tell my sister

[Elizabeth Ann]

My sister is comming up for my sons wedding on Nov 1. the wedding is the 3 of Nov..
I was wonder if it would be a good time to tell or should I not because of the wedding.
My wife is the only one that know I am a cd since my mother has pass away

[DonnaT]

It's as good of a time as any.

Question is, what does your wife think of you telling?

Another, why do you need to tell her?

[Erica Bern]

wait for gods sake wait this is not the time dear


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[Paula G]

Donna asks two very important questions, both of which I think you need to answer before you go ahead. My other thought is that this day should be all about the wedding, it may not be a good idea to distract attention away from your son and his bride, this is their day. My suggestion would be that if you do need to tell her, create a situation where the two of you are together on independent territory, and make sure that you dictate the agenda.

Mind you I am no expert I have either just blurted it out when the opportunity seemed right, or am still in denial so there you go.

[Erica Bern]

Have u seen a weeding crasher film or video, such a news will take all the attention away from the wedding u need to wait the focus is on the wedding now erica


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[Anne Bonny]

Perhaps wait until your son and his new bride have left, suppose your sister is upset about it?

[Kittie]

Whenever you do it think carefully. I have the same prob elm s about telling my daughter. my wife & decided it needed to be done before I get caught out but we n eed to do it fasce to face whcih I will do early next mon th when I visit nher in London for my birthday

[Anthony Simon]

Weddings and funerals are social occasions on which all sorts of family issues get raised. Reading your post, Elizabeth, it strikes me that you must feel very alone with no-one to talk to about your CDing. I guess, in that sense, a close family member like your sister is an obvious person to go to. But you've got to consider the results for her too.

I mean you've kept your CDing a secret because it's frowned on socially. If you tell her and she doesn't reject you, she'll then have something of the same problem - a secret she can't share with others. Maybe that won't have so much of an effect, but it also might make life more stressful and a bit more isolated for her. It might just upset her per se.

Are there other people you might consider sharing with - like could you search out a local group for crossdressers?

[Erica Bern]

You have to remembers that people that are different have to be careful also, so one have to respect them also, such things are very delicate and personally, most men love women in a nice outfit, but Im not sure if a man in it will look the same, one have to be sensetive something is better in the closet I think, it is just something I do and I dont want to share with anyone I prefer beeing a closet guy, I will stay out of trouble more that way and Im flexible more. Erica


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[Amanda M]

Absolutely NO! You don't know how she is going to react, and you m ight spoil a beautiful day. I understand how much you want to open up, but a wedding is not the place or time to do it.

[PhylissH]

I have to agree that this would probably not be a good time. Emotions are running High already. She might just react out of emotion, and not stop to think about what you are trying to tell her. I would choose a time that it not associated with anything else so both of you can devote full attention to the issue. As the others have said this is your Son and Daughter in law to be day and nothing should take away from it.