Struggling with Crossdressing

[Davita]

I like that, Ralitsa, about deciding who has the problem. It makes sense. However, sometimes we have personalities that basically says we have to take on everyone else's woes and problems. How do you turn that off so you can actually decide who actually has the problem?

[Anthony Simon]

I don't know if being like one's mother contributes at all to crossdressing, but in many ways I am like my mother. When I was a kid everyone told me I looked exactly like her, but I'm not really sure why they thought that. She has red hair, I have blond; she has a lot of freckles and I don't really; but we both have very light skin and sunburn easily. Maybe it's something about the shape of the face, I have no idea.
But I know we think very much alike. Given the same set of facts we will always come to exactly the same conclusion. She is not overly feminine, nor am I overly masculine, but we are both perfectly comfortable doing whatever needs to be done, regardless of which gender's domain it falls into. But a lot of the "doing whatever needs to be done" comes from my dad also. He utterly rejected the idea that "only men can do this, and women can only do that" sort of attitude.
Then again, I am entirely unlike all my siblings, so I don't know if any of that means anything.

A woman relative kept trying to work out who I reminded her of and then eventually said it was my mother. This was in my twenties and I did see the justice of the comment. Not that I am exactly like her or whatever, but that I'm kind of made of the same material - like "chips off the same block".

And now I come to think of it, that might be part of the problem between her and me, in that I've gone one way with the stuff and she's gone the other.

[Bernice]

I am nothing like my mother - who was bigoted and willing to engage in violence to deter crossdressing.

I'm not a religious expert, but when has any of us ever seen a painting of Jesus wearing pants? If robes are good enough for priests and monks, and pleated skirts good enough for both Scottish men and women, then why must the rest of the men in this world wear pants? It's an absurd concept to me.

Hugs,

Bernice

[Danielle La Belle]

Hi Girls:

Religion. I am very reluctant to discuss this in any form. After all, it is solely based on “faith” and not any measurable form of science, based on respected laws of same.

Here goes everything……!

In general, if a person takes the time to examine the subject closely, one finds out that we have only been exposed to a very small portion of information on any one belief system. There is tons of writings and documents that have not been mentioned or freely dispersed to the general public.

That said, remember, the majority of our personal beliefs come from someone else that good, bad or indifferent, believed in what they told us as being “the truth.” “their truth!” What they have come to believe in. This is extremely important to understand.

What I am writing here, today, is “my truth.” There simple is no right or wrong about it. We cannot, with any sense of scientific inquiry, verify “religious beliefs.” That said, it then behooves those that make such an inquiry to consider the facts.

Facts, by definition, those events that more than one person agree upon as being factual and true, as described.

Having studied the 7 major religions of the world, I would like to think that I am in a position to consider the concept of religion and related philosophy. That is not to say by any stretch of the imagination that I am right or wrong here. Riding the fence is typically the safest place to be on the subject of religion.

I have always enjoyed the following concept ….. “judge not, least ye be judged in the same measure.”

Religion creates sides. Religion, tells us whom to love, whom is loveable and whom is not. Recently, I read a small notice posted via the internet, by a pastor of a Christian based church, that was having a meeting on Wednesday night, to discuss what could be done about 3 other religious groups that in his opinion were counter-culture to his church teachings. Taking sides. Telling someone else that their beliefs are wrong.

So, religion is a good thing at times. We can thank religion for many of our laws that regulate humanity with some success. We just need to keep things in perspective. I have my beliefs and you have yours. No one is wrong. Everyone is right. WHY?

Because, no matter what we refer to, we cannot at this time, prove in a recognized, scientific manner, any religious philosophy. It is faith and by faith alone that we support such ideas.

If you find this is something to argue about, I suggest with all respect that you consider where you are coming from and why you would even consider matters of “faith,” as anything but what it is ……. The belief in something that is unseen and indefinable in earth-bound terms.

I carefully place my ego in a box and put it on the shelf when considering matters of “faith.” If you find that someone has chosen to mis-use matters of faith on any particular subject, keep in mind that it is their ego talking, not that which can be proven, but rather, that which one has chosen to believe as their “truth.”

Keep your “truth” to yourself and allow others to find their “own truth,” as it will make life that much easier to bear. Read, consider, and then, consider again!

I am this divine being. I come from the divine source of all creation. My clothing is not that of a uniform. It is, by-and-large, an expression of my internal self. I remain true to my internal self and express in a manner, what I find acceptable for me. If my dress bothers you, consider putting your ego in a box and setting aside judgment for those that by definition are suitable to place judgment upon me.


Hugs


Danielle Marie