A request for CD's who's wives are involved :)

MissTara (SO) · Post by **MissTara (SO)** » Thu Mar 25, 2010 10:19 pm

I would love to hear from couples or just CD's who enjoy sharing crossdressing experiences together. I am specifically interested in hearing about how sharing your crossdressing with your wife has improved your marriages.

I know it's not always sugar and spice and everything nice but I know I really could benifit from reading a thread like this. Maybe my husband will too.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Thu Mar 25, 2010 10:44 pm

I too will look forward to reading the responses that you get from this thread.

SL and I would not be the ideal couple to discuss this as I kind of do my own thing and SL philosophy is as she is fond of saying, "I have the best of both worlds."

We basically have only one rule and that is first one to grab it gets to wear it, as we have several outfits that fit us both and we both love to wear, so if we are going out we really don't discuss who is wearing what.

Virginia

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Fri Mar 26, 2010 10:06 am

I wouldn't say it improved anything, but if it hadn't been for me & my feminine side, my ex-wife wouldn't have had a single thing to wear to my father's funeral service & his wake the night before.

Post by **DonnaT** » Fri Mar 26, 2010 11:48 am

We were still in the early months of the marriage, when I told her. We've been married 34 ½ years, so there wasn't much time that CDing wasn't part of the marriage. Therefore, I can't say it improved it any.

I can say that it has made it rough at times, because she flip-flopped a number of times with regard to acceptance. The periods of acceptance being the better times, clearly.

I don't know if my being trans had anything to do with it, but I have always been helpful around the house. My wife even bragged to her friends and family that I was so helpful. A complete opposite to her dad. When rough times occurred this worked in my favor.

Hopefully it has resulted in a stronger bond, rather than a weaker one.

My feelings for her have never changed, even during the rough times.

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Fri Mar 26, 2010 12:46 pm

I asked my wife again if she would join here and yet again I got an unequivocal "No"

She wants nothing to do with Susan and no matter how many times I try and approach her on the subject in many different ways nothing is going to change.

Susan is persona non grata according to my wife and there is no way this side of hell she will move her position.

I am more sorry than I could ever have believed at this. I have met so many lovely people here and elsewhere. I wish she would just open her eyes for once.

There are none so blind as those who will not see.

DoryLinn · Post by **DoryLinn** » Fri Mar 26, 2010 5:12 pm

DonnaT wrote:A complete opposite to her dad. When rough times occurred this worked in my favor.

Hi

Somehow this seems interesting to me. Arn't GG's suposed to marry a father figure?

As for my wife being more involved and the effect on our relationship;

For me there is more trust, She is also proving how much she really loves me by staying with a "freek" like me

I feel I am a better person when I have someone to share such a deep rooted secret.

There are still problems, but I have a lot of hope that things will work out well.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 11:33 am

Some of our sisters here are a lot more versed in this area than I am, but a forum of which I read has numerous Dr's from around the world that participate in it. There is more and more evidence coming to light that we are born with this "gift" as I am fond of referring to "it."

I read their posts and I can interpret most of what they are discussing, but needless to say, I can't contribute as the medical terms that they use and the references to the brain structures are beyond this blonde's ability to understand.

What this has to do with this thread is simply to further confirm to "inquiring minds" that more and more medically supported argument _ Ladies, we were born this." Albeit some have more and some have less of this gift, but ain't too much you can do about it other than the standard, ignore, suppress, repress or just go with it!!!

Keep the faith ladies,

Virginia

Hope · Post by **Hope** » Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:16 pm

Miss Tara,

I'm not sure if the sharing cd'ing helps a marriage, but I do firmly believe sharing all helps a marriage.

I've been married twice. Both marriages started with full knowlege of my need to crossdress. The first marriage failed miserably after 23 years! (Yeah....took old stupid here a long time to figure things out huh?)

The second marriage however, is a miracle to me. We both had come off some pretty rocky past lives, and had both made up our minds full disclosure in all things was important. And so it has been.

I think sharing about CD'ing is important before marriage to tell the truth. How's the pool spouse to know what to do AFTER sealing the bonds of marriage. Doesn't seem fair to me, but it's still better than keeping it a dark hidden secret all one's life I guess.

Tough question! Does it help? I think sharing and honesty in all things is what helps.

Just my opinion.....

Hope

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Mon Mar 29, 2010 4:33 pm

Sharing and being up front is the key. You see my wife knew going into our marriage as my sweet loving mother told her. Let me tell you it was a blast as my wife and her sister loved to dress me all up and on the weekends we would go out as 3 women and just do what women do.

We have been married 46 years now and Carol i just a part of everyday life for us. Yes I have it good as so many of my sisters know but I believe believe up front and honest can save a ton of heart acke down the line.

Now on the fun side we had 4 kids because my wife was turn on and life is great if you share.

Letitia_Jolie_GG · Post by **Letitia_Jolie_GG** » Mon Apr 12, 2010 3:04 pm

From the first moment I found it out from my boyfriend, it was very clear to me that I don't mind it; but I guess I've never anticipated how much I would get involved.
We like to look trough lingerie catalogues together; to shop for it together too (when we can afford it

) We l ike to dress each other up according to our fantasies. I think it's all kind of sweet and... well, very very kinky. I like to see the look on his face when he's dressed up (and yep, we're being very creative about it).
More importantly, I think this experience has had a big impact on how I understand masculinity and feminity in general, as a Sociology student. As things are now, I'm seriously considering a Master's Degree in gender studies.

April Rose · Post by **April Rose** » Sun Apr 18, 2010 9:48 pm

MY wife (Nancy W(SO)) has never been wildly enthusiastic about my cross dressing. She hasn't been really negative about it,either. After 30 years of marriage she just takes it as part of who I am. I love taking care of her,it fulfills me, and she trusts that. In the past few years I have taken over all the cooking. She was tired of it. She's fine with me doing it in a dress and an apron I made myself, as long as it gets done. Tonight it was herbed salmon steaks,baked potatoes and fresh spinach.

Was it good? Listen, Honey, If food was the only issue, I'd marry myself!

Letitia_Jolie_GG · Post by **Letitia_Jolie_GG** » Sun Apr 25, 2010 5:10 am

April Rose wrote: Was it good? Listen, Honey, If food was the only issue, I'd marry myself!

Hee heee.. we cook together too. Oh, and once, while at my place (we don't live together yet

) he did some housework in *kinky attire*.

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Sun Apr 25, 2010 9:15 am

$\:D/$

, sweetheart live it up and enjoy your life to it's fullest.
Yesterday I had my wife laughting so hard it took her breath away as I walked into the kitchen in my Frence Maids outfit dolled up from head to toe.

Life is a bowl of cherries eat a few now and again.

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Sun Apr 25, 2010 9:33 am

Enjoy the good times and make as many as possible. The best times are often ones that cost little or nothing and are often spur of the moment A little hug when not expected or a funny moment when things are too serious are a couple of the things I am refering to. There are many more.

Later when times may be a little rough you will have the good times to look back on and remember. From my experience the memory of the good times can sure make the rough times easier to handle.

Leeza

Letitia_Jolie_GG · Post by **Letitia_Jolie_GG** » Sun Apr 25, 2010 11:00 am

Carol Ann wrote: $\:D/$ , sweetheart live it up and enjoy your life to it's fullest.
Yesterday I had my wife laughting so hard it took her breath away as I walked into the kitchen in my Frence Maids outfit dolled up from head to toe.
Life is a bowl of cherries eat a few now and again.

Hee hee... Well, I personally find that men doing housework are very hot; and I have the same kind of feeling about men in female undies, so... yep

To all SO's out-there: Ladies, that's how you convince your men to do more housework!