Has my wife gone too far?

[Paula G]

I fear I may have been more than a little bit unfair to my wife. I have observed that she does not approve of my cross dressing, I also thought that she did not accept any aspect of my cross dressing, however I am beginning to wonder. I do know that she does not like anything approaching confrontation, and will avoid difficult situations.
I am sure that she is aware of, and indeed has probably seen quite a lot of my fem apparel in our bedroom. I am taking this as a level of tacit acceptance, if not approval.

I also have found that she is beginning to travel down the trans road herself. It started innocently enough with the odd pair of trousers, she is now wearing trousers every day, now she is borrowing my shoes! More than that she is going out in them, putting out the rubbish going to the shop next door, she may claim it’s because they’re comfortable old slip ons, but we know better don’t we. However it gets worse, she has now gone too far, she’s got man flu!

[Absaroka]

My wife wears many of my clothes, although my shoes and pants don't fit her. It's far more common for a wife to borrow her husbands clothes (and far more socially acceptable) than for men to borrow their wives clothiing.

However maybe she's trying to say that if you can do it so can she, either as a way of acceptance or as a tit for tat.

[DonnaT]

she’s got man flu!

Time to bring nurse Paula around with some chicken soup

[Paula G]

You must have known! Chicken soup is the universal remedy

[Susan]

You must have known! Chicken soup is the universal remedy

Unless you are a chicken

[Rikki]

LOL, Suz!!!!!!

[Kittie]

I wear hers more & more

[JoAnnDallas]

Right after I came out to my wife, she tells me I need to dedicate a dresser drawer for my girl things and then she tells me that I have my fem clothing in the closet arranged wrong. Not only has she come to terms with it, but she has been very helpful to my appearance and etc.

[Joan]

My wife is very much a gg and dresses very femme, she does have some pairs of female trousers though.

Joan

[Gillian]

Some one once said,"be careful what you ask for, you might just get it". From all that I have read about CDing anyone that has an accepting SO is a lucky individual. Anyone thoses SO participates in the life style is very lucky. The question is, is she becoming more accepting, or is she just getting more comfortable? Example, I wear panties because the brand I wear are the most comfortable things that I have ever worn. Maybe she is making an unconscience statement? So communicate and find out what is going on inside that mind. Don't talk the subject to death, just cover the important stuff and move on. My SO doesn't like me wearing her stuff, she said get your own, I did. Maybe the same thing needs to be said in your household.

[Davita]

If Ro is going to be dressing like a man, I guess we won't have so many clothes to share.

Can a woman really cross dress? Doesn't it just wind up being her fashion statement? Do some folks say trans runs in the family? Okay so them all are thinking blood lines So this is the exception to the rule?

[Ralitsa]

Do women really wear the clothes of their SO only because they are more comfortable. I don't believe it. My theory is that women wear the clothes of their SO primarily to feel a closer connection or bond with them. It is why women have such a propensity for buying a "his and hers" something and making the guy wear "his" when she is wearing "hers".
Naturally, I agree completely with this idea and think all guys should wear their SO's clothes for the same reason (assuming they fit). I know that a big reason I wear the clothes that I do is because of a desire for a close connection to a desirable women, either real or imaginary.
So I would be willing to bet there is a deeper reason that she is wearing your clothes more. Maybe she feels like she is losing you and is trying to hold on to something, or maybe she feels like you are getting closer to her now and she want to reciprocate, or maybe she feels like the pants are just gathering dust in the closet and somebody ought to wear them once in a while

[Absaroka]

Ralitsa is right about wearing someones clothing to feel closer to them. I have memories of a guy telling me this about wearing his sons college sweatshirt.

However it brings up an idea I posted a while ago here. I will wear my wifes clothes. I'll wear my daughters sweatshirts, and they will wear my socks and flannel shirts. I would never wear my daughters lingerie. And except for things like sweats and tees I wouldn't wear clothing belonging to another woman, Goodwill and such being an exception. To wear lingerie belonging to anyone besides myself or my wife would feel wrong.

[Erica S]

Paula,

You said "Has my wife gone too far" as the title of this thread. If you are cross dressing, is there any reason she could not cross dress? I do see your points about her dressing in your clothing at the same time I agree with others saying it is a way to be close to you. Women do do that with their husbands things. I guess what I am saying is that if we here at this forum wish to cross dress, we should not judge others, or wives if they choose to do the same.

Hugs,

Erica

[Paula G]

I think I may have missed my mark a little with my original post, my aim was primarily to raise a smile with the thought that my wife had “manflu”, along with the common observation that it is generally thought to be OK for women to wear trousers but not for men to wear skirts, just voiced in a slightly different manner.

As far as my wife (J) and I sharing clothes, I’m afraid that nearly all of hers are too large for me, and therefore all of mine are too small for her, except for shoes. Although I am about 3 - 4 inches taller than J she is about 40 pounds heavier than me. But yes she will borrow my shoes, and occasional baggy jumpers or jackets. I suspect this is no more than convenience & comfort.

Like Absaroka, the thought of wearing anyone else's intimate clothing (with the possible exception of J's), especially my daughter's just feels so wrong. I do not borrow J’s shoes largely because her tastes are far to practical for me, and since pregnancy she has pretty much abandoned heels, and I just love heels, but that’s another topic all together.