Needing Encouragement Sometimes... SO input appreciated.

[Curly(SO)]

Just another little note, to say, I think us GG's can forget how much it means for our partners to dress, we can get wrapped up in other things going on. I know if I haven't seen Ed dressed for a while, I almost forget about him being a crossdresser, as of course, it has less importance to me. I sometimes need reminding that it is in fact, a very important part of my Hubby's life. Of course, he needs to also bear in mind that it was only quite recently that he shared it with me, so should understand if I forget!
We are still slowly learning to share

Curly(SO).

[Virginia]

Don't know if I can be of much help, these other posts have been excellent and have helped me also. One GG(SO) stated somewhere that they(SO) sometimes have trouble dealing with "another woman" in the relationship. Then there are those that love the idea of having a sister to do "girly" things with, so the SO's are as varied as we are in how they accept this. I don't know if you are ready for this next stage or even if you want to "go there." A lot of our sisters are very content to just Crossdress and deal with whether or not to go out in public. In my transition when I dress as of late, I look into the mirror and now instead of seeing a guy dressed as a woman, I actually see Deborah and I begin asking myself who is this woman and what is she feeling and what is HER future. I have also begun to take account of the influences she is having on my male personna. She is discrete also as my SO came home the other day unannounced, fortunately I was upstairs and she immediately realized that "Deborah" was in the house. She has said that she does not want to meet Deborah so she allowed us our privacy and all ended well.
Shannon is fortunate in that his SO is accepting. This is something to be cherished and as has been said "talk, communicate, talk" to eachother.
That is the key. God Bless you and we are her for you!
Deborah

[Beauty]

Hi Shannon,
I think Ed may be feeling like you a lot of the time. I don't think he knows when is the right time to dress, apart from putting on the odd nightie or blouse, he has rarely dressed when I've been around. I think he is maybe worrying whether it is OK with me. Hmm, I don't know, maybe, are you (and Ed) wanting 'permission' to dress?
Personally, I would prefer if Ed would dress just when he feels like it, without worrying if it is OK with me. I'm going to be out when he gets in tonight, daughter is away for the night, and I'm back home by 8pm, I think I will leave an outfit out on the bed for him, maybe he will realise that it is OK with me then! Or maybe that will reinforce his idea that I need to give permission, we need to talk! I think we are both walking around afraid of treading on eggshells!
I can only speak for myself, I don't know how it works in your house. Some SO's may prefer to be asked if it is OK, we are all at different stages of acceptance, and our CDing husbands are all at different places with their CDing. Talk to Sharon, get it out in the open, that is the only thing I can suggest, really.
Good Luck!
Curly(SO)

Two things Curly!

One, you sound exactly like my wife. She's like you. Dress when you want to, don't ask.

Two



For laying out clothes for him. The only thing I can equate that too is the look on a woman's eyes when she comes home and finds a small gift wrapped on the bed or receiving a gorgeous bouquet of flowers.

That's awesome Curly!!! Give that gal a super gold star! Wow!

Beauty

[Tammy(SO)]

As a SO I would like to give you some insight. But I myself am trying to figure out when I would be okay with and when not.
Of course most of that is probably just my hormones. It seems most thoughts and emotions are tied to my cycle.


I would say start with a day when she is neither in a really good mood, or really bad. I know for me, one my good days, I kind of wnat it to be all about me. Selfsih I know. But I figure I indulge him enough. And of course when I am in a badmood, everything annoys me.


I would prefer him not to wear things daily, but as long as relantionship is strong I can over look somethings. I have also let him no the things i prefer on him, so that it is less likely to be a problem.

But as for totally dressed, I prefer only a couple times a month, but I think I can deal with a couple times a week out of respect for him. How can I not, he would never think of putting boundaries on me.

Another time I don't relaly care for him to dress is when I am feeling quite frumpy myself. As a stay home mom, and doing house cleaning, looking good is not a priority. So they days I never take off my holey t-shirts, I would rather him, not dress up.

Here's a thought, hum, might have to discuss it wiht DH myself. You can casually mention"I am going to go freshen up if you don't mind".
I myself would love the oppourtunity to say not tonight before he he gets in the mood. There has been times when he has dressed when I was so not up to looking at him, yet out of respect I didn't have the heart to knock him off him pedestal. KWIM

Good luck, trying to read women is truly an art.

[Honey(SO)]

My husband and I are still in the infancy stages of CD(3months) so he usually waits for a que from me. We have kids at home so we usually have to plan for dressing. But even then he still acts like he is waiting for permission- I am not his mother! If he wants to dress then dress fully knowing the kids are gone, then it is fine. Now if you want to 'dress' for bed or romance then yes ask.
Now if you two were comfortable before with the dressing, then just jump in. If you want to go all out then fine or start out a little at a time. Maybe say something funny about forgetting how to get started, what comes first underthings or makeup?? What would you do dear??Maybe an invite to pick out the outfit for you. It is kinda like seeing your spouse after a long separation and you want to just jump all over them but you feel shy. Just go for it and get it over with. You will both feel better. She is probably feeling the same way. Remember communication says it all,
Honey

[Beauty]

Wow.

It's great to see you gals are all on the same page with this.

Ok.. we'll shush and get dressed!

Beauty