It's been on my mind abit, what if you could change the way you feel about crossdressing, would you want to?
Lets make it even easier. Lets say there was a pill the doctor could perscribe you and it could take all those crossdressing desires away so you wouldn't have a single desire to dress in female clothes, would you want to take it? Would GG's want their man to take it or would you be tempted to spike his drink with it?
I'll add my reply here an now, if the answer was in a pill form I would be interested. Why, I love dressing up when I'm allowed, but it has caused me no end of grief with my wife, so for that reason alone I would want to change!
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Interesting concept you pose. It assumes there is some intent to stop the dressing. In your case, to end the "grief" with your wife. And you have said you would take this magic pill.
I can't say what I would do since I am not in your position. But I presume if there was a SO who was deeply concerned, I would strongly consider it. Afterall my SO is the most important person in my life and I would want to make her happy.
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I can't say what I would do since I am not in your position. But I presume if there was a SO who was deeply concerned, I would strongly consider it. Afterall my SO is the most important person in my life and I would want to make her happy.
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Wow, what a question. Not being a CDer would certainly make my life less complicated. The time and money used in this "hobby", for me, are pretty extensive (it's an expensive/extensive hobby 
). The benefits are that I'm more calm when I'm dressed, I love being one of the girls with my GG friends, I love makeup, I'm more concerned with keeping weight off than my male friends. Glad I don't have to make this choice.
). The benefits are that I'm more calm when I'm dressed, I love being one of the girls with my GG friends, I love makeup, I'm more concerned with keeping weight off than my male friends. Glad I don't have to make this choice.-
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Hi all,
Provocative!! I might be tempted to take it due to the fact that my wife is non-accepting. On the other hand, crossdressing for me is a lot more than just the clothes. It's an expression of my inner life. I don't think I would want to obliterate a big part of my inner life. I want to expand my inner life rather narrow it. And crossdressing and the feelings associated with it ARE enriching.
Now, here's a thought. What if the same place that made the anti-crossdressing pill, also made one that would give me an hour-glass figure, narrower shoulders, more feminine face, etc. I think I might be interested in that one too--if it was reversable.
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Provocative!! I might be tempted to take it due to the fact that my wife is non-accepting. On the other hand, crossdressing for me is a lot more than just the clothes. It's an expression of my inner life. I don't think I would want to obliterate a big part of my inner life. I want to expand my inner life rather narrow it. And crossdressing and the feelings associated with it ARE enriching.
Now, here's a thought. What if the same place that made the anti-crossdressing pill, also made one that would give me an hour-glass figure, narrower shoulders, more feminine face, etc. I think I might be interested in that one too--if it was reversable.
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It's a tempting proposition, but, at least for now, I would say no. I use my crossdressing to maintain a certain balance in my life--without it, I can turn into something pretty unspeakable. 
It can be tempting, also, to take the top-level predators out of an ecosystem, but those who do so soon find out, much to their dismay, that they should have left well enough alone. :|
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It can be tempting, also, to take the top-level predators out of an ecosystem, but those who do so soon find out, much to their dismay, that they should have left well enough alone. :|
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Re: If You Could Change?
Hi Melissa,Melissa wrote:It's been on my mind abit, what if you could change the way you feel about crossdressing, would you want to?
Lets make it even easier. Lets say there was a pill the doctor could perscribe you and it could take all those crossdressing desires away so you wouldn't have a single desire to dress in female clothes, would you want to take it? Would GG's want their man to take it or would you be tempted to spike his drink with it?
I'll add my reply here an now, if the answer was in a pill form I would be interested. Why, I love dressing up when I'm allowed, but it has caused me no end of grief with my wife, so for that reason alone I would want to change!
No I wouldn't take it.
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Re: If You Could Change?
Good thread Melissa.
NO WAY!!!! And lose out on all this fun?? Its a gift and why would I want to give it back?Melissa wrote:Lets say there was a pill the doctor could perscribe you and it could take all those crossdressing desires away so you wouldn't have a single desire to dress in female clothes, would you want to take it?
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I agree this is a tough choice. On the one hand, it would be nice to be fully accepted by all of our friends and loved ones. On the other hand, it would be like cutting off an arm or a leg.
I'd have to vote no.
The flip side of this question would be, what if you could make the rest of the world change, so that there was complete acceptance and you were free to crossdress in public, at work, etc. with no negative consequences.
I'd go for that.
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I'd have to vote no.
The flip side of this question would be, what if you could make the rest of the world change, so that there was complete acceptance and you were free to crossdress in public, at work, etc. with no negative consequences.
I'd go for that.
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Hi all,
Well! I seem to be the only taker, here. So I'll qualify my answer by giving a reason for my choice.
It's not freedom from crossdressing that appeals to me; it's freedom from the compulsion to crossdress. There's a difference, I think. Most everything I do in my life is freely chosen... my job, my choice of partners, my apartment, my lifestyle, my interests and hobbies, my friendships (and other sundry associations), my living conditions. The one exception is dressing like a woman. It's something I must do, or else go stark raving mad! (And, trust me, I know; in the past, I've been close enough to taste it!)
I do believe that the person I am, or have become, is largely due to the feminine traits rooted deeply in my psyche. I think I'm a good person and I love who I am. That, I wouldn't change--even at gunpoint. However, the fact that I tend to become a bit of a sullen ogre if I go too long without a metamorphosis into the woman within irks me no end. This compulsion (or addiction, in Ridge's terms) robs me of my freedom. It boils down to a matter of control. "Captain of my fate"? I don't think so. Whenever I try to encourage someone to empower themselves, to seize the reins of their own destiny, an alarm bell, a very discordant note, sounds in my brain. How can I truly believe this if I can't even master my own impulses?
Crossdressing is a very pleasant activity, for a variety of reasons we're all familiar with. In fact, crossdressing can be the summum of pleasures. Yet, I don't think I can, in all conscience, let that pleasure overshadow the fact that this is something I do out of necessity rather than volition. In the end, I'm okay with that if I keep this in mind.
I love and accept who I am just as I love and accept what I do. Still, I'd feel better prepared to take responsibility for what I do if I had a choice in the matter.
I'd take the pill to see what it felt like to live a stretch of my life without being subjected to the need to crossdress. Knowing myself as I do, and being the experience junkie that I am, I figure I'd probably try crossdressing anyway. However, I'd hedge my bet by securing access to a pill that would return things to normal (normal: now there's irony for you!
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Love,
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Well! I seem to be the only taker, here. So I'll qualify my answer by giving a reason for my choice.
It's not freedom from crossdressing that appeals to me; it's freedom from the compulsion to crossdress. There's a difference, I think. Most everything I do in my life is freely chosen... my job, my choice of partners, my apartment, my lifestyle, my interests and hobbies, my friendships (and other sundry associations), my living conditions. The one exception is dressing like a woman. It's something I must do, or else go stark raving mad! (And, trust me, I know; in the past, I've been close enough to taste it!)
I do believe that the person I am, or have become, is largely due to the feminine traits rooted deeply in my psyche. I think I'm a good person and I love who I am. That, I wouldn't change--even at gunpoint. However, the fact that I tend to become a bit of a sullen ogre if I go too long without a metamorphosis into the woman within irks me no end. This compulsion (or addiction, in Ridge's terms) robs me of my freedom. It boils down to a matter of control. "Captain of my fate"? I don't think so. Whenever I try to encourage someone to empower themselves, to seize the reins of their own destiny, an alarm bell, a very discordant note, sounds in my brain. How can I truly believe this if I can't even master my own impulses?
Crossdressing is a very pleasant activity, for a variety of reasons we're all familiar with. In fact, crossdressing can be the summum of pleasures. Yet, I don't think I can, in all conscience, let that pleasure overshadow the fact that this is something I do out of necessity rather than volition. In the end, I'm okay with that if I keep this in mind.
I love and accept who I am just as I love and accept what I do. Still, I'd feel better prepared to take responsibility for what I do if I had a choice in the matter.
I'd take the pill to see what it felt like to live a stretch of my life without being subjected to the need to crossdress. Knowing myself as I do, and being the experience junkie that I am, I figure I'd probably try crossdressing anyway. However, I'd hedge my bet by securing access to a pill that would return things to normal (normal: now there's irony for you!
).Love,
CJ
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I heard my name so I thought I would add a twist to this "Would I if I could" discussion.
Many posted answers about CDing bringing out their femininity. Many posted they would not take this pill while others qualified their answer. So far so good. Thought I would add an interesting twist.
As some of you know, I have a brain tumor that has screwed up my hormones. So I now have very soft skin, a vastly reduced beard, a nice butt, ride an emotional rollercoaster and have grown a pair of 42B breasts. None of these are noticable to John Q. PUblic, although the boobs are starting to pose a problem. The question is:
If you could take a pill to give you these same physical female traits, kowing they are permament, knowing they add to your femininity but also knowing you could also hide these traits from the public for the most part, would you take the pill? Why or why not?
Ridge
Many posted answers about CDing bringing out their femininity. Many posted they would not take this pill while others qualified their answer. So far so good. Thought I would add an interesting twist.
As some of you know, I have a brain tumor that has screwed up my hormones. So I now have very soft skin, a vastly reduced beard, a nice butt, ride an emotional rollercoaster and have grown a pair of 42B breasts. None of these are noticable to John Q. PUblic, although the boobs are starting to pose a problem. The question is:
If you could take a pill to give you these same physical female traits, kowing they are permament, knowing they add to your femininity but also knowing you could also hide these traits from the public for the most part, would you take the pill? Why or why not?
Ridge
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Hi all,
Ridge,
What you describe is essentially akin to taking hormones. I don't think I would take that pill because, as far as I know myself now, my aim is to become more feminine rather than more female. Especially if the effects are irreversible!
What are your own thoughts, though, Ridge? Not to take your situation lightly but, if some treatment were available that would reverse the effects of your brain tumour, would you follow it? In other words, do you consider yourself a transgendered person or, rather, one who has been "transsexualized" by your illness?
CJ
Ridge,
What you describe is essentially akin to taking hormones. I don't think I would take that pill because, as far as I know myself now, my aim is to become more feminine rather than more female. Especially if the effects are irreversible!
What are your own thoughts, though, Ridge? Not to take your situation lightly but, if some treatment were available that would reverse the effects of your brain tumour, would you follow it? In other words, do you consider yourself a transgendered person or, rather, one who has been "transsexualized" by your illness?
CJ
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CJ
I crossdressed well before the tumor, more so a long time ago. I agree that the tumor has effectively done to me what many TSs want. You talked about choice before. This was not my choice. But is it my choice now?
As far as taking the pill to reverse the effects, that gets tricky. The hormones affect the mind as well as the body. In a way my mind is trying to reconcile itself with my body. So as a GG would not voluntarily remove her breasts, I am drawn in that direction since they are mine. But my mind also knows that I am a male and that these traits don't reconcile with "manly" traits.
One irony of this process is that I take testosterone since my level was driven into the range of a female. The best way to grow breasts in a male is to take testosterone!. The male body converts it to estogen, and voila the resulting feminization. There are drugs to counter this, but my DR. didn't prescribe them and it's too late now - surgery is the only answer.
So maybe you can tell me what I am. I really don't know.
Ridge
I crossdressed well before the tumor, more so a long time ago. I agree that the tumor has effectively done to me what many TSs want. You talked about choice before. This was not my choice. But is it my choice now?
As far as taking the pill to reverse the effects, that gets tricky. The hormones affect the mind as well as the body. In a way my mind is trying to reconcile itself with my body. So as a GG would not voluntarily remove her breasts, I am drawn in that direction since they are mine. But my mind also knows that I am a male and that these traits don't reconcile with "manly" traits.
One irony of this process is that I take testosterone since my level was driven into the range of a female. The best way to grow breasts in a male is to take testosterone!. The male body converts it to estogen, and voila the resulting feminization. There are drugs to counter this, but my DR. didn't prescribe them and it's too late now - surgery is the only answer.
So maybe you can tell me what I am. I really don't know.
Ridge