Kandi - I have no problems whatsoever with your post, or you dressing in a French Maid's outfit, or with role playing in general . . . not in the least. If that's what you and/or your wife enjoy doing, then I'm happy that you are happy.
Anne Bonny originally wrote:There is certainly nothing wrong with being a wife for our female husbands . . . [Emphasis added by SL]
Anne Bonny subsequently wrote:. . . All I am saying is sometimes I would like it if my wife would take the lead and actually make some decisions . . .
Anne - That is not at all what you said in your earlier post, nor could it ever be interpreted as such. You clearly called GG's 'female husbands', and there is no way that you can ever back-peddle that one.
April Rose - Thank you, I am glad that I am not the only one who correctly interpreted Anne's original comment and I thank you for your 'defense'.
- SL
SilverLady(SO) - Native Motor City and Wolverine gal . . . GO BLUE!! - Molon Labe - Saepius Exertus, Semper Fidelis - Si Vis Pacem, Para Bellum - Proud Military Family - Navy, Army, Coast Guard, National Guard
Oh SilverLady, All I am thinking about is essentially the same thing as donning a french maid's uniform except I am talking about trading roles so that I can be the wife, and my wife can be the husband. What is wrong with that? I have always said I think the roles can go back and forth. I guess I do not understand. I have never seen my wife as less than me, or lower than me, but as an equal beside me. In fact my wife was indeed more intelligent than me, she had a doctorate, a photographic memory, those college papers that turned my brain to mush literally flowed out of her brain she was highly intelligent. I felt inferior to her. Is there anything wrong with a wife being superior to a husband? My intelligence is above average, do have my masters after all and a full career in Nursing...but I am just an average person and we loved each other.
The traditional view of marriage makes the man out to be the head of the household, the one who leads and decides, the chief breadwinner. Gee I know my grandmother really placed men on a pedestal. The tradition is there. I never saw it that way, saw us as equal partners as a team. Both of us had careers. All I am saying is I personally, like putting on the maid uniform - in stead would like to be in the traditional role as a wife so I can feel subordinate while my wife assumes the traditional role of the husband. That is still a relationship based on love, and I doubt very much that my loving "husband" would deny me anything. Oh well, nothing wrong with that.
The whole dominance/submissive thing is a dangerous area. If anyone reads books about the difference between the way men and women interact in conversation, there seems to be a strong case for saying men want to dominate whereas women want to bring integrate. That is to say men want to be "top" in conversation with others, while women want to bring people in and themselves be brought in.
In this regard, except in role play which is kind of fun, asking a woman to dominate is likely to grind against her basic approach to life. Not because she likes to be submissive, but because she wants to be equal. This is apart from the political aspects.
Socrates: The highest wisdom is to know that you know nothing.
Well I will give it up, more of a fantasy, of course you are right. Can't toy with the nature of things. This madness leads me to think and to say all kinds of things. Seems men are unfortunately stuck being men, and women being women. Our sex is different, and so are our brains and how they work. It is unfortunate I hate always having to carry the burden make the decisions, and having to be on top some time I would like to be loved, and cared for I guess I cannot have that.
I think women do have ways of taking the weight off. It's just that their style is different and maybe it's not so clear that they're doing anything because they don't advertise what they're doing.
Socrates: The highest wisdom is to know that you know nothing.
I am fully male this morning, even removed the nail polish from my toenails. I suppose it takes the wind out of my sails. What is the point to dressing. Men and women are I suppose partitioned off from one another and as much as I would like to enter that world for one I am a different sex and now I have discovered that we function differently mentally as well Our brains are different. I guess I am not smart enough to figure it all out or to quite understand it. I suppose it is like dreaming of being female physically, or even mentally but it is still only something we can only dream about but never be. Women are capable of loving us but only in their way. I am I suppose incapable of understanding it. The limits exist beyond which it is mentally and physically impossible to go. Perhaps the Christian teaching on all of this is correct after all...we are created male and female, and the man is head of the house as God is head of man. Looking back through history men seem to exist in the world in one way, and the same is true of women then there are those who lie in between but even there there are physical and mental limits. Seems to be little point to cross dressing I am only fooling myself or leading myself to believe something that can never be for me.
Wow all of these replies just for me cleaning the carpets in my maids outfit and having sex with the wife. What a can of worms I opened. LOL.
Love You All
Kandi
As a couple, we have not done costumes or role play other than Halloween role reversal. Him dressed as female doesn't do a thing for me in the least, no matter how nice the outfit. However, there are times when it's real turn on for this gal to be the romancer. Sometimes a woman wants certain things done her way Except for the thigh highs, the rest of the costume has to go.
I don't know about cleaning house in an outfit like that and heels. I have cooked dinner for my late husband in a French Maid's outfit though. Guess who ended up being dessert?
Remember Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did only she did it backwards and in high heels!
The words of the prophets are written on the subway walls and tenement halls and whispered in the sounds of silence. Paul Simon
Because my wife and I have a 29-year delta (difference in ages), and because it's one of our favorite movies, we've thought of getting t-shirts with the labels "Harold" on one and "Maude" on the other.
I think many of us have had this fantasy and some of us, myself included, have acted out on it. I have a French maid's outfit and have worn it for the BF as well as on Halloween a few years ago. I doubt I would wear it to do housework in anymore, especially in heels! I know straight couples role play all the time to spice things up so what's wrong when we do? After all when many of you "dress" up isn't that the ultimate in role playing?
As for the "female husband" I am sure it was not meant in a derogatory manner as well as I am sure SilverLady meant no harm by her comment. I do agree I had never heard the term before and do find it a bit odd.
Funny in how I have a French Maid's outfit my ex BF bought for me yet I never thought about wearing it to clean house in. Guess you know where my mind is!
You clearly called GG's 'female husbands', and there is no way that you can ever back-peddle that one. 
Proud Military Family - Navy, Army, Coast Guard, National Guard 
Except for the thigh highs, the rest of the costume has to go.
I know straight couples role play all the time to spice things up so what's wrong when we do? After all when many of you "dress" up isn't that the ultimate in role playing? 