Crossdressing dreams

[Jessica North]

Hi Ladies,

I have often heard that dreams may be manifestations of our own subconscious... wishes, fears, etc.

What surprises me is the fact that I rarely ever dream about being dressed. It has happened a few times. In comparison, I don't believe that there has been a day-gone-by that I have not consciously thought about dressing. Some days it can almost consume me!

I must admit that I don't think that I actually dream frequently, or maybe I dream but simply don't remember when I wake up.

Still, when I consider how much I think about dressing in my conscious life, it seems like the amount of crossdressing dreams I have is remarkably low.

I am curious if any of you ladies have the same experience with your CD dreaming frequency.

Hugs,
Jessica

[DonnaT]

I very rarely remember my dreams, and very few of them are ever about CDing. Heck, my wife has dreamed more about it than me.

[Kimberly Kael]

It's odd because while the word "dream" conjures visions of wish fulfillment, but that's just not often what I experience when asleep. I find that my dreams tend to express my anxieties more often than things I'd be elated about. Even stranger, they don't have to be current anxieties just things I have worried about at some point in my life: a front door that wouldn't latch properly. Missing an important appointment I didn't know about. Showing up at a job and not knowing what I should do. That sort of thing.

So when my dreams involve crossdressing? It's usually something like me forgetting that I'm going to work and showing up fully dressed. Not removing my makeup before going to see someone who doesn't know about my TG nature. Running into someone I know when I'm out for dinner as Kimberly. Still, these kinds of dreams are rare because while they're realistic concerns they don't feel like something that is out of my control. Ultimately, I've decided to express who I am and that relieves much more anxiety than it creates.

[Erin L]

I agree with you completely, Kimberly. Almost all my dreams (at least the ones I remember) have to do with anxieties of some sort (I still remember one I had about 30 years ago - I dreamed that someone walked up to me, shoved a pistol into my stomach and pulled the trigger; I woke up just as the gun went off. I was soaked with sweat and breathing hard, too terrified to go back to sleep). I, too, have occasionally had dreams about being dressed (usually only partly dressed - say, wearing nothing but a pair of pantyhose in the office) but they are always anxious dreams.

[Lucy Michelle]

I can't recall any recently but when I do they tend to reflect a fear or neuroses over being out or my appearance.

[Carol Ann]

I guess I'm the crazy one as I dream all the time about being back on the job and nothing but problems. I believe my old work mates are haunting me for retiring and never really saying goodbye after 23 years together.

Now I have dreamed about my dressing as a teenager and being down town and trying to hide from everyone but no one seems to seen me .

[Stephenie G]

the other night i had my first crossdresser dream ( atleast part of one that i remember).I came home (not sure wear from) to find my son wearing a pair of my high heeled boot's around house , i tell him to take them off & not to wear my boots again & prcoceed to put them back in my closet when wife comes home askes whats all the commotion, nothing to worry about then i wake up . wonder if this dream has any meaning or just a silly fragmated dream . Stephenie G

[Absaroka]

Since normal people dream several times every night odds are we may dream about it but don't remember it.

Every now and then I have a cding dream. When I was younger they were often very erotic dreams. Nowadays they mostly involve me sitting around with people I know in my waking life, but I am dressed. Usually in the dream I wish to go change into male clothes so that I will feel more comfortable. As if my clothing is a barrier. In the dream I usually am having a realization that this whole cding thing is blown out of proportion for me, that it is something I do, not what I am.

In waking life a secret is a barrier but there is also the fact that doing things that make other people uncomfortable (which I am really good at doing) is also a barrier. So there is a barrier either way.

Absaroka

[Robyn Katie]

Wow Absaroka you raised a really interesting point: that CDing is "something I do, not something I am."

Strangely enough, I would put it almost oppositely: it's something I am. And because I am it, I want to dress in response to it. But even if I never dressed, I would still be it -- at what feels like a deeper level.

As I type this I get a prickle as if there is really a big mystery there. And I probably haven't said it very well. But this is the feeling I get.

Sorry if this is thread creep, and I'm sure it's a topic all in itself. But what a topic!

Love, Robyn Katie

[Absaroka]

Robin you are very right and it's a great topic.

While I say it's what I do and not what I am, we are to some extent our actions. If we act kindly towards people we are a kind person, if we steal from people we become a thief. As the saying goes, "it is easier to act your way to right thinking than to think your way to right actions" So yes although I say it is what I do and not what I am, it is indeed what I am.

I guess what I trying to say is that it is merely one aspect of me, and not one of the more defining ones despite the fact that society would perhaps like to make it the most important thing about me.

Absaroka

[Cheryl J]

Until I started taking cholesterol lowerers and Beta-blockers I didn't recall many dreams. Since then, I recall nearly all my dreams clearly.
I don't know why or if there's a medical connection. Now, if I have dreams of me in a dress or caught in undies and similar situations I recall them on wakening. It's great! They're never bad dreams. I don't know if I had more or less dreams earlier and didn't recall but who cares - now I do.

Yvonne

[Anne-Marie]

For me daydreams only but never real ones as cd even when sleeping in nighties with full makeup.