Hi Carol Ann
You do get sick and tired of hiding all the time. Someone knocks on the door and you have to do a quick change. You answer the door and your guy shirt is on inside out and you have on one workboot and heel.
I'm sure your son is thinking right now about the situation. He'll get over it. You are a smart,funny and caring person and a good parent no matter what you have on. I'm sure he'll see that eventually. He has accepted you as a printer and that's half the battle Hon. Wish you the best Carol Ann. Big hug. You're too freakin' cute to dislike.
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Carol Ann...........I know what you mean. When we move here to Dallas in 2005 and my CDing blossomed, I could not stand it anymore. I said to myself, "To H...ll with it, I'm telling the wife and I'll suffer the problems if them come." So I sat down with my wife and told her. Yes, she was not happy about for a long time, but earlier this year she decided to accept my CDing. It could have went really bad for me, but it didn't.
I would sit down with your son and talk this throught with him. Sometimes people will keep quite but it will stew within them and can turn into resentment. Communications is the key to any situration like this. Find out how he feels about your CDing and then go from there.
I would sit down with your son and talk this throught with him. Sometimes people will keep quite but it will stew within them and can turn into resentment. Communications is the key to any situration like this. Find out how he feels about your CDing and then go from there.
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Best of luck Carol Ann.....whatever happens! On the one hand, the silence is probably defeaning, but on the other, I can see the "wait till he's ready to ask" route might feel like the way to go for now. Personally speaking, I would want to bring it up first if there is an opportune time to do so, because he could be stewing about it, not knowing what to do next, or feeling a sense of shame or even loss of what his Dad meant to him. All valid emotions. The key will be in how your wife deals with the inevitable fallout. As long as she's supportive to you (and there's no reason to think she wouldn't be) you'll do fine. As Virginia said, don't lose that "come what may" attitude but just be ready for anything!
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Well the answer came yesterday, I told my son he could use my deer blind for a day as I wasn't going out. So long story short he knocks down a deer and comes back for me to help him find it.
We spent all day looking and never did find it, so as he was really down in the dumps as we were walking back I ask him about the other day. He really didn't want to talk about it so I pushed him a little for some kind of answer.
I believe the only idea I can get is he is upset or just hasn't come to terms with it. I told him why do you think your mother always told you to call before you come over to the house, as she didn't want your wife or children to just pop in and see me dress as a women.
So all I can do now is wait and see but the cat is out of the bag and now Carol doesn't have to worry ( I think)
We spent all day looking and never did find it, so as he was really down in the dumps as we were walking back I ask him about the other day. He really didn't want to talk about it so I pushed him a little for some kind of answer.
I believe the only idea I can get is he is upset or just hasn't come to terms with it. I told him why do you think your mother always told you to call before you come over to the house, as she didn't want your wife or children to just pop in and see me dress as a women.
So all I can do now is wait and see but the cat is out of the bag and now Carol doesn't have to worry ( I think)
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Well now that he has seen both side of you, give him some time to digest what he saw and his feelings. If he sees that he can still rely on having his "Dad " help him with the things a father and son usually do then maybe in time he'll come to accept the fact that it doesn't matter that you dress as a woman around the house. As long as he knows that Dad will be there when he needs him.
Just keep the communication lines between you and him open and honest, and tell him that this is something YOU need to do for your peace of mind. And tell him that you will always love him, no matter how you are dressed, be it male or female.
My prayers are with you Carol, that in the end he will see that you are still his Dad ( even if you are in womens clothing ) and nothing can change that fact of life.
But in any event don't let this little mishap make you change your way of living. In time all things have a way of working themselves out.
Just keep the communication lines between you and him open and honest, and tell him that this is something YOU need to do for your peace of mind. And tell him that you will always love him, no matter how you are dressed, be it male or female.
My prayers are with you Carol, that in the end he will see that you are still his Dad ( even if you are in womens clothing ) and nothing can change that fact of life.
But in any event don't let this little mishap make you change your way of living. In time all things have a way of working themselves out.
