the pleasures of sex while dressed

[Mary Margaret]

hello all.
some person had a question about the pleasure of sex while dressed recently.i have been dresssing for nearly 60 years and since puberty have always let it happen when en femme dressed in my lingerie.i always plan in my mind my fantasy and when you do dress all the stress and strains of real life fade away.i always wear a platex corsellette for to hold my BFs in place and usually have an assortment of older slips and nightdresses which i let take my gift when it comes as it always does.when the event is over it is just so enchanting to lie still and absorb the feeling of been surrounded by beautiful silky lingerie. now also i have a question for the ladies on the forumhave you ever worn lingeriewhen you or your partner /wife are feeling romantic.?my story was when i got married over 40 years ago i used to buy my new wife nightdresses sets and slips for her to wear but really for me.i always bought maybe 2 sizes bigger may be XXL even thou she did not take perhaps a size 16.it was all in vouge in the 1970s for slip and night dress set sto be sold here in the shops one evening we were feeling romantic and i asked her would she mind it i wore one of her sets she said she did not so i showered and knew exactly were to look and which night dress and negliee i wanted for me .i wore a long pink satin lace trimmed nightdress and negliee and got into bed she followed soon after and she had the most beautiful long shoe string strapped white chiffon gown on.you can imagine i was very excited at this stage and things happened very quickly after that.i slept that night fully dressed the first time since leaving my mums house to get married.the next day she suggested that perhaps ii was not a good idea to be wearing her nightdresses she saisd i seemed to get more pleasure from being wrapped in satin than what we should be at.this started my collection of fine sets and slips which i have many.and i guess are vintage.lookig forward to your comments and hopefully i dont offend anybody.
mary margaret dublin.

[Carol Ann]

It has happen in our younger days but to tell the truth it was the wife who was worked up and yes I had no say so in the matter

[JoniT]

It only happened once for me and that was on Halloween. It was fantastic and my girlfriend joked that maybe I was enjoying it too much (if only she knew). I would love to be able to regularly have sex while dressed.

[Absaroka]

Many times while having sex by myself. It's something that is very common but not something that folks like to talk about here. I'll content myself with saying that if these garments were not a turn on, an awful lot of advertising money has been wasted.

Never with a partner.

I've posted this before. When we are young sexual feelings are like a big meal when you are really hungry.. When we get to a certain age sexual feelings are more like a cup of herbal tea. Sort of like a lot of us are now content just to cuddle.

[Paulette]

For most of my life dressing has been a sexual activity, and now that I can finally share it with someone it is a tremendous relief. Even the obsessional element of it is no longer predominant.

I've said elsewhere here that I tremendously enjoy being dressed en femme while making love to my new wife. She enjoys it too, and would even like me to dress more in public. I'm almost ready for that, but I am afraid. In the next month or two I'll do some real shopping and trying things out.

It took a while for her to accept that I was and would remain a heterosexual male, and would continue to desire her no matter where my CD took me. We're both primarily hetero (but we've both explored), and she was quite happy to help me dress and learn makeup and has no concerns with being seen as a lesbian. I am much more concerned with being seen as a guy in a dress or in ambiguous clothing (which appeals to me much more than "passing.")

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I've also in the last year come out for political reasons to relatives and friends as a private CDer and to reclaim my self and my life story. So for the next step I'm beginning to seriously consider a public androgynous look. It's scary and exciting, but mostly scary because I really don't know the social dangers in Louisiana. California and Oregon big cities were no problem - there I could dress as an elephant in musth and no one would blink.

Being accepted and still loved for who you are makes so much more possible, and it gives you new courage. I highly recommend it, if you can get it.


** Post edited to remove sexually-explicit references as per our rules. - SL

[Scottie]

I usually end up having sex with myself, it's such a turn on to get dressed up... Never with anyone else though.

[Gillian]

I am one of the fortunate ones who has a wife who lets me dress as I wish during sex. At first it was a thrill, then it became same old, same old. It is often important how I dress well before than when one is on the "bed". Foreplay is more important now, sometimes I need something to help get my "motor" running. When I was young, dressing worked every time, in that regard it still helps in getting the "motor" up and running.

[Sarah Ann]

I have sex the way I try to do everything else these days, dressed as a lady, and with panache

[Dalva]

Well said Sarah, well said!!

On topic: Never have...someday....someday. A girl can dream, can't she?


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[Rachel Lynn]

My SO and I do have "girls nights" and yes we make love with me dressed as a women. Its wonderfull

[AJ West]

We've (my SO and I) have only had sex once while I was wearing stockings only. She was making an attempt at understanding my femine side, but would only allow the hose. That was almost 20 years ago, and she never let me do that again. She said she would only have sex with me as a man.
The only sex I get now while en femme is with myself. It is great to fantisize about being a woman while dressed, it really enhances the experience. The only down side I seem to see is that I can't stay dressed after my orgasm, I have an uncontrollable need to distance myself from my dressing during that time, and have to wait about an hour to two before I'm able to 'get my girl on' again.
I'd like to know what that problem and how to overcome it, as I'd love to orgasm, stay dressed and still be girly.

[Anthony Simon]

Well, I don't know if my experience is particularly transferable. But I certainly find that the sexual thing, while still strong, isn't necessarily the end-point of being dressed up. It certainly used to be - and was for a lot of my CDing time.

I can get dressed up now and not be able to "go all the way" (that used to be truly exceptional - like happened just once). Or I can, and then still want to stay in the clothes. Or I can, but other things (sometimes taking hours) have to intervene.

What's happened with me is that the being dressed up has turned into a way that I get in touch with this buried person - who looks to be "real" in some way - and I need to stay her until she's resolved some problem in my head.

That kind of disconnects the getting out of the clothes and makeup - actually it's mostly the makeup, because that takes a lot of effort to redo - from the sexual aspect.

The most recent move I did was when the sexual side didn't come into it at all and I was just using "her" to solve a problem (I wrote about that in my "Concealed Debut" thread).

The trouble with this is it's not a "How to do it" thing rather a "What's happened with me" one. I just have the impression that the more "reality" the woman I become has for me, the more I move away from the sexual side.

[Rachel Lynn]

i do NOT want to get kicked out of the forum or the website but i need to ask a serious question about this matter. for those of you who have had sex while dressed, do you feel like a woman or a man while making love to your significant other? also...if you feel like a woman...are there certain things that a man would do to a woman that you enjoy although you are heterosexual? feeling confused right now....and would appreciate feedback.

[JennyLynn]

Rachel

I can understand your confusion. For me, it's definitely ..."I'm a woman and want a partner to treat me as such" I'm not attracted to men, but am very attacted to CD's. It's the best of both worlds. I have never had the experience of sex with another person while being Jenny, but I would imagine it would be absolutely incredible. For me though, it would be more fun to be with a CD than with a woman. More in common I guess and I've never had the pleasure of being on the womans end of the experience.

Jenny

[DonnaT]

Yes, my wife and I have enjoyed the experience. Both of our kids were conceived during such times.

I've never felt like a woman.