Told my parents.

Rik · Post by **Rik** » Sun Feb 07, 2010 7:25 am

Last night I couldn't carry this burden any longer, I was loosing sleep, feeling depressed, and generaly been unhappy which doesn't suit me atall.

So usual saturday night, sat watching a Blu-ray with my folks an havin a few beers,they could clearly see something was on my mind,after drinking rather alot i bit the bullet and told them I had somet to tell um.

I was silent for a further 5/10 mins began to shake and tear up as now I knew this was it. Took a few deep breaths and just sed it 'I like to crossdress' then just burst out laughing as this weight was lifted of my shoulders, it felt so awsome.

They went quiet a min, looked at each other, and begin asking me questions.

After the QnA they really wasn't bothered as long as I didn't do it in front of them. I told them they can ask me anything anytime they wanted and that im still geting use to it also.

They were glad I told them and happy that I didn't have to have to carry this around alone anymore. Mother said if I ever want anything she will gladly get it from the shops for me.

I think it will take a few days to fully sink in but today i feel like a different person! and can enjoy this part of my life without fear of been caught!

Anne · Post by **Anne** » Sun Feb 07, 2010 7:39 am

That is awesome, both your courage and the great response of your parents. Remember even with them baby steps, don't have mom buy you a ton of stuff tomorrow but maybe something small later if she stays cool with it. Anne

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Feb 07, 2010 8:17 am

Congratulations!

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Sun Feb 07, 2010 2:45 pm

Fantastic ,

I never told my parents , however (in the '80s) they became somewhat confused when I put on a pair of lycra tights under a leotard and wore them around the house every night.
They never asked why , other than the odd remark they never talked about it , but the look on their faces was priceless.

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Sun Feb 07, 2010 3:34 pm

It feels so good to have the burden lifted off your shoulders. I remember the feeling and it does feel good especialy when things go right.

Leeza

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Sun Feb 07, 2010 5:11 pm

Bravo Analise

I know what a weight that will be off your shoulders.

No stopping you now girl. We will meet up at Trans-pose one of these days, God willing.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sun Feb 07, 2010 10:54 pm

Hi Analise,

Ain't it great!? I do agree with what has been said, however, it is still "baby steps." Like you also said, it may take a few days for it to really sink in and there may be more questions, which is actually a good thing!!!!

Let us know if anything develops.

Virginia

Rik · Post by **Rik** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 8:50 am

Thanks for you comments everyone, the day after I told the last 2 family members, my 2 sisters 38 n 40, I knew been younger they would take it fine, and i was correct.

I have to say this forum and its members have helped me see I should enjoy what I like and not be ashamed!

Thx all!

Rik · Post by **Rik** » Wed Feb 10, 2010 11:36 pm

Been a very relaxed week for me, Iv been bidding on bargains with ebay, browsing other online stores, generaly gettin a feel for what new styles I can now begin to enjoy and all without guilt or shame, so fun!

Had some really great chats with my sisters, chatin bout clothing makeup and the sort.

My parents however im still unsure about (I know its still early days) My dad seems to have taken the outa site outa mind approach, no questions, doesnt want to hear anything about it. Acting as if I never really told them.

My mother is trying to get her head round it,she wanted 2 see the shoes that came, tried them on and asked me to try them on while she was there (which i was very suprised at) she keeps asking me questions, which is great. But I get the feeling she's trying to rush herself into it.

This weekend I will be going full femme for the 1st time in 3-4 years,and spending it in my room, usually at weekend I sit with my folks and watch a film or something - Will be interesting to see the atmosphere the next day now they know what I'll be doing.

I know this will take more time, just wondering if there anything else I can do to help them.

Post by **DonnaT** » Thu Feb 11, 2010 7:54 am

Probably not. At least not yet. With the exception of your mother.

If she wants to see more, then let her. If she wants to see how you look when you dress fully, then invite her into your room. Ask her if she has any advice.

Putting her off may only make her feel as if you were embarrassed instead of comfortable with it all.

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Thu Feb 11, 2010 12:28 pm

Hi Analise--
It's touch-and-go with trying to figure out how people are reacting. My experience has been that some of them never mention it again, and that can be frustrating. You did what you felt you needed to do.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Thu Feb 11, 2010 8:25 pm

I think Donna is so right about your mother. Don't push it, but if she wants to see you or help you, accept it as her desire to better understand. It is impreative that she understand that this is just who you are and that you are in no way embarrassed about "coming out" and now expressing yourself!

Love,

Virginia

Mány B · Post by **Mány B** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 1:01 am

Hi Analise,
I envy you, it has been such a long time that I would have liked to tell my parents as well, but the moment I would start saying something, it seems that I'm loosing my ability to speak. Congratulations!

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 8:11 am

I'm glad it went well Analise. Also glad to hear that you could have that kind of pleasant relationship with your parents. Baby steps is the word, as everyone here has said.

zari