Let the chips fall

How are you dealing with or handling this aspect of your life?

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Carol Ann
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Post by Carol Ann »

Well yesterday it happen Carol got busted big time, stupid me didn't lock the front door. [-X

So anyway I was in the kitchen fully dressed makeup and all making a cheesecake and I looked up and my son is standing there.

Now what are you going to do?, face the music I guess. Funny thing is all he did was laugh at me and say "I'm sorry".

So now I have to wait for the fallout and see if he tells his brothers, but all in all I am tired of hiding and it's time my kids know about their big bad father.

So I will wait and see and will keep all updated, Carol is tired of running and hiding. I am who I am!
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Post by Virginia »

First, hon, you have to keep that attitude! You have been who you are for quite some time anyway. You are Carol Ann and Carol Ann is you!!!

The thing that will present itself is what kind of kids you have. I would bet that they are like you as the adage goes, "the acorn does not fall far from the tree." Not that they are CD's but that they are accepting enough to at least listen and learn.

Just continue to be proud of who you are and the gift that you have. Of course the other aspect of support will be the wife as she has (can I use the word - condoned) Carol Ann so don't let them come down on her if it comes to that. You have to remain a team and support each other. I hope that it does not come to that. Just remember that we are here for you and hope that it all works out and hope you will keep us informed as this develops.

We love you!

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Post by Anita »

Hi Carol Ann--
Well, that is an awkward moment, for everyone concerned. You will have to be ready to "Meet the Press," if it comes to that. I would hope that you do get to talk about it, though. It's a hard situation, but I'd rather have some discussion about it myself, rather than silence. But whatever your preference, I hope things sort themselves out in a way that works for everyone.
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Post by CharLee »

Oh Carol,
What can I say. Sorry he had to find out in that manner but now that it is out in the open you won't have to hid it from him any longer. Now you have to explain to him ( and his brothers ) if it comes to that, that this is a part of you that you that you have been keeping from them all these years but no longer will deny.
If they have your compassion they will accept you no matter what way you are dressed ( male or female ). It may take a little time for them to adjust to the fact that this is a part of you so expect some bumps in the road. On the other hand they might just be fine with it. In any case I hope all works out well for you.
In the event there are any problems just remember we are all here to support you. :sorry: 8-[
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The world didn't end.

With your attitude, all will be OK.
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Post by Elizabeth »

Carol,

I have to believe that with the way you carry yourself and the attitude you promote, everything will be fine. You were lucky to go this long without getting caught. Good luck sis.

Love always,
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Post by Carol Ann »

Well so far no word from my son and he hasn't talked with his mother so I am just sitting here waiting and see what will happen. So Carol is again fully dress today and we will just wait and see, as I said I am tired of hiding from my family. Only time will tell :-k
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Post by Michelle Miller »

Ground him for life if he gives you any sass, girl. :mrgreen:
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Post by Leeza »

Sorry he had to find out that way but I am sure things will work out

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Post by Erin L »

Carol Ann, you didn't mention how old he is. That's definitely a factor.

I also think his initial reaction speaks volumes.
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Post by Kimberly Kael »

Warning: these thoughts come from someone without children, so they're just an attempt at common sense, not any kind of tried-and-tested advice.

Keep in mind that as awkward as it is for you, it's probably even more so for him. Doubtless he's not sure whether he should bring it up at all. After all, you're the one who knows what it means to you. He's completely in the dark. You might want to hint that you're happy to talk to him if he has any questions. Let him know you're not mortified at the thought of discussing it, but that you're fine if he just wants to pretend it never happened.

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Post by KimberlyS »

Well Carol go on the offensive. Call him up and tell him if he has any questions to ask. You are open to answering anything he asks.

I hope it goes well.
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Post by Virginia »

Oh, I saw your picture of what you were wearing! You look great!

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Post by Carol Ann »

Thank you sweetheart, even got a good comment on great looking legs. =D>

So far no word from my son but it no longer bothers me if he would walk in again and see Carol. [-(
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Post by Absaroka »

As I remember your son is grown. After conferring with your wife about this maybe in a few days bring it up if he doesn't, since I don't see how this is something that can be ignored. He might want to be reassured about how this impacts the grandkids among other things since they stay with you sometimes. But you and your wife are the experts on this family.

Hope it goes well.
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