Mistaken for a woman while en drab?

[Martina]

It used to happen to me occasionly when I lived and cycled around a city. It only happened from the back. I once had a car load of lads whistle and cheer at me when they came up to overtake me. They soon shut up when they passed by. I once had a girl friend who said she could not find me sexually attractive because I had a girly bum. I have enjoyed this aspect of my appearance.

[Alana]

It happened again, today, while at dinner with my wife, her mother and her sister. The waitress, standing right next to me, quartered-front, initially addressed me as maam, then quickly changed to sir.

The only femme thing about me were very small dark stud earrings and hair about 3 inches long. I just smiled and gave her my order. Inside I was thinking, yeah!

Love,

Alana

[Cindy Louise]

It's happened a few times usually from the back when my hair has been longer Once when I was up a ladder hanging some waders a guy called me ma'am and asked where the hardhats were as I turned round he went bright red and tried to apologize but I said it was nothing and not to worry.

Another time I was half in a cabinet arranging our Proto display and a guy tapped on the glass top and said "excuse me miss where's the bathroom?" I didn't even look up but just pointed. He never knew.

It seems my back and butt is feminine.

[Alana]

My wife kind of took the wind out of my sails later that day. On our way home from a movie, I asked her if I looked particularly feminine. She said, "no, why?" I mentioned the "maam" incident at dinner. She said the waitress had initially addressed her, not me, as "maam" and that I had then stated my order, so she switched to "sir".

Personally, I still believe she was addressing me. She appeared to be working her way around the table counter clock-wise. I was next in line and I believe she was looking straight at me when she spoke. Anyway, it was nice while it lasted.

[DonnaT]

Sounds about right Alana.

[Dolores(GG)]

Well, I don't mean to be contrary in any means- but I have worked in the service industry and have often have said ladies to a group of individuals that included a man. Often, it was because I glanced over and failed to register him right away or because so many women will dress in jeans and such that your quickly assuming as you greet the crowd. To date I don't think I have ever miscalled someone ma'am unless it was just because I didn't personally see them. I don't think I have ever mistaken someone on an individual basis. Point being: if you are interacting with someone directly and they refer to you as feminine, then thumbs up. If it's in the context of others, like a group, most likely it's good-old fashioned mix-up.

However, I have a female friend of mine that I've seen people refer to as "Sir" on the phone and in person, so much that she doesn't even flinch anymore.

[Martina]

I have been whistled at by young men in cars while I have been cycling in drab but they always get a shock when they look back after taking over.

[Alana]

It happened again this Wednesday evening, at work. I was facing stock with my back to the aisle.

A gentleman approached me and said, "Maam." He quicky apologized and called me, "Sir," as I turned around to help him. This time there was no mistaking that he was addressing me. No one else was around.

As I've said before, I reckon I can pass as femme (at least short term), even in homme mode, as long as no one sees me from the front. I presume it is due, at least in part to wavy hair currently about 3 inches long. My boss' wife once asked me, after I had just sheared my locks, if I had cut my hair because I was tired of being mistaken for a woman.

At that time I was usually just letting my hair grow out from a crewcut, until I got tired of it's length; usually around 4-5 inches. I'd just whack it all off and start over.

However, now I'm having my hair stylist working on a cut that can be presented as either femme or homme with just a little tweaking. Once we get the cut and length to what we're striving for, I plan to keep it there a while. Maybe its working sooner and better than we ever thought. LOL

Alana

[JoAnnDallas]

Every so often I will wear a girl t-shirt and jeans in male mode. Once every so often I will hear from behind me, "Can I help you Mam" or "Excuse me Mam". They always have this weird expression when I turn around and face them. LOL

[ArleneMcCarthy]

I have mistaken many times for a GG and have gotton many whistles & car honks, and I have even been asked out for a date by a male(s), but maybe they did know that I was not a real woman.

[Bernice]

It's been many years since anyone mistook me for ma'am in person. However, I was frequently mistaken for ma'am on the telephone, until I was about 40. No, my voice changed when I was only 17, so that isn't it.

Hugs,

Bernice

[Mary Sanders]

YES! And it happens quite often. I have never felt offended by it, just confused. I know just under the outer layer I am fully dressed in lingerie but I don't think they can see through my clothes.

Most memorable times.

Once I was at a restaurant with family. We were sitting in a booth and the waiter came up from behind me and asked everybody what they would like to drink. I was still thinking and didn't respond and he said to me "And for you mam?" I told him I haden't decided yet. He left and came back with everyone elses drinks and asked me again; and again for the second time refered to me as mam.

Another time I was out shopping as my male self. I was in a thrift store looking at the lingerie rack when from behind me I heard someone say "Mam!" I payed no attention untill I heard it a second and third time. I turned to see who was trying to get who's attention. I was shocked when I saw this sweet little old lady trying to get my attention. I looked at her and she pulled a pair of pink slacks off the rack and told me they would be very cute on me. I smiled and said "Yes!" I turned back and continued to look at the lingerie minding my own business when she then came up to me and started a conversation like I was just another woman. She was talking to me about clothes, styles, what she liked ect... She talked for a couple of minutes and then walked away. Was she senile, or do I really look like a woman at times?

I have to tell just one more. I was at the check out at Home Depot. There was some sort of problem with the transaction and the checkout clerk had to call the manager. The manager came over and told the clerk what I had to do. The manager referred to me as "She" The checkout clerk tryed to correct her but she didn't catch it and referred to me as "She" again. I could tell the clerk was embarrassed for me But, I thought it was cool!

Sometimes I wounder if there isn't an aura around me that makes people sence my feminine side.

[JohnH]

I have long hair that covers my ears and is shoulder length in the back. Even when I wore a denim skirt I was confused for a woman only once.

I have even been sir'ed when wearing a dress.

When I talk on the phone I am never confused as a woman. I do have a very deep voice [basso profundo] so it is unambiguously masculine.

But that suits me just fine. No matter what I wear I still want to be identified as a man unlike the vast majority of the members of this forum.

I guess I have a masculine aura about me that is different from Mary Sanders who says there is a feminine aura around her.

[ArleneMcCarthy]

Being mistaken for a woman is something that I truly love & desire., but not when endrab.

[Absaroka]

John I'm in agreement with you. Although it might be fun to pass as a woman, I identify as a man. Dressing for me is a male experience, it explores what I am not. Put another way, it explores my imagination.