I got caught!

[Erica S]

My wife knows of me wanting to dress in womens clothing. She knows of me having a few feminine articles ( some slikly tops and a couple of camisoles) and she is ok with me wearing them from time to time as long as they were either covered up or for the silky tops I wear them as pj tops in the morning usually. A few months ago I started to get the urge to go further. I got some panties and some pantyhose. I also found one of my wife's bra's would wear it after I showered in the morning when no one else was up. I would take it off before going upstairs. Then one morning I got the idea could I wear it untill I got dressed (out of sight of my wife)? so one day I had the bra on and my wife came over behind me and caressed my right side of my chest ( she knows it is a turn on for me) and she did not notice the bra under my robe and top. I was glas she did not know. Then last week I had the bra on again when getting ready and she came over to me and gave my back a rub all over and said "are you wearing a bra?" I did not flinch and said "yes I am" Well that did it. My wife got so mad and called me a pervert. She told me not toever wear that again and it disgusted her.

Well I do not know what to do, I feel the need, desire to dress now more than ever( not due to the issue ) but it is what I want to do to be me. I feel this is a part of me.

My wife asked me if I like wearing the bra and I said yes. but I do not think she understands me. I would rather be in a bra, blouse and pantyhose and a slip and skirt if I could all day.

I do not have breastforms yet but my breasts are becoming sensitive and getting larger. Slowly but they are and it feels great. I would like to fill out a bra with my own breasts or with forms.

I am happy being married and have two kids who dont know at all they are too little.

Any advice would be appriciated.

Very confused right now

Erica

[Michelle Miller]

It should seem rather odd that she'd be ok with it, up to a point, you mentioned other articles of clothing that she wasn't that worried about. My guess is that she's perceiving you to be on a 'slippery slope', so to speak.

Marching right up, in full on en'femme mode, stating 'this is how it's going to be' isn't the way to handle it, IMO. Ask her what her feelings are, about your expanded wardrobe, and if she's worried about losing the part of you that she still sees as a male/husband/father/etc.

[DonnaT]

Your wife has limits to what she will accept, and you went passed them.

Your feelings and needs are understandable, but so are your wife's.

You should always try to talk things over with your wife, before doing something you know she won't like. Explain how you are feeling, and how your needs can change.

She may still have the out-of-site feelings towards it, and you'll have to learn how to deal with that. Since you do love your wife and kids.

Then again, if you explain things to her, maybe she'll be a little more accepting or tolerant. Springing something on her will always backfire.

[Absaroka]

Why are your breasts growing and getting more sensitive? Wearing a bra didn't do that to me.

Ab

[Erica S]

Absaroka, I have been massaging my breasts every day for a while now. I have two reasons, I have been tender on my nipples for many years and it helps and it feels good to masage the breast tissue. I can feel my breasts move more when I run or an going up and down the stairs. I can aculally feel my breasts( as small as they are) "jiggle" . They may n ot be gowing but I think my breasts have gotten bigger over the last few months.

Erica