The tolerence pendulem has swung back at my house again. Ten years of wearing womens clothes and my wife is back at square one again.
Nothing must be seen at all or its all over, she will not tolerate even one pair of panties.
Not sure what happened but I was away on business for a month and everything is back to the beginning. I know enough to not push it at all and let this take it's course. This has happened before and sometimes it lasts a while and sometimes it doesn't.
Just miss my inner girl for now.
Trying to get through life without breaking a heal.
Hi Darla--
You say you've seen this before, so that is one ray of light that I get from your post. I don't like how extreme your wife's reaction seems to be, but I'm not the one who has to live out the situation--it's between the two of you.
She may have reasons that have nothing to to with you directly. In an ideal world, she could talk to you about what happened to change her view. I think I can venture to say that a no-compromise approach is not going to work very well in the long run. I hope the two of you can talk about it at some point.
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I have been on that " roller coaster " ride many times myself. All I can say is that the way my wife and I worked things out was to sit down and talk honestly about what has caused this reaction. In the long run we've come to an agreement on what we both would be comfortable with concerning my dressing.
As Anita has said, I too hope you both can work this roadblock out and come to a solution you both can agree upon.
I am also sorry to hear that, and hopefully the pendulum will swing back in your favour.
My wife is very good with my crossdressing but a bit shy or wary of me pushing established boundaries.
I have now told her I post and chat on this site. Last night I was logged into the forum & chat room here and invited her to chat with my friends. I am afraid it did not go too well. But at least no ongoing issues as a result.
Thanks girls for the support, it will work out just need to approach it with a fresh outlook. My fault as I over stepped her boundries but I believe they are too restrictive. As they stand and stood "out of sight and out of mind".
Now I don't even have a pantie drawer as they bother her too. She wants a manly man down to the underwear. So it's back to beinng a bear in clothes for me, scratching in public and please don't ask if that outfit goes with those shoes becausee how would I know? Maybe being on the other end of my spectrum will make her think Darla isn't so bad and we can renegotiate the boundries. Again.
Not trying to be an backside here but both of us need to be careful of what we ask for as you just might get it.
Our relationship is built on trust and communication and we have been negligent on communication lately so now I believe we can work on it.
Trying to get through life without breaking a heal.
Ms. Darla wrote: She wants a manly man down to the underwear. So it's back to beinng a bear in clothes for me, scratching in public and please don't ask if that outfit goes with those shoes becausee how would I know? Maybe being on the other end of my spectrum will make her think Darla isn't so bad and we can renegotiate the boundries. Again..
