Talking to Men

JoAnnDallas · Post by **JoAnnDallas** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 2:28 pm

For some unknown reason the dryer decided to quit working and wife had to go to a board meeting at the library, so I was left with taking the wet wash to the local Mat to dry them. Since I have been out of work, I have been dressed as JoAnn more than I have been Dress as Jo... So I pack up the wet clothes and drive to the Mat. I put them in three dryers and sit down to read my book. All of a sudden I hear "Hello". I look up and there is this gentleman about my age standing there. I smile and say Hello and go back to my book. Then he says, "Live around here?". All of a sudden I start getting this weird feeling that he is hitting on me. Not ot be rude, I answer, Yes. Then he walks over and all I could think was, "No please don't sit down beside me". Well he sits down besides me. He give me his name, so I have to give him mine. Then he starts up a conversation, all the wile I am getting more nervous. We chat for a few minutes and then I'm saved by the bell going off on the dryer. I excuse myself, get up, and unload the dryer. Start folding clothes and relieved that he walks over to his washer. I quickly finish folding, packing up the laundry basket, and start to leave. As I am rolling the cart past him, he says, "nIce talking to you". I answered, "You too".
As I sat in the car, I thought that mabey he was not hitting on me, just trying to be friendly. Still it was the first time that I have had a situation like this while dressed.

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 2:38 pm

Pepper spray. Use it with all the force of a firefighter going after a 3 alarm blaze.

Sometimes, it just happens, JoAnn, sounds like you handled it as well as you could.

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 3:17 pm

Hi JoAnn

I personally don't think you had anything to worry about, I talk to strangers all the time here and I don't mean any harm - I am just trying to be friendly. Its that sort of place I live in. No harm done dear take it as a pleasant interlude in the normally dreary routine of doing laundry.

HUGS

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 3:44 pm

There were 2 T-girls standing around talking to each other in the local area , then along came this crew cut , rough head , aggressive looking individual.
The girls took one look at this guy approaching and made a dash for their car , the guy seemed to gaze in their direction but kept walking , danger is now past.
The rough-nut guy was "me" , I glared in envy because they were made up so beautifully , I wish I hadn't scared them off , I would have loved to have talked to them , but they would have felt seriously threatened if I had approached them.

JoAnn , the moral to the story is simple "not to judge a book by its cover" , however , until the contents of the book are revealed then its best to play it safe.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 8:28 pm

Hi JoAnn,

Not fussing, but I have to agree with our sisters, probably he was not a threat, could be he was curious, one of us "en drab" or just some lonely dude that wanted to talk to a woman. You could have missed a chance to educate one of the great unwashed, who knows. but if you handled the situation within your comfort zone then you done good. It was nice of you to even acknowledge him. Remember the guy this week in PA. that shot those girls in the gym/spa? He was just lonely - no excuse, but what if just having some girl just recognize him as a person, a fellow human being, could have prevented this tragedy.

Sorry, end of philosophizing!

Remember my attending the dinner dance and wondering how I would react if I was asked to dance?

Anyway, glad that it was a non-event, for you, hon!

Love,

Virginia

JoAnnDallas · Post by **JoAnnDallas** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 8:42 pm

After reading all the posts and thinking back, I think this is the first time I have had a person approach me while I was dressed and strike up a conversation or than another sister. Until now, I have not really thought about what to do or how to act when a situation like this arises.
I know the weak point of my fem presentation is my voice, since I try and not talk much while fem. It is the one thing that I am sure will give me away. I’ll have to ask some of my Tri-Ess sisters about my voice. I guess it’s like the first time you went out side dressed, the first time you walked into a store dressed, and etc. You’re a little scared at first and then when nothing bad happens, a big relief and exhilarated.
As someone said, when you do this in male mode, you’re trying to get to know the GG you’re talking to and you don’t really think about what she may think. Now that I have experienced it from the other side, it is a weird feeling.
So looking at it in the light that this was truly a fem experience and really not as bad as my imagination tried to make out to be, all in all it was a great experience. It may be one of those real true fem experiences that both a GG and a TG can agree on.
I did make sure that my fem wedding rings were visible just in case. LOL

Amanda Barber · Post by **Amanda Barber** » Mon Aug 10, 2009 11:44 am

he was probably bored in the laundromat. Any time your in a place waiting, bus stop, park, laundromat, someone will start a conversation.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Aug 11, 2009 8:04 am

Haven't you ever initiated a conversation with a woman you didn't know while in male mode?

Even if he was hitting on you, as long as he was able to take no for an answer so what?

Ab

Stephanie H · Post by **Stephanie H** » Wed Aug 12, 2009 7:24 am

Care and caution are the words of choice. As it may be a rush to have a conversation, always be aware of your where-abouts, and exits.
Stephanie

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Wed Aug 12, 2009 10:47 am

Stephanie is right as well. Welcome to the world of no male privilege.....

Ab