a nieghbor

CassandraB · Post by **CassandraB** » Sun Feb 13, 2011 9:18 pm

I have been having a problem with a nieghbor of mine,his name is Edwin.I can't stand it anymore.Everytime I walk out to my car when I am dressed and he yells out this: FREAK!I have called the cops on him twice for this and he has put in nasty letters in my mailbox saying I am a disgrace to society.I am getting support from my wife and fellow crossdresser friends in my life.His wife Elizabeth is great around me,my wife and I go over to visit when he is not there.She knows this is happening,getting support from her and getting sick and tired of it.He ruined a good wig of mine which was a $200.00 wig,cut it and he did ended up paying for a new wig.It was when my wife came over to visit last year.I did press charges on him for the nasty letters last week and go to court on this starting on Wendsday.

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Sun Feb 13, 2011 10:14 pm

CassandraB, Sorry for the stupidity of your neighbor. Is he a so called religious person? sic his church on him.

btw, I understand the only people that can put things into a mailbox is the postal people. Also, all the stuff he is doing could be considered hate crimes.

CassandraB · Post by **CassandraB** » Sun Feb 13, 2011 10:58 pm

He put the letters in and have witnesses.A couple neighbors across the street watched him put the letters in.It is being prosecuted as a hate crime.He believes that men should be masculine all the time.His wife is very supportive of me and has been taught to be respectful of someone's lifestyle.

Ralitsa · Post by **Ralitsa** » Sun Feb 13, 2011 10:59 pm

WOW, that's just crazy

I've seen a few people react a little unfriendly at first, but usually they get used to it after a little bit and get over it. This guy is just whacked.
I doubt calling the cops will do any good though, there's very little they will do about it, and he won't change no matter what they do. How long has this been going on? It seems like at some point he would lose interest in harassing you and go back to staring mindlessly at the televison.

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 2:51 am

Cassandra

If that were to happen here, it would be categorized as a hate crime and he could look forward to a long stay in prison during which time he hopefully would reconsider his attitudes. Please do no let this drop. We have to assert our right to be in the world. Just remember you are not alone. Good luck.

Paula G · Post by **Paula G** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 7:39 am

It seems that a lot can depend on where you are, as Susan says if this were to happen here, your neighbour coudl look forward to a satya at Her Majesty's Pleasure, and when he gets out there could well be a court order to refrain.

This must all be horible for you, but these people need to be made to stop, his behaviour is just not acceptable. For what it is worth you have our support

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 8:56 am

Sorry to hear that Cassandra.

US Code TITLE 18 > PART I > CHAPTER 83
CHAPTER 83—POSTAL SERVICE apparently has no regulation against depositing nonhazardous notes in a mailbox.

Joselle · Post by **Joselle** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:23 am

Cassandra
So sorry to hear about your upsetting experience with this jerk of a neighbour
Bullying and harassment are totally unacceptable and he needs to understand there could be consequences for his bad behaviour.
We don't know your location Cassandra so we can't tell you how the laws pertain to your specific circumstance but in some countries and jurisdictions Edwin's bigotry would be considered criminal and he would be charged as such.

Good luck this coming Wednesday dear and let us know how it turns out.

Joselle

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Tue Feb 15, 2011 9:20 pm

If it were just name calling, I would suggest ignoring the comments. They aren't worth getting upset over. But, since he is harassing you with notes and physically damaging your property, I believe you're on the right track taking legal action against him.

I just don't understand how people can be so hateful. Maybe a hefty fine or time in a correctional facility will open his eyes. It's sad you have to put up with all this, Cass. I hope everything works out well.
Hugs,
Kyra

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Tue Feb 15, 2011 10:43 pm

Cass, you're handling this in a MUCH more adultlike manner than I would, if it were me in that situation.

Anthony Simon · Post by **Anthony Simon** » Wed Feb 16, 2011 2:16 pm

IMHO he's trying to provoke you. So whatever he's saying, that's not what's at the bottom of it. There's something inside him he's desperate to get rid of and if he can get you engaged with him in an uncontrolled manner, then (he hopes) he can do just that.

Perhaps if you just leave him, he'll go mad of his own accord. But there seems like a kind of insanity to him.

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Wed Feb 16, 2011 6:58 pm

Thanks for the update on the mailbox Donna. Now I can leave my picture in everyone's box and asked if they have seen this woman *giggle* If so would you tell her to get a new pair of shoes (like I need any).

CassandraB · Post by **CassandraB** » Wed Feb 16, 2011 7:09 pm

He admited to putting the letters in the mailbox.He plea bargained today and is facing 5 years in the slammer

Paula G · Post by **Paula G** » Wed Feb 16, 2011 7:23 pm

It's good to know that society is prepared to protect the vulnerable minority, especialy when I'm part of it!

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 7:50 am

Cassandra thanks for the update. I am happy with the way this has turned out. Congratulations to you for pushing on with this.