Does Aging Tend To Bring Out Cross Dressing More?

[Ralitsa]

I tend to agree with Kelly's take on it, for me it is probably more about my attitude toward it.

I would say that my stress level and anxiety, the yearning, longing and obsession over it have very much diminished. But that's probably because I don't worry about it, I just do it. So if the hunger for it has lessened that is probably because I'm satisfied now with myself.
I just really don't care what the rest of the world has to say on the subject. Unless they are going to give me fashion tips

And because of all that I actually do cross dress much more often, as in practically all the time. So I wouldn't say that has as much to do with age, as with experience - which of course you can get only with age...............

[Paulette]

The simple answer here is, YES!

With age comes the establishment of security, and less fear of "being found out, or being shamed, or ridiculed, or losing one's job or community standing.


Shame used to be what kept cross dressers in the closet, sometimes all their life. Now, I suspect not so much. I certainly hope so, and with all my heart.

[April Rose]

My circumstances started changing a couple of years ago, so it's hard for me to tell if I'm dressing more because I'm aging, or just because I have more opportunity.

I am out to the people closest and most meaningful to me, and due to my wife's health issues I have fallen into the housewife/care giver role. I also retired recently, so while I am not in a dress all day every day, I am in a dress most days for a good part of the day.

So, I don't know if I desire to dress more now that I'm older (65) or just have more opportunity.

I will tell you this , though, and I call it one of the real blessings of aging. I no longer stress about what other people think. I'm more content with myself as a person and as a feminine man than I ever was in the past. That is something that is worth getting old for.

[SarahMicheline]

I found it easier to suppress my cross dressing in my 20s often going weeks at a time without the need to be Sarah. However, with age, I have found that I need to be Sarah more and more often. I am now approaching my mid 40s and Sarah has really developed as a person and in terms of her look (make-up, wardrobe, hair etc). So she wants to be the girl about town. As she has developed and grown as a person she does not want to be always alone and locked up and hidden.

This is something that I am going to have to mange…

[Jina James]

For me, the answer is "not necessarily."

Since starting at the age of 15, it has waxed and waned. I'm now 62. For the past eight or so years, I've seen a very slow decline in interest.

[Martha G]

I started late like in my 50's. But I will be 74 next birthday and the urge has come on stronger in later years.

However it comes and goes. I personally wish that it would go. But as I get older I feel the need to dress like a woman. Even to act like one.

I do believe that I had a repressed desire from my early teens.

So! 24/7 dressing and acting as a woman, cross dressing or simply being able to get rid of the urge all together

We'll see.

Stay tuned for The Adventures Of Martha!

[Emily]

I've found that a combination of age and circumstance means more time for Lexi to come around!

Let's see... early teens to late twenties, partying with friends, going to school, living at home, working part time (not to mention a general lack of knowledge about this whole cross dressing thing - thank you internet :kisses:) meant little time to myself. I've always known the urge was there somewhere, but what did it mean?

Fast forward several years later... Not as many friends, very little partying, steady job, steady income, and a strong desire to dress like a woman in my leisure time. Wouldn't have happened 20 years ago, but now...

[Requal Jo]

I cannot disagree with anything that has been said by all. Yes, on reflection, I would say that my desire for Requal is greater with age as the circumstances in my life change. Being retired, I now find myself doing more feminine tasks around the home to assist my wife, which only increases my desire to be Requal.

[Marissa Mae]

Definitely in my case aging brought crossdressing into full flower. Retirement made a big difference. (Much more time ...)

But I also think that people all through their young and middle years, busy with job, responsibilities, and especially raising kids, have not little opportunity to crossdress. They're also too distracted, lot of other things on their minds, can't find the time, are almost never alone. So for them it would be mean being out from the start, and where would they find the time?

Put all that together, and I think it makes sense that people in their 50s and especially 60s tend to blossom into crossdressing a lot of the time.

Marissa Mae

[Martha G]

I started in my late 50's. Now at 74, the urge has really come on to dress as a woman.

It the situation was right, I could handle being a woman full time!

[SarahMicheline]

I think you are spot on with your analysis Marissa, it certaily reflects my life as an ealy 40s professional with a young family

[Wendae]

I'll be 75 this year and been dressing since 1968. I'm in agreement with Martha G. And pretty much with many of the posts. It comes and goes daily now. I prepare the night before and in the morning it's gone. I look in the mirror at the time ravaged face and wonder if there is enough make up to soften my features. Other days I say WTF I'm going out and have a great time. I really don't give a crap what folks think. I just smile and stay pleasant. I wish it would stay or just go away but then I would really miss the wonderful calm and well being of when I'm Wendae

[Hanna]

So, I will put my two cents in.
I'm 73, love to dress, have been dressing since a teenager.

Until the past 1 1/2 years I have not gone out in public.
I also have not gone out to friends , family, etc. My wife recently discovered me dressing. We had a talk. Although she does not care for it, she says if I dress do it when I am not around.
And don't let anyone know.
I then told her I do go out in the next town, 35 miles away. So far I think it's still a secret.
I do have the strong urge to go out, and not just dress around the house. And what a thrill it is.
I think age does come into play- maybe part hormones and maybe "hey, if I don't dress now, it's getting late, and the opportunity may disappear."
I also feel, if I should be discovered-so what. But the urge to go out now is much stronger.I have amazed myself that at my age I can go out and pass.
Twice I walked by two friends, and never got a second look.(Thank goodness for that) I can only guess that my makeup and dress was good enough to not be recognized, even if I don't totally pass at times.
I think a great part of going out is your attitude. Think the part, act the part, look presentable, act presentable and 90% of the time you will pass.

[Wendae]

Hanna

if I don't dress now, it's getting late, and the opportunity may disappear."

Right on Hon!

[Marissa Mae]

Another thought. For me, and I know for some others as well, the other time of life where crossdressing first happens is late childhood. From age 8 I started stealing my mother's bras, panties and slips and parading around in them when my parents and little brother were not home. I found it tremendously sexually arousing (still do, though in my 70s it doesn't quite blot out the world like it did when I was a kid).

I more or less stopped crossdressing when I got interested in girls as a high school freshman, but it resurfaced a year or so after my first marriage began and especially during divorce, then again a couple of years after my current marriage began. I came out to my wife when I was about 37, 38 I think.

So here is my crossdressing life-curve on a 1-10 scale:

Early adolescence: start, 9-10
Late adolescence: dormant, 0
(For 1-2 years after both weddings, in early 20s, then late 20s: dormant, 0)
In my 20s: 0-4
30s: 5-7
40s: 6-8
50s: 7-9
60s: 8-10
70s: 9-10

So for me it started with obsession during years 8-13, then re-arose as a rising curve starting in my 30s and flourishing as a regular delight in my 60s and 70s.

How typical that is I don't know, but at least some of your stories seem to tally reasonable well with it.

Love, Marissa Mae