all continued happiness.

Give Marie my congratulations at a successful surgery, and best wishes for a speedy recovery.

[Absaroka]

Hi Penni,
Thanks for the update. I'm glad things are going well in a period of time that can be very challenging both personally and to your relationship. Keep it up, you are doing a great job of leading by example.

Absaroka