The stress of shopping for drab.

Martina · Post by **Martina** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 6:11 am

I went shoppin for some new drab for Christmas and I walked to the the mens clothing section of a department store. I went down through the womens section where women and girls in their element where happily doing what they loved to do. I glanced left and right at all the beautiful skirts, pretty tops and dresses with ruffles and pleats. Beautiful colours and endless varity catching my eye and calling me in to look at, feel and buy them. Down I went through the lingerie and underware section, frilly pinks and sparkling whites, panties trimmed with lace and silk nighties that you would love to wear day and night. I tried to appear uninterested so as not to disturb any of the GGs in their natural enviornment. Then I arrived at the mens section and my heart dropped into my stomach. The greyness, the drabness, the lack of varity and colour, the packets of underpants and socks, the v-neck pullovers, the oh so dullness and drearyness of it all. I couldn't face it and turned around and walked back out with my wallet burning in my pocket feeling very sad even depressed about the painful reality of having to dress in male clothes in public and no matter how you wish things could be different you know they are not and won't ever be.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 7:54 am

Actually I like the ease and simplicity of shopping for mens clothing.

Zari

Robyn Katie · Post by **Robyn Katie** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 9:50 am

Hi Martina,

It's a cliche to say "I share your pain," but that's exactly how it feels. I don't even want to spend a minute among male attire. Hurts! Dreary stuff feels oppressive and alien to me.

I retain one set of briefs for the doctor, and my sneakers are men's. That's it. Even clothes I wear to pass for unisex are all women's. That's how I like it.

Love, Robyn Katie

Post by **DonnaT** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 12:31 pm

I haven't been in the men's department for quite some time.

Just not that interested.

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 4:45 pm

I totally agree with how depressing it is to shop for men's clothes. I have shirts, pants and suits that are 40 years old and look identical to what is hanging in the Macy's men's wear department today. Nothing changes. Nothing inspires. Depressing.

Then I walk through the women's wear, which occupies most of a floor, and I see inspired creations, full of life and color and variety. Why does whoever is in charge of setting societal norms (who is that, by the way? Certainly not us!), insist that women are the only ones who can express themselves with their appearance? What illness in humankind is reflected here?

Grace

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 7:45 pm

I have to agree with Zari, shopping in the men's department is easy. Very few decisions to make.

On the other hand shopping in the women's departments is fun. Usually, it you could get inside the mind of the GG's there most would initially think you are the best male around, out buying for your SO. However get into the "unmentionables" beyond panties and they will have second thoughts.
Shoes are another place where most would think, "I would not let my spouse buy my shoes. so what is he doing here?" Get past that and sizes come into play. I wear a 91/2 to 10 female heel, depends on the manufacturer and they have those sizes which means that there are GG's out there with "big feet?"

Shop on, girls our money is green like everyone else's!

Virginia

Kimberly Kael · Post by **Kimberly Kael** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 8:23 pm

For many years I didn't have a problem shopping for men's wear - as others have said it wasn't exactly a challenge, and for the most part there wasn't that much choice involved. When it came to shirts I could even find some materials and textures that I liked quite a bit, even though the shape was pretty much invariant.

Eventually, though, when I started building up a woman's wardrobe and contemplating a social transition that all changed. I found the idea of replacing deteriorating items of menswear downright depressing. Tearing up while looking at pants was as clear an indication as any that this was really important to me, not just a hobby. My other clue along the way was that while I could find a nice silk shirt and pants that I liked the look of, some items just looked wrong on me. I could look at a pair of shorts and think "those are good looking shorts" but the moment I put them on I'd feel absolutely wrong. I hated the way I looked in them. Ditto for men's swimwear.

April Rose · Post by **April Rose** » Tue Dec 22, 2009 10:19 pm

What little drab shopping I've done in the last year has been in catalogs.I know my sizes, check the boxes and the work uniform comes in the mail. Total engagement, maybe 15-30 minutes. Of course, with the economy, I haven't done any feminine shopping either.I bought a couple of pairs of cute shoes this year, but not much else.

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Fri Dec 25, 2009 1:53 am

I have been having the same issue for quite a while. Shopping for work clothes has been a major chore as male clothing never changes.

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Fri Dec 25, 2009 5:29 pm

Gaven McLaren wrote

male clothing never changes

Is that so men don't have to strain thieir one brain cell? lol

Leeza

Bernice · Post by **Bernice** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 10:35 pm

Shucks, at this point in my life, at my size, and on my budget, shopping for pants boils down to: Is the waist big enough, and is the inseam long enough?

99.9% of the time, the answer is NO.

Hugs,

Bernice

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 8:09 am

Interestingly I could walk through some of our common stores such as
"K-mart" or "Target" and totally miss the mens clothing section if I blink twice , womens & girls clothing would account to 80 - 85% of the stock.

No wonder I attempt to purchase a mens jumper but l end up buying a skirt.

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 8:53 pm

I got a couple shirts from my daughter for Christmas.

They were size large. I haven't been a large in over 20 years.

Took them back today. Looked around Macy's for replacements, and couldn't find a thing I liked.

Maybe I'll take the gift card to the women's sections, since I didn't get anything fem this year.

Julie E. · Post by **Julie E.** » Tue Jan 05, 2010 12:58 pm

All mens usually don't think about clothes. They wear clothes because they have to. They choose theit clothes by awayness. if you ask a men why he choose those pants, his answer will be: "because that was the first pair on top of others".

I have been like that for many years. If a man wears some clothes that look different, people will ask him if he's gay. If there is something many straight man are affraid of, it being gay.

If a company make something different for mens, they risk of not selling them, so they don't ever try it.

That's why I love my girly clothes!

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