Things Happen

[Sarah Beth]

I'm dressed, I mean completly dressed for the first time in months. It feels really wonderful even though I know I can't stay dressed for very long. All the plans I had made of the things I would in the spring and this summer got put on hold. Put off because this if life and things happen.

My dad has had some medical issues which started right after the first of the year. Lots of tests and things and they still haven't figured out what is wrong or what they can do about it. That has taken up a lot of time and because of that I put off my trip to Denver for what was to probably be my one and only make over ever.

Then my daughter's ex defaulted on a loan they had when they were married and he had never taken her name off the loan so when he couldn't pay they sued my daughter for the money. Of course she didn't have the money so her mother and I ended up dipping into our savings and bailing her out. In the process of all this and the bickering between them our grand daughter got caught in the middle and as a result she has moved in with us.

I haven't had time to put on anything more than a pair of panties in months. So today is something really special for me. I have gone all out, I'm wearing all my favorites, and have worked for over an hour on my makeup. No it isn't right but it's as good as I can do for these short few hours I can be dressed.

My wife will probably be upset when she sees that I shaved my legs. I wanted to shave my chest and underarms but I am sure there would have been questions from someone I wouldn't want to try to answer. The stockings on my legs feel wonderful, as does that wonderful feeling of the breast forms whick fill out the cups of my favorite bra so beautifully. My khaki blouse and maroon mole skin skirt complete my wardrobe. I love this skirt, it's the only skirt I have ever owned that I thought really fit me well.

I have done the book work I needed to do and have a couple more hours I can spend dressed. Think I will stay dressed while fix myself a bit of lunch and eat. The it's going to have to be back to reality.

Thanks for this place where I spill out my problems and ramble on

[Paulette]

Sorry it hasn't worked out better for you this summer.

Here's some un-asked-for advice. One by one or all together, see how the rest of the family would feel if you were dressed some of the time. Just don't spring being actually dressed on them without notice.

1. Ask about a trial period, or a time of day, or a day during the week, or some combination, when it would be all right for you to be dressed around the house. They can be at home or not, as they choose, but during that time so will you - dressed. If they refuse -

2. Tell them all that on x day and time, you will be dressed, and that they shouldn't bring friends over then unless t hey want to do some explaining (or unless those friends would like to share the company of someone like themselves). But no proselytizing or hand-wringing.

3. You have a right to your life so long as it doesn't hurt anyone else. Be kind and polite, and insist that they do the same.

[Anthony Simon]

I know that feeling of "wonderful" when you get into the clothes. It's priceless IMO. Hope you get to do your makeover. I haven't had one, but when the time is right...

[Eileen (SO)]

With all the added stress, you probably feel more of a need to dress than before, and with less private time to do so. Also with the added stress, your wife will be less tolerant of your dressing. The dressing conflict itself adds more stress. While you have needs, your wife needs a husband. Good Luck and hope things turn for the better.

Eileen

[Rikki]

"things" sure do happen! Seems like I've been there a lot lately, too. But, enjoy those little rays of sunshine when you can find them and keep the courage to carry on.

All the best,
Rikki

[Kelly]

Please, spill your problems. Ramble on. Cry.

Things do indeed happen and everyone needs a sanctuary. I am glad that you have sanctuary here.

Hope you make it to Denver. It'll mean things got better.

Love,
Kelly

[Requal Jo]

You are at the right placed to ramble on Sara. Most of us have probably experienced similar circumstances and can sympathise with you.

I understand the stress and frustration at being able to dress when one wishes, as my eldest son has returned home to reside. I have to be so careful now, I sometimes feel is it worth it to dress. However the enjoyment and relaxation I get when Requal, evens out all feelings and dampens the frustrations.

I say that one day the situation can only improve.

[OliviaM]

I know how you feel Sarah Beth. The last two weeks have been trying and tiring with doctors appointments for both of us. When I get home just too exhausted to do anything. Sometimes it feels like my head is going to explode. We just have to plug through. And with the good people here to help we do it.