How many in the closet??

[Bernice H.]

I say i'm in the closet but my freind
and my sister knows about it.
Does that take me out of the closet??

[Anna]

Hi Bernice. One of my neighbours knows abot me, but I still think I am in the closet.

[Bernice H.]

Hi Anna
How does it feel to be in closet??
By choice or not ??

[MichaelaR]

I would say I am in the closet as well. My wife knows, and she said she's told other people (probably only one or two), but no one has ever said anything to me about it. I've been going out underdressed more and more, but still have never gone all-out woman (hair, make-up, etc.).

[Davita]

I'm not in the closet, but just like some things are not told to everyone, I have my batch of people that don't know things.

When I was in the closet, it was not by choice; hence why I'm out.

[Cassandra Lynn]

Well in a nutshell, there's 2 basic forms of closetry or 'outedness'.

There's being out to people, as in they know about you, and there's being out of the closet as in you've gone outside fully dressed at least once or twice.

I've told a few about me, tho not close family as of yet and i've been out i public in full femme a couple of times now and certainly hope to more someday.

I've recently came out to my new girlfriend and have gotten a very fair amount of support and acceptance, and quite happily so!
She took the gargantuan step of both helping me do my make-up, and allowing me to fully dress in front of her and we have done so 3 times now.

But i have along ways to go, at least in my mind, it's coming out to family that i feel is the most difficult.

[Ralitsa]

well, how big is the closet?? Does it have enough room for them also?
I can't really answer the "in closet" question because I don't think of life that way.
In my case basically everyone is aware, but how much they know is a function of the questions they ask and how they react to my answers. So call it my version of "don't ask, don't tell".

[KimberlyS]

I am not in the closet but I am not out either.

Some people, immediate family and some friends, know I am a cder but most do not know. I dress in a variety of modes. I do go out in full femme some times, but most of my CDing is mixed mode or under dressing. Wild what a person can wear that is femme clothes yet present a male image to the world. IMHO a lot has to do with your attitude.

kimberlys-cd
joe in a skirt

[Wendae]

Kimberly....

Wild what a person can wear that is femme clothes yet present a male image to the world. IMHO a lot has to do with your attitude.

Ain't it great!!

[KimberlyS]

Wendae yes it is. What I chuckle at is the days I am wearing all femme clothes presenting a guy image to the world and do not realize it until part way through the day. It just happened to be what I grabbed to wear. So hummmm, back to the original question, am in in the closet? It depends on ones perspective. I guess maybe am out but most do not realize it. He He He He.

More thoughts for me on the closet. For me it is not so much being in or out of the closet. I am just being myself and who I am. IMHO, the closet, CDing in general, and actually a lot of things in general is more about what you think between your ears than what others think. Once I found acceptance in my own mind I found others seemed more accepting of me. Or was it just I did not need their acceptance in my mind and maybe their acceptance did not change except in my mind.

And yes I know society acceptance has improved greatly in recent years. But maybe we need to get our mind out of the closet.

So how is that for rambling? I have a closet with clothes in it.

[Stephenie G]

I have to agree with you Kimberly when I was out and about in male drab or dressed fem it was my attitude and how I carried myself that to me IMHO is what made more people accept Stephenie.

[April Rose]

But maybe we need to get our mind out of the closet.

That, dear Kimberly, pretty much hits it on the head.

[Erica S]

I am definetly in the closet. Although my wife has seen some of tops and I think she may suspect about some of my panites. I had on a pair of blue panites, with lace around the waistband, one day i was putting up a ceiling fan and she made a comment about it. It did not go any further though...

Erica

[Melissa J]

I'm not really sure if I'm in or out.. Anyone close to me, who's opinions I care about, already know and we have talked about it. Some others close to me are just DADT, to avoid the awkward conversation. If somebody calls me on it while I'm out, or notices a bit of lace under my jeans I try my best to own up to it. Most situations it seems they are more embarrassed then me.. Most people really don't care, they are just curious.. I don't display it in public, nor will I deny it in private.. guess I just leave the closet door open

[Kerra]

Firstly what is the closet?

That means different things to different people and it depends on where the boundaries of your closet is.

If being out of the closet means blabbing to all my friends and co-workers and family who I am. No.

If accepting myself for who I am and telling a friend or wife or daugther, then Yes.

My closet has boundaries and as those boundaries shift, so to will the definition of what is my closet, so for me, there is no black and white answer as to if I am in the closet or not.

Personally, the only closet that matters is the one that you create for yourself. Accepting who you are is the most important thing, not who you show or share it with.