Hi...heather gail

Heather Gail · Post by **Heather Gail** » Mon May 03, 2004 10:00 am

I'm a new member having just joined. I've been doing it for many years now, mostly in secret as my wife doesn't like it and doesn't want to know...out of sight, out of mind if you will. Well she was away for the weekend and I decided to "go out" for the first time. I spent so much time preparing and was soooooo nervous, but I was pretty adept at it and really looked so pretty! I wore a black minishirt with a pretty blouse, black nylons, and three inch heels and I really surprised myself. I went to a local "hangout" and met some other nice "girls" and had such a great time...

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Mon May 03, 2004 10:03 am

Hi Heather,

Welcome to the forum.

I'm sorry your wife doesn't approve of your dressing.

On the other hand I'm happy that you were able to get out dressed and meet with other's like us.

Bravo!

Please feel to ask any questions you may have or let me know if I can assist you with anything on the forum.

Take care!!!
Beauty

Vivian Best · Post by **Vivian Best** » Mon May 03, 2004 10:07 am

Hi Heather Gail,

Welcome to our site. There are many nice girls here!

Your situation with your wife is like mine, wife knows but thats about it. Sounds like you made a very pretty girl, I'm jealous! You can have a great time with the girls on this site. Enjoy yourself.

Vivian

Heather Gail · Post by **Heather Gail** » Mon May 03, 2004 10:07 am

Thank you very much...this is a very nice site and a good way to discuss the subject with other people...it felt so good to be out there the other night, but there is no way I can discuss this with my wife...maybe you have some suggestions.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Mon May 03, 2004 10:10 am

Hi Heather,

You can search on wives and you will find lots and lots of threads dealing with that and some GREAT advice!

Beauty

Heather Gail · Post by **Heather Gail** » Mon May 03, 2004 10:13 am

Thank you very much...unfortunately my wife is so closed minded that I'm at the point where there is little I can do...(she had a rather "puritanical" upbringing)...I may just have to accept that I can only go en femme when she's away on those rare occasions...but I can at least savor the great time I had the other night.

GalicianGirl(SO) · Post by **GalicianGirl(SO)** » Mon May 03, 2004 6:45 pm

Hi Heather,
Welcome to our forum!!! Glad you decided to join us!!!

Sharon(SO)

Josey · Post by **Josey** » Tue May 04, 2004 7:48 am

Hi Heather,

Good to have you here.

Perhaps, your wife would read some of the posts from the other SO's on the forum and realize she is not all alone nor are you.

Heather Gail · Post by **Heather Gail** » Tue May 04, 2004 8:36 am

Thanks all of you...you are so supportive and caring. It will take some time but I do realize I need to slowly and carefully "broach" the subject and indoctrinate my spouse into this reality so that she fully understands who I am and want to be. I'm afraid she will react badly at first as she will perceive this as a threat to our marriage, but it isn't really a "threat" as I have no desire to leave to to change our lives other than to "express" myself on occasion...well, I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks again.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Tue May 04, 2004 10:15 am

Heather Gail,
You rule - Girl!!! Isn't going out such a rush!!!! I am soooo glad you had a good time! AS for you wife - been there, am there and I am just like you. MY wife knows about Deborah, but is not the least bit interested in meeting "her" but what she does not know is that she deals with her every day. She has become part of me and I see it helping our relationship. My wife even admits that after 27+ years of marriage things seem to be getting better, but SHE DOES NOT KNOW WHY!!! Uh DUH!! I do as I know that this gift that I have has really given me a lot more insight into my feminine side. If you have not read Jung's Anima Theory and How it Relates to Crossdressing" http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepage ... /anima.htm
take a look at it - can really give you understanding about this gift we possess. Let us know what you think.
Love ya,
Deborah

Heather Gail · Post by **Heather Gail** » Tue May 04, 2004 10:48 am

Hi Deborah...thank you very much for your extremely kind words...yes, it will be a long process between for us, but I'm willing to do it if that is what it takes...it felt so good to be out there the other night and after just a short while I felt so comfortable and completely at ease! It just felt so natural that I envisioned myself as a completely different person and didn't want the night to end. It's so hard being "suppressed" as I've been, but I realize this will take time and I have to accept that and work at it.

My best, Heather G

Love (SO) · Post by **Love (SO)** » Tue May 04, 2004 12:22 pm

Hello Heather,

Welcome, and glad lad you have joined us!

Love (SO)

Heather Gail · Post by **Heather Gail** » Tue May 04, 2004 12:29 pm

Hi Love, it's nice to be here...I was "brave" enough to join and I feel so welcome...

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Tue May 04, 2004 7:42 pm

Hi Heather Gail,
I'm so glad you found this site. It is very good and the people are very supportive. I hope you like it.

Sorry to hear your Significant Other is not very accepting. You may find the SO section here helpful in understanding how she may feel. My only advice is to talk to her. Take your time, and you'll get there.

Hugs,
Kyra

Heather Gail · Post by **Heather Gail** » Thu May 06, 2004 2:52 pm

Hi...well yesterday I was able to work at home and since my wife was out for most of the day, I took advantage of her absence to work en femme...it was a different experience for me, but I found it to be quite enjoyable and relaxing...but I also knew it would only last for a short while...I'm still mulling the best way to "talk" with her, but it is a slow process and I'm still working at it...I'm back at the office today, but I can still "long" for yesterday and the pretty outfit I wore for a good few hours!