I'm thinking of ordering some stuff online

Amy Santos · Post by **Amy Santos** » Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:14 pm

A wig and some breast forms. But the problem is when ever I order something online, my parents tend to open it up to see what's inside. My parents are already aware of my corssdressing, but it's not something we discuss openly due to the ackwardness and what not. I was considering asking a male friend if I can order some stuff online and send it to his house so I can pick it up. He said it was alright, but I wasn't really specific about what I was going to order. He lives with his brother and I don't really think either of them would open my packages without my permission, but you can never be too sure.

So I have two options, I can have the package sent to my house because there's still a chance I can get to it before my parents does. And even if they do open it, it's not like they'll withold my things for me, it would just make for a very ackward conversation. The other option is to have it sent to my friends house, which wouldn't be that bad as long as he and his brother doesn't open it. I think I might be able to tell my friend upfront what I'm buying and make up some excuses, that way he can keep his brother from opening it and asking too many questions. But then again that might end up as an akward conversation as well. So ladies, which of the two options do you think would be the best thing to do?

Post by **DonnaT** » Wed Dec 17, 2008 3:55 pm

I would hope your friends would not open any packages addressed to you. That's would be so wrong. Same for your parents, but it sounds like you already know they will.

So I go with the friends. Tell them they are presents for your family who you are trying to keep from seeing them.

Explain how you find such snooping by your folks to be quite distrustful. I think they'd get the idea that it wouldn't be cool for them to snoop.

Amy Santos · Post by **Amy Santos** » Wed Dec 17, 2008 4:37 pm

Wow Donna, that's an excellent idea about the presents. I never would have thought of that.

And it's not that my friend is nosey or anything, I'm just worried that he might decide it's easier to bring my stuff to me if he took it out of the box or something like that. But yeah I trust him. As for my parents, I think it's mostly my mom that opens my stuff. I guess she just wants to know just what I'm spending so much money on. Plus I think she still has this strange paranoia that I might be doing drugs, which I've never done and have never given her a reason to think I've done, so she doesn't want any packages coming into the house unless she knows exactly what's inside.

I guess it's time to try to talk to her about it next time she opens my stuff. Thanks.

Azurielle · Post by **Azurielle** » Wed Dec 17, 2008 9:06 pm

My mother also raided my room trying to find drugs and found my array of nightgowns. Now THAT was an awkward conversation. I say just get it shipped to your place, once they know the reaction is usually quite passive.

Erin L · Post by **Erin L** » Wed Dec 17, 2008 9:54 pm

There is another option, depending on what you want to spend. If you have a Mailboxes, Etc near you, rent a box there and ship to your heart's content. I did that a couple of years ago. It was a block away from my office and real convenient. I carry a large briefcase, so bringing items into the house usually wasn't a problem. The only problem was that you had to take it for a minimum of 3 months, and at the time that ran me about $140. It's probably more, now.

A regular P.O. box is no good, because UPS and Fedex won't deliver to P.O. boxes. But with Mailboxes, Etc, you have a regular street address and a number (but it doesn't say "P.O. Box").

If you have a private mailbox service near you, this can be a really good solution.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 9:07 am

You can ask them to deliver it to the local UPS store and they will accept delivery for you. They will want ID and charge about $5 for a one time thing.

Also many stores will deliver to the store and then you just go pick stuff up at the store.

All this of course involves using a credit card. If you are using your parents credit card they will probably question the purchase.

Absaroka

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 9:44 am

Amy I say have it sent to your house and if it opened have a conversation with your mother regarding an intrusion into your privacy. Ask her if you open her mail or packages? She should give you them same respect that you give her. Also if you have enough order something for her and play the guilt card if she opens it. By saying I bought X for you and it was going to be a surprise but being that you opened my mail you have ruined the surprise. sometimes you need to remind your parents that you are not a young child. Try not yell and be calm when you talk to her. It should have the effect you want of her staying out of your mail.

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 11:51 am

Amy

Can't you rent a PO box or something?

I am sure there must be places like that by you.

Good luck.

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 12:25 pm

Package up a voodoo doll, a t-shirt that says "I taught your boyfriend that thing you like', a giant purple vibrating dildo and a happy birthday 'mom' card. Ship it to yourself, with a note in it that reads "I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't open packages that are addressed to me anymore."

See what she says then.

Erin L · Post by **Erin L** » Thu Dec 18, 2008 11:22 pm

Michelle - I LOVE your posts!!

MsJoann · Post by **MsJoann** » Fri Dec 19, 2008 12:06 pm

I've had a PO box for quite some time, due to the fact that I didn't want anything that resembeled Victorias Secret being shipped to my office where my mother would see it. The PO box worked fine but was a hassle ($68.00 per 6 months), and the trip to the post office took time etc.
Mom is no longer here, so I have everything delivered here now.... except the mailman has a clue when he sees the wig catalogs and not to mention all the mailers from VS.
In my opinion, overall, it would be better to just tell your folks that you are ordering clothing. What type? Let them guess.
Sneaking around is not good as I've done that with my GF for years regarding my clothes. She still hates it but I don't care....it's my life.
Best wishes!

TashaM · Post by **TashaM** » Mon Dec 22, 2008 12:19 am

Michelle, I too love that post of yours. While I am lucky that my parents do not open my mail, I'm still wondering where I am going to keep a nice poofy lace adorned dress when it arrives. Since my parents do not know about my crossdressing yet.

But yes, I think given the situation, if I was in your shoes I would likely try and have it shipped to a friends place.