Transitioning

[Michelle M]

Well, after some months of debate and some therapy, I am fairly certain I am going to transition to a woman. I say fairly certain because until I actually start the process I could chicken out. I've thought of myself as a crossdresser for a long time and only that. I've realized over the last year or so that I am more woman than I am man.

For those of you that don't know, my wife and I have been living in separate states because of work and school conflicts. She knows I'm a CD but not TG. I haven't told her yet about the TG aspects. I honestly only really stopped denying the possibility I was TG a few months ago. I am sort of glad that I have been separated from the wife. If I hadn't, I may have taken many more years before I could reach this point.

Now I'm unsure of what I'm going to do next. I need to tell the wife, my mom, and my brother. Those are the three people close to me that deserve to know the truth. After that I need to find a new job because I doubt my current company would support my transition. Also, their medical care plan is really bad so I don't think I could afford to transition on it. I don't expect to start transitioning until late in the year. I'm almost done with my master's of electrical engineering and I don't know if I could handle job search, divorce, school, work, and everything else all at once.

All I am sure of is that the next couple of years will be a growing experience for me.

[Latanya]

it is most certainly a big step. i have found that the first is accepting who u are. like u i have found that i am more than a cross dresser. so i am now tg fluid. but i dont feel i am trapped in the wrong body. so transitioning wouldnt solve anything for me just reverse the problem. so i got to find the happy medium and that is why i am on hormones! i like her better than him and he dominates so trying to change.the balance in her favor. family is very important and hope u are successful with that. i even if i wanted to transition couldnt cause not only my family wouldnt support me but would abandon me.

[Kyra]

Not an easy decision, nor an easy road to travel.

Good luck on the coming days, Michelle. I expect there's bound to be some difficult conversations ahead. Just remember we're here for you.

Hugs,

K

[Anna]

Certainly not a n easy road. Good luck with your journey, hun!

[Anita]

Hi Michelle--
I wish you the best on your journey. I get a good feeling about it; no rational reason for that, but it's there. I would think that advanced electrical engineering would be about as marketable as a transitioning woman could ask for.

I don't expect to start transitioning until late in the year. I'm almost done with my master's of electrical engineering and I don't know if I could handle job search, divorce, school, work, and everything else all at once.

Do you have much choice? I mean, the only part of your list that you can put off is your transition, and once the realization has come, that's not easy to do. It has a life of its own. It is surprising how you might have kept CDing under wraps for 30 years, but once you acknowledge that you need to transition, there's no waiting around--you want to begin.
I'm sure you'll be able to sort it out.

[Leeza]

We were here at the start, we are here now and we will be here in the future.

I hope for the best for you.

Leeza

[Kimberly Kael]

That's a huge revelation, Michelle, and I appreciate the way you seem to be approaching it. Being open to learning something new about yourself along the way is important, as is recognizing that it's a process that affects everyone in your life. It may be helpful to think about having a discussion with your wife rather than merely telling her. Keeping her involved is important if you want your relationship to survive, as is slowing down when things are moving too fast for her.

As Kyra notes it's not an easy path. There will be a lot of challenges along the way, so the only reason to keep pushing forward is because you're getting more out of it than it is costing you. It does get easier but there are always reminders and setbacks along the way. Make sure you're enjoying the journey, because there's not really a prize at the end – just the opportunity to be yourself along the way.

[DeniseL]

It is a big step Michelle and a very big decision on your behalf.

A good discussion with your wife before you come out and tell her point blank what you are planning might just have some good consequences for you.
As Leeza mentioned, we were all here for you before and will continue to be here to support you in this important jouney in your life.

I was very fortunate i have not had a negative comment at all in my journey, but then i did not have a wife to take into consideration.

All the best, we are all here for you and I can be a very good listener

Good luck in your Journey

Denise