When is it time to so No?

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When is it time to so No?

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I was wondering when it was time to say good bye to CD'ing.

Now girls I am and old lady (70) and my wife stills loves me but to old to pass in public. Oh I still dress at home and outside when I can but the question is, When is it time to stop?.
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I didn't think it was possible for us to stop.
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Post by Carolynn »

Carol Ann, do you still feel the need to cross dress? I firmly believe that cross dressing is an integral part of the brain of a person who does so, likely from fetal development hormonal baths, and it is not entirely within one's ability to just stop. Otherwse, many on this site would have done so.

You have been dressing for a very long time and it is clearly part of you, as your recent discomofort with the enforced mundane clothing while your grandkids were around all summer suggests. So, my suggestion would be that you should dress as long as you can and so long as it makes you happy or serves the need it has always filled.


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Re: When is it time to so No?

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Carol Ann wrote:When is it time to stop?
When you have to choose between buying something to eat and buying 'that cute pair of heels'...

OK, bad example. :mrgreen:

Basically, what Carolynn said.
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U can never get off this Ride. Sorry that is how it is.

I knew of somone in nursing home that kept Cd activities up.

Why Quit? At 70 U must not care what they think anyway? I know I do at 51.
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When it doesn't feel good any more. I'm 68.
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When is it time to say goodbye to cd'ing>? My guess is, when they close the lid. zzzzzz
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Amen!!!!

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Post by Merinda »

Well Carol Ann ,

I've been asking myself the same question since posting the "its time to go Merinda" topic around 12 months ago.
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When they stop making womans clothes? :lol:
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When they nail the lid on me I plan to be fully dressed, looking as feminine as I possibly can.
I'll probably stop after that.
But wait a minute!
What if I go to CD heaven?
Well I'll just carry on as normal.
What if I go to CD hell?
Forced to dress as a man for all eternity!
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!
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When is it time to stop?

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I have to agree girls, when they nail the lid shut,
When I can no longer present well enough to go out I will just dress at home :mrgreen:
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Post by Carol Ann »

Carolynn:
A lot of what you say is true, I have openly dress since I was 14 and yes I am happiest dressed as Carol.

Jennifer M:
Oh yes one can stop but not for very long.

Merinda:
Yes sweetheart I remember your post and your come back.

I guess my problem is after being Carol 24/7 the other day I kept fooling with my makeup as I wasn't pleased with the look anymore. And the wife notice as she remind-ed me again I have lost the magic touch as I don't pass well anymore. :sad:

She put her arms around me and said "I still love you" and you can still dress all you want.

I guess if I am not happy with my looks why do it anymore?
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Hi Carol Ann,

For you it may be different, but I'd ask myself:

When do women stop dressing as women?

"And are we not women?"

I'm an old lady of going-on-72 but enjoying dressing female more and more every day. I see no likely end to it until death.

I too will probably dress female in the nursing home, even if it's only a cotton nightie or whatever. I just plain don't want to wear guy clothes ever again if I can help it. Why be boring?

Again, this may differ for you, but I don't see the urge, or the pleasure, going away, ever.

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Post by Robyn Katie »

P.S. And as to what you say about not being pleased with your looks, well ...

I have never been happy with my looks when dressed. I look wildly inappropriate in makeup. I look ludicrous in a dress. But so do many elderly ladies!

To deal with this, I have done what many elderly ladies do: I dress either in skirts that aren't that different from shorts, or in ladies' slacks, and in tops that are modestly but not in-your-face feminine. I use minimal makeup. My hair has been 3 to 4 inches below shoulder length for years; I wear it down, in a bun, or a ponytail. And once in a while when needful I wear something unisex.

In other words, I just don't come out as flamboyant. I wear only women's clothes 24/7, but modest ones. Nobody's ever called me on it.
It helps that most people don't notice what an old person wears.

I get by, and I feel good femme in a way I never could when in my masc mask. I think you can too, if you wish.

Love, Robyn Katie
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