Does your partner help you crossdress

Sandra Jane · Post by **Sandra Jane** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 9:24 am

My partner does not like me to crossdress but she buys me panties sometimes and lets me wear mascara.
Thats as far as it goes.
Does your partner help you crossdress.

Lydia · Post by **Lydia** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 9:51 am

Good question, Sandra.

My SO (Paula) does not physically help me dress, but she sure encourages it. She comments on my choice of colors and combinations; she buys me pretties - like a sexy baby doll nightie for Valentine's Day; she really makes this old geezer feel like a lady. I am a very lucky CDer.

May all spouses, SOs, GF, etc. be this understanding.

Hugs,

Lydia

Sandra Jane · Post by **Sandra Jane** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 9:54 am

Lydia wrote:Good question, Sandra.

My SO (Paula) does not physically help me dress, but she sure encourages it. She comments on my choice of colors and combinations; she buys me pretties - like a sexy baby doll nightie for Valentine's Day; she really makes this old geezer feel like a lady. I am a very lucky CDer.

May all spouses, SOs, GF, etc. be this understanding.

Hugs,

Lydia

Oh Lydia you are so lucky

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 10:34 am

She'll buy me things to wear, like nighties or jewelry. She took me out to get my ears pierced a few years ago. And she took me to get fitted for the wig in my avatar.

33 yrs ago she shaved my legs, gave me my first wig and let me wear some of her clothes, which became mine.

CJ · Post by CJ » Mon Mar 16, 2009 3:05 pm

Hi all,

Good question.

Heh. Roxanne, my SO, is very style-conscious so, if by "helping me crossdress," you mean "nixing frumpy duds" or "vetoing sluttish garb," then, yes, she helps me crossdress. Other than that, no, she doesn't participate (but doesn't really mind if I walk around the place with my toenails painted while I wear heels and hemlines higher than hers).

Hey, as long as dinner's ready on time, she's all right.

Love,
CJ

JoAnnDallas · Post by **JoAnnDallas** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 7:30 pm

Since my wife accepted me as a CDer last year, she has helped me with my clothing, heels, underwear, makeup, voice, and presentation. This last year has been the best yet.

Diannna · Post by **Diannna** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 7:46 pm

My s/o isn't right in the room with me when I dress, but yes, she does buy me some lingerie at times and make up and some jewlery. She will also advise me if I have on the wrong combination of clothes and will even let me ask her for her opinion on my stuff. It really is a great thing.

Erin L · Post by **Erin L** » Mon Mar 16, 2009 9:56 pm

JoAnnDallas wrote:Since my wife accepted me as a CDer last year, she has helped me with my clothing, heels, underwear, makeup, voice, and presentation. This last year has been the best yet.

JoAnn, I'm sure you've posted elsewhere about this, and if so, please forgive me. But I have to ask (because I'm beginning to give this serious consideration)...how did you broach the subject with her? I know you're in my general age range, and I'm assuming you've been married for quite a long time, as I have. How were you able to tell her and not have her feel like you'd been keeping a secret from her all those years?

JoAnnDallas · Post by **JoAnnDallas** » Tue Mar 17, 2009 8:12 am

Erin....
Back in 2005 I got a bad case of Pink Fog. At the time my wife was still in WV and I was living with my sister here in Dallas. When she came to Dallas and we got our own house, I had to tell her. She was NOT a happy camper but basicly understood that it helped relieve the stress. She allowed me to dress but only when she was not around. Then early last year, she got her gym schedule mixed up and we came face to face with me fully dressed. We sat at the kitchen table and talked about me, CDing, her, and the famly. Since that day she accepted my CDIng. She later told me that the reason she did not at first want to see me dressed, was that she thought all CDer's looked and acted like Drag Queens. When she say me dressed that day, she saw a middle age woman, dressed like a middle aged woman.
If your planning on tell her, do your homework first. Make sure you can answer her questions if possible. You might want to have some pictures of yourself dressed in age approapiate clothing too. Show her some of these sites so she can read about us and mabey even post in the GG forums. Give her all the time she needs, don't push the issue but keep the discusion alive by asking her what she thinks from time to time. I think one of the things that really has helped my wife was when she went with me to a Tri-Ess meeting and meet some of the other SO's. You might have to set some borders at first but that is better than hiding. LOL

Amanda Barber · Post by **Amanda Barber** » Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:02 pm

occasionally he'll point out something he thinks will look good on me, but thats about it.
edit: Oh and jewelry

JenniferPL · Post by **JenniferPL** » Tue Mar 17, 2009 1:09 pm

My wife buys my makeup. Helps pick which style and color bras and panties to buy. I can wear lipstick 24/7 around her and she ok with it. She has helped look for shoes.

I would have to agree with CJ as long as dinner is ready on time she is cool with whatever I do around the house.

It is a great life style with a supportive spouse.

It is blast talking to her about makeup, what type of shoe orboot to wear with what outfit or what we both look for in a bra. We do have different taste in color. I go more for the bold colors while she goes for the earth tones. I can leave a bra hanging on the door nob or walk around wearing one in front her and she just smiles. To see the look on her face when I walk into a room wearing a bright colored lipstick, is priceless.

Without her support and understanding, life would be boring.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Wed Mar 18, 2009 7:39 am

I get irritated when she offers unasked for advice on my guy clothes, and after 22 years of marriage she has learned not to give it very often. I don't imagine I would like it any more if she "helped" with the women's clothing. Even if she knew all about it instead of the parts I have told her I doubt I would dress around her.

Absaroka

JoAnnDallas · Post by **JoAnnDallas** » Wed Mar 18, 2009 7:51 am

A couple of times, my wife has looked at what I was going to wear and frankly told me that it would not do. Then she pulled out items, laid them on the bed and said this will do better. Sometimes I agreed with her and sometimes I did not. Once when I did not agree, I wore it anyway and was surpised at how many positive comments I got about the outfit.
Now when my wife doesn't like my selection, I listen closer. LOL

Jabbela · Post by **Jabbela** » Wed Mar 18, 2009 10:31 am

My (ex-)wife did not help me with CDing, but she was not angry about that.

My SO now is very supportive. She sometimes bought me some stuff or helped me to choose the right combinations, when we went shopping. Also, when I am going to dress, she helps me with my choice and sometimes borrows me some of her clothes - as long as they fit me.

She does not mind, when I use her make-up, as I rarely use it - only at reasonable occasions.

At several occasions, she encouraged me to dress and we talked sometimes of going for clubbing as two ladies. So far ,we didn't do that, but time and occasion will come sooner or later.

On the other hand I always try to sense, if it is OK for her, when I am en-femme. Sometimes it does not fit the situation. I always try to figure out, if she could enjoy, that I am en-femme - so we can both enjoy it...

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Thu Mar 19, 2009 8:58 am

My wife also gets very irritated with having to choose her own outfit for work before going to bed at night. I can't see her wanting to help choose my outfit as well, and I think she found criticizing me to be a tiresome chore.

She buys me a flannel shirt for Christmas each year. She has me pick it out of a catalogue first.

Absaroka