Coming out

[Carla Michelle]

Well today I made a choice. I decided to come out to a friend of mine. I kind of knew how he would react and felt safe coming out to him. He reacted exactly as anticipated, it's "no big deal". Even when you are pretty sure of the reaction you'll get from the person you're telling your biggest secret to, it is an emotional experience.

I feel so much better now that I've told a close friend, and he is very supportive. He said it was a shock, coming from me, but that he has no problems and only wants for me to be happy. We were at a restaurant, having lunch when I told him. So I had a napkin handy when the tears started. Thankfully they were few and didn't last long.

Overall I am glad that I had this talk with him today. He is still my friend and will always be my friend.

[Anthony Simon]

Seems like you've been winding yourself up for something like this - judging from your recent posts. Glad it went OK.

[Davita]

Good for you, Nunya, and good for your friend to accept you. Now, as always said... baby steps. Don't scare him away moving too fast with him.

Congrats!

[KimberlyS]

[Anita]

Good for you! And...Davita said it above--don't move too fast.

[Carla Michelle]

Ran into a friend tonight and while we were talking I asked if there was a convenient time that I could come over and talk with him and his wife. We're having dinner at his place Sunday night. I know what his reaction will be. While he will be surprised to hear this coming from me, he and his wife will be fully supportive.

I also emailed a link to my friend who is like a brother. He'll read it and when I hear his thoughts I'll go from there. I don't know how far this road that I'm on will take me but I'll see when I get there. I'm not ashamed to travel this road now.

[Kittie]

It is a great step.so far I have come out to one male friend online although I have come out to my wife & daughter. It is a wonderstep & I had a wonderful feeling after doing it

[AlexandraF]

Have never done it, not even to people i know just on the internet (with the exception of other crossdressers of course)

I feel like i may never be able to "come out" to people who i have known a long time like family and friends.

but new people like, potential girlfriends, seems like i dont have a choice there, it would be almost impossible to hide since i underdress 24/7...

[Anita]

Ran into a friend tonight and while we were talking I asked if there was a convenient time that I could come over and talk with him and his wife. We're having dinner at his place Sunday night. I know what his reaction will be. While he will be surprised to hear this coming from me, he and his wife will be fully supportive.

I also emailed a link to my friend who is like a brother. He'll read it and when I hear his thoughts I'll go from there. I don't know how far this road that I'm on will take me but I'll see when I get there. I'm not ashamed to travel this road now.

That brought tears to my eyes, Carla. You have some momentum going, and it'll serve you well. Once I started talking to people, it got easier and easier. I then had to learn when NOT to talk, even though it seemed like people needed to know.

[Carla Michelle]

The first dinner with my friend and his wife was cancelled, he had food poisoning. But we did have dinner and I did have the talk with hims and his wife. As expected they are both fully supportive.

My friend who is like a brother, I also came out to him a week ago yesterday. As I half way expected he is also supportive. In his words; "You're still my friend. Hell, it's Midtown, wear what you want."

I've not yet told my folks and that may take a little while. I have come out to those of my friends that I feel it is important for me to have this talk with. I'll tell others as the time is right.

[Ginger]

May I say you gurls that have come out, you have super amazing friends.

I have come out to several people all ladies and only 1 was like ya Ginger, let's get together and I will make you up and she even goes, heck I'll give you a mani/pedi. I am like OMG you are so AMAZING.

Now all the other ladies I came out too, were oh i see. And so far they have not really spoken to me since. They all said that they support me but that's about it...

I don't dare come out to my only 2 guy friends. I know 99.9% chance they will think I am freak/loser/gay all that and then tell every one then disown me.

I have always known that the friends I keep are not very respectful/caring/emotional/loving all that crap. They are none of it...

[Davita]

Ginger? You're friends aren't supportive, caring etc? Why do you call them friends? Heck, I'd be coming out to weed them out.

[Ginger]

Ginger? You're friends aren't supportive, caring etc? Why do you call them friends? Heck, I'd be coming out to weed them out.

I will tell you that all my life I have not had many friends, if you want to call them friends.
I have never had support from any of them, so your right, they truly are NOT friends I agree 100%.

But in my life "friends" are very far and few in between for me and I have extremely unluck finding them.

So truly i do not have any and wish that I could tell them all to get lost, but being alone is worse for me then having a "friends".

I wish I could meet some super nice gurls and have a great relationship, but again I am very unlucky meeting people.

If I did come out to them, I certainly would not have any, but the negative aspects of them making fun and telling every one and having that negativity around me would be worse.

Only to have friends in my immediate circle in my life would be amazing. But I guess that is not in my cards.

Luv Ginger...

[Davita]

Well fer sure Ginger. Sad but true a person to talk with and associate with is better than no one at all if they at least are civil.

That said, I think you will find this crowd of girls more than civil so take advantage of the chat and get to know us and we you. The chat allows a lot tof information exchange quickly.

[Anne Bonny]

Congratulations, I know the feeling it is one of the most wonderful things I have felt in life.