Mistaken for a woman while en drab?

[Paula G]

I have had this both ways, \and must confess that I find both a little peeving, when being "Sired" wearing high heels and a skirt fully made up and presenting as feminine as I can I was more than a little put out. However when aggressed as Miss or Madam as I have been a few times (although not since getting my hair cut and lossing weight) I have been equaly confused, especially when I wore a beard.

However the mistake I find most annoying is when I am brousing in a store, ussualy a department store and am mistaken for a member of staff - Bah that realy gets my goat!

[Anthony Simon]

It has happened to me a few times, mostly in the sort of times when I also felt like dressing up. I get the impression that my face goes more female in those periods of my life, like I think it's being doing in this particular period of my life. The odd thing is it hasn't happened to me recently (being physically mistaken for a woman - not for ca 15 years) despite now being the most intense time for dressing up. What has been happening , and has been happening for a few years now is that women mentally treat me as a woman. I think that's happening rather frequently with one of my neighbours, who often talks to me about men as though I was a fellow woman. But the most striking example of it was when I was at the till in local supermarket, chatting to a pregant woman, and she said that "I would get a real shock if I had a baby" and I said "I would get a real shock if I had a baby" (laughs all round).

[Ralitsa]

I think part of it has to do with one's mannerisms, and way of carrying oneself. Before I started wearing women clothes all the time, I would walk and talk very "mannishly", I would sit half slouched and had a rather careless aspect.
Now when I walk I take shorter steps and keep my feet closer together which makes my butt sway a little, because I've gotten into that habit from wearing high heels. I sit straighter and with my shoulders back, as if to show off breasts that I don't have, and always keep my knees together even if I'm not wearing a short skirt. I get into a car butt first, instead of feet first.
I do all these things even if I'm wearing clothes that are not obviously feminine, and I find that I have to deliberately "act" like a guy when I'm trying to fit in with them. I think people detect this without really being aware of it.

[Alana]

In the last couple of weeks, I've been M'aam'ed a couple of times while en drab. The first time, I think the customer only got a glimpse of me from the side as I bent to pull some product forward in the club store where I work evenings. My hair is relatively short, though cut so it can be styled femme or masculine. I had sparkly stud earrings, but was otherwise about as drab as one can be. When I responded to his M'aam, he quickly corrected himself.

The second time, was last night. A counter guy at the local sandwich shop, asked me, "What would you like on your sandwich, M'aam. He also quickly corrected himself when I responded. This time I was in front of him, face to face, less than five feet apart. Dressed pretty much the same as the previous event, same earrings, etc.. I had just had my hair cut earlier in the day, still working on a Jamie Lee Curtis cut that can be styled either way. Again, I was about as drab as I can be.

Actually, I kind of like being mistaken for a woman. It makes me feel that when I do dress, I can pass quite easily as a woman. Except when I speak. I need to work on that for sure.

Love,

Alana

[Davita]

This old bald headed mooooo hasn't passed drab ever. As a kid I never passed, well never thought to try really. On a slightly different note, I pass without trying when talking on any electronic device. I can even tell folks my name and it takes all of two seconds before they forget and I will get "ma'am"ed.

Hey Alana, maybe you have a nice shapely girl butt too. Maybe that's helping the look.

[Absaroka]

Reminds me of a bit of diaglogue in Aliens. There is a very tough female marine. One of the other male marines asks if she's ever been mistaken for a man. Her answer is "no. have you?"