Approaching my neighbour ... or not

[Phil]

Dear GGs

I am not absolutely sure but I have a good idea that my neighbour spotted my bra outline from behind today. I was running and there were lines on show at times, but generally speaking this is fine and I don't mind as any glimpse is temporary and I am out of sight soon afterwards. Unfortunately today as I turned into my road (single track road) she turned in behind me in her car. There was nowhere to duck in and escape or to let her pass for a little while. I therefore had to run the next 200 yards or so to just before my house (opposite hers) with her driving slowly behind me. I am sure she would have had plenty of time to confirm her suspicions.
When I got to my gate she was backing into her drive. I looked across and nodded and smiled at her but it seemed that she just stared at me.

I am pretty sure I should leave things as they are. But I am desperate to speak to her (to what end I don't know) - just chit chat and to see if she will still pay regard to me, I suppose? I rarely get to speak to her but when we last chatted she was very friendly.

The question to any GGs is: Should I go and seek out a conversation? Would this be too obvious? How should I start it? I have just come back from unecessary pruning of my front hedge (not a euphemism btw ) just to have a chance to hang around near her garden, in case she was also gardening ... no luck there.

Ideas? Thanks in advance

[Sarah Ann]

Oh, dear

I saw the word "desperate" immediately.

I am not a GG but, I recommend the following:

First, take a deep breath and distance yourself a little. What does it matter if she did see your bra strap? Does she sign your paycheck or is she in a position to blackball you from your favorite club or something? Do you really have a need to consider her opinion of you at all? Not likely.

Leave well enough alone. More than likely she saw nothing (people usually see what they expect to see) and was simply annoyed at you being in her way in the road. Or perhaps she had a dismal day at work. Or something else that did not concern you at all.

I wouldn't speak to her at all about it. I would go on with my life and await developments, which is difficult, I know, but what you never say you never have to explain or pay for. Attracting her attention to it would only underline the incident in her mind if she did notice something, much better to do nothing at all.

I hope this was helpful

[Phil]

Thank you Sarah Ann. I think a deep breath and a step back from the situation are definitely needed.

At the moment I am seeing all Other neighbours and thinking do they know/has she told them? I don't think she is a particularly gossipy type but I don't know.

Thank you for introducing rationality back into the situation.

[DonnaT]

Being an admitted attention seeker, why are you fretting over this?

[Phil]

Hi Donna
Good question! I wondered if I might get something along these lines. I am not looking for sympathy - I could be more careful, but it felt like a risk worth taking. I find it very difficult not to wear a bra at all times at the moment. There are some exceptions but this I thought was ok.
I like to flirt with danger and be a bit reckless but I don't crave humiliation! Especially not from someone that knows me and where I live.

[Martina H.]

I would imagine that your neighbour don't see anything other than you, some times things can be right in front of them and their eyes only see the expected, unless you had a see through top then just put it out of your mind.
Only today I went girly shopping at Asda in drab wearing bra and forms and not one person noticed, and I went through the normal checkout so the woman could fold my items and place in a bag as the self checkout expects the items scanned quickly. Also went to Sainsbury's and brought a pair of camisole tops again no one noticed, what I was wearing. I had a little chuckle to myself when the woman on the check out said (you will look nice in those) I said (do you think so thank you) smiled payed her and left.