Hi From newbee DonnaV

DonnaV · Post by **DonnaV** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 6:45 pm

Hi From DonnaV. New to this site. Hoping to meet other cross dressers who are married and still in the closet. My SO does not knowe about my desires to dress. So hello to all you girls. Look forward to some nice chatting and helpful hints.

Amelie-Laveau · Post by **Amelie-Laveau** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 8:04 pm

I'm not married nor in the closet but I'll say hi to ya anyways,,,Hi. Welcome.

Diane B · Post by **Diane B** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 8:37 pm

Hi Donna V
I am in the same boat as you are only much older I think. My SO knows nothing of Diane so you see we are and will have to be very careful about things if you don't want her to know just yet..... Welcome here and feel free to look at all the interesting things in this forum. Diane B

Edyta_C · Post by **Edyta_C** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 9:05 pm

Welcome aboard! Be sure to read some of the threads about telling your SO before you think much about. One of the many cool resources the forum offers. Please make yourself at home!

Hugs Edyta

CharLee · Post by **CharLee** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 9:21 pm

Hi Donna and welcometo our fraturniy.

But a word of advice and caution. You being in the closet is one thing, not telling your SO is another. You are in for a world of hurt when she finds out. Not because you crossdress but because you kept that secret from her. She will feel betrayed and hurt that you didn't share that part of you with her. She is going to say to herself what other secrets is he keeping from me, so beware.
If your relationship is on solid ground it will be better that you tell her at some point soon or there will be no peace in your home.
Sorry to be so blunt but I speak from personal experience.
Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do.

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Mon Sep 15, 2008 10:02 pm

Hi, Donna, and welcome to the Forum . . . although I thought this was a sorority, I agree with the balance of CharLee's comments (above).

- SL

Kay · Post by **Kay** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 2:26 am

Hi Donna
Welcome to this wonderful forum from me across the pond

Kay

Frances Jewell · Post by **Frances Jewell** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 3:55 am

Hi Donna, I hope you enjoy yourself here.

Fran

Post by **DonnaT** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 5:54 am

Hi Donna,

to the forum.

CJ · Post by CJ » Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:08 am

Hi Donna,

Welcome to the forum!

Have fun exploring the site and making new friends.

Love,
CJ

Edyta_C · Post by **Edyta_C** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 10:23 am

Hi Donna. As others have said being in the closet can be like walking in a mine field. Please be sure to read some of the threads on this forum talking about this. I had quite a few rocky moments with my wife when I told her. Lucky for me, she decided to accept me as I am. This was very fortunate as some have had a not so good ending. The thing she was upset about the most was not telling her and the lies.

Please take advantage of the wonderful breadth of experience shared here with relationships, beauty tips, and plain good friendship.

Hugs Edyta

Marjory · Post by **Marjory** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 1:11 pm

Hi Donna, don't feel as though you're alone in this situation. I told my first wife before we were married... that lasted 7 years and then she decided she didn't like the XDing. I've stayed in the closet ever since.
Marjory

Post by **KimberlyS** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 3:47 pm

Hi and Welcome Donna. A spouse not knowing of your like to CD is always a mixed bag of worms and different for each of us. It was not easy or fun getting through the CDing issues there were between my wife and I. But in the long run it has made our marriage much better and stronger than it ever has been. My wife is now fairly tolerant of my CDing.

Again Welcome.

kimberlys-cd
joe in a skirt

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:10 pm

Hi Donna,

I'm pretty much where you are, although it suits me pretty well much of the time. My wife knows a little, I don't tell her more and I don't think she wants to know. Until a few years she knew most of it but then suddenly there was more to tell and I didn't. The two people I know f2f who know, and also know both of us, seem to think this is the way to go.

That's just for me, not suggesting it's right for anyone else or will even remain right for me.

Absaroka

DonnaV · Post by **DonnaV** » Tue Sep 16, 2008 8:44 pm

I want to thank all of you for the replies and advise. I have been thinking about bringing my dressing up to my SO and I guess the time will be soon. You advise has helped me move to a decision and we will see where the next steps will take me. Donna

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Thank all of you for you replies