sissies

Billie Earls · Post by **Billie Earls** » Fri Dec 05, 2008 10:03 am

growing up in the 50's being called a sissy was fighting words but now it seems to be a word that most if not all of us would call ourselves. I like to think of myself when dressed in my lingerie but do not feel that way when in my male clothes.
I feel like I'm two different people at times and can look at a situation differently depending how I am dressed. I even look at people in a different light
While growing up, even after I started dressing I never thought of myself as a sissy but I always felt sorry for those who were being accused of being one. I remember seeing many children being bullied by usually older kids and wished that I could do some thing for them. At the time I didn't have the knowledge or maybe the guts to stick up for them, or help them in some way.
I know that by reading other messages that many of us started young but did you have the same feelings that I had?

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Fri Dec 05, 2008 2:41 pm

I'd like to think I'm the same person, en'femme or en'drab, but I've often found that I'm a lot nicer and more polite whilst en'femme.

I think a lot of my duality comes not from 'acting all girly' and such, it's more of a showing off and acting butch thing, eg. 'the type you'd never catch in a dress' around people 'not in the know about Michelle'.

Billie Earls · Post by **Billie Earls** » Fri Dec 05, 2008 3:26 pm

Its not that I act differently when I'm dressed one way or the other, I don't feel that what is between our legs or not there that makes us butch or girly but what is inside us. Maybe because I have not been able to express myself to others before I found this site, I have separated my feeling based on how I'm dressed.
I have had only one person know that I dress in lingerie and that person wasn't really interested in it. I think this has contributed to my duality but at my time of life I can't be telling my wife because it would hurt her and probably result in a divorce which I don't want.
I consider terms like homo, fag and queer very depressing and hurtful to any one who is addressed that way. Being called a sissy, or crossdresser a better term and one that I do think of myself as. Now I know there are straight, gay and bi crossdressers but we all do it for our own reasons and that is okay because each of us must live our own lives by our own standards.
It just nice to know that we aren't alone in the world and that there is a place to vent our feelings.

Post by **DonnaT** » Fri Dec 05, 2008 3:38 pm

I don't think most of us use the term "sissy", nor do I think the terms "sissy" and "crossdresser" are synonymous.

DeeDee · Post by **DeeDee** » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:04 pm

Being small as a child, I was often called a "sissy", kids tend to pick on those they consider weaker than them for peer acceptance. I was 111 lbs when I was drafted and some in basic training said I would never survive flight school...for me, that just makes me lock my heels and do the best I can. Now, after a combat tour with a DFC and many air medals (some for valor)...am I a sissy or just someone living my life as I am so happy with? Yeah, I know some like the "sissy" idea for sexual (or whatever) reasons. Nothing wrong with that, but I'm T and proud of it. Those childhood slurs did hurt at the time, but just hardened me. Yeah, I wear dresses, but its as a woman, not a sissy.
Hugs
DeeDee

Jeannie · Post by **Jeannie** » Fri Dec 05, 2008 8:53 pm

Hi Dee Dee
I was a bruiser compared to you when I joined the Coast Guard Reserves at my fighting weight of 118. I know most people don't take us smaller humans seriously but we get the last laugh.
What do you always see Dee Dee? Little old men and women. When is last time you saw a 6'6" 280 pound,95 year old man? I don't think so! It's not in the cards Hon.They are like big dogs. They live about 10 years and it's the nasty little Chihuahua who lives until he's 19.
It's called natural selection Hon. Maybe I'll be at a stop light in Florida in my cap and Oldsmobile next to you someday. Wouldn't that be fun! Hugs.

Love
Auntie Jeannie

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Fri Dec 05, 2008 9:34 pm

I thought I was the same person when I was dressed other than a slight effort to be fem. I had friends and family tell me that I am a different person and a lot better to be around when in fem.

Leeza

Erin L · Post by **Erin L** » Sat Dec 06, 2008 9:34 am

DonnaT wrote:I don't think most of us use the term "sissy", nor do I think the terms "sissy" and "crossdresser" are synonymous.

I agree. To me, "sissy" has always been a demeaning word, in a way that "tomboy" never was. Then again, that's consistent with societal attitudes that have always tolerated masculinity in women more than femininity in men.

Anne · Post by **Anne** » Sat Dec 06, 2008 9:54 am

I'm in Erin & Donna's camp.

I dislike it when they use the word in eBay auctions of cute things.

Anne

Billie Earls · Post by **Billie Earls** » Sat Dec 06, 2008 11:47 am

Labels have a different meaning to each of us. Some like sissy is a negative especially if as a child you were called that and it hurt you. You can't change how you feel about any type of label Each of us thinks a little different and prefer different names according to how we feel.
I take being called a sissy because that is how I feel, maybe because of how I rejected the inner femme feelings I have always had. This is not a show of weakness alter ego but a show of my becoming, or allowing myself to become this other person. Even though this new person will not be known to my family it will be out there to those whom I choose to let see her.

EmilyN · Post by **EmilyN** » Sat Dec 06, 2008 4:54 pm

sorry, i'm no sissy. that's a state of mind and attitude that connotes submissive behavior to a better, and it carries a lot of sexual innuendo too. from the real world's perspective i'm a crossdresser or transvestite. what i really am is a man with a woman inside who finds expression through outward changes vis a vis the mirror....that done she can go about her day feeling whole.

CherryLynn · Post by **CherryLynn** » Sun Dec 07, 2008 6:05 am

I was called sissy alot in High School, wasn't much into sports and wasn't very good at them- never really fit in. I didn't have much luck with girls- they tended to go after the Jocks. I really don't know why it happaned but I came to love wearing women's and clothing and putting on makeup. The dual personality things I'm not sure about- just know that being feminine is so right for me.

Johanna · Post by **Johanna** » Sun Dec 07, 2008 9:48 am

All men have a feminine side and we are just more in touch with ours. I have to be strong all day at work and enjoy being a sissie at night. I don't see anythinng wrong with letting you inner woman show- particularly when you look fabulous.

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Sun Dec 07, 2008 1:36 pm

growing up in the 50's being called a sissy was fighting words but now it seems to be a word that most if not all of us would call ourselves.

Speaking for myself, I don't feel that what I'm doing is going to help reclaim the word "sissy." I certainly don't think of myself that way, and I see that I don't feel it would be positive to be called one. But I have changed other attitudes I had about what we do, and I can see that some on here have a different outlook on it.

It is interesting to see the word appear here, and I'm still remembering all the energy I put into being a "real" boy, so that I'd never hear that word applied to me.

Billie Earls · Post by **Billie Earls** » Sun Dec 07, 2008 4:30 pm

Being called a sissy is a term I use for myself and is not for any one else. We each have an idea of what we are and call ourselves by that idea. Now what others call us doesn't fit into how we feel about ourselves. The term sissy is one that I use for me and would not impose it any one else. Its like looking in a mirror and seeing a person that is passing as a girl, but when we get out into the world others see a man dressed funny. Yes I believe most people today would stare and maybe whisper to one another but then would go about their own business.
I have no desire to go out in public dressed as a woman but do under dress at times, and at this point in my life that is enough for me. As I have said before I'm alone in this and except for this forum nobody else is going to know.
We as a group must accept the differences in each other and support those differences. We can't expect the outside world to accept us if we can't accept each other.

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