When Is It Not OK

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Oct 04, 2003 9:42 am

Ok, I'll be the first to post to this one.

When is not ok to dress?

I believe this will be different for every SO, but what times, if any, do you feel it's not OK to dress?

Please don't feel limited to point out only one time.

Thank you!!!

Beauty

LeftyRainbow(SO) · Post by **LeftyRainbow(SO)** » Sun Oct 05, 2003 3:41 pm

When my partners safety is in question, I would rather my partner not be dressed enfemme , but ultimately the decision whether or not to dress is not up to me but up to my partner.
Perhaps one day TG women can walk down the street and be recieved by a friendly smile and maybe a lovely compliment instead of the hightened mixed emotions that they are often met by today.
I hope that day will be here soon so that my partner can enjoy it!!!!

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sun Oct 05, 2003 4:08 pm

Ok, that makes sense, but what about at home?

Beauty

LeftyRainbow(SO) · Post by **LeftyRainbow(SO)** » Sun Oct 05, 2003 4:38 pm

Beauty,

Just no dressing up around the kids but we are in agreement on that one!!!!

- Lefty

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 3:28 am

Anything else?

Beauty

Jessie · Post by **Jessie** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 5:58 pm

Well I am not sure as I do not have to deal with a SO but I wanted to try and post something here and maybe some can respond. Many times when I get back to my place I change into my fem as soon as possable as feels so much more conftrabel and I feel more realixed. I am thinking that it may seperate the stress I have from work to not having it home. Any way that's how I am. I somtimes wish to have someone to share this with but that anouther problem I have that may have nothing to do with CDing. But I belive the friends I have here people I can open up to.

Jessie
PS: If I know my dad is comming over I will do everything to hide that I CD so that is one time that deffintaly hide that part of me and I have no will to tell him anytime soon.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 7:12 am

Hi Jessie,

Do you dress at home 7 days a week?

It's easier than most people think to find someone. You just have to be willing to allow a woman to get to know your personally before you let her know about your CD'ing.

If I'd shown up to my second date dressed, I doubt I'd have ever gotten married to my wife.

Beauty

RikkiOfLA · Post by **RikkiOfLA** » Tue Oct 28, 2003 10:28 am

As many of you know, I dress virtually full time. The reason I say "virtually" is, when I started dressing full time, I told my wife that I would dress male anytime she wanted or needed it. All she had to do was ask. That arrangement has worked well for 5 years. The times when she wants me male are generally...

1. When we're going to be with family
2. When we're going somewhere romantic, where kissing and hand-holding in public would be fun
3. When she's really upset

It's usually not hard to tell the reason she wants me male.

And I'm usually happy to oblige. Sometimes not so happy when it comes to family. We have a rocky relationship with her family. At one point, she told her sister about my CDing and sis has been trying to use it against me periodically since. It doesn't do her much good, but all the family knows about it now. Her father doesn't like it, but as long as I don't dress around him, he knows there is nothing he can do. What he doesn't know is that my wife's eldest brother also crossdresses! Brother surprised us with that one day--that was a complete surprise to both of us.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Wed Oct 29, 2003 7:35 pm

Hi Lefty,

I'm on the same page with you all too.

Beauty

Shannon · Post by **Shannon** » Fri Oct 31, 2003 9:51 pm

Well being a selfish smuck, I would love to see SHARON(SO)'s response here....

I often wonder myself when "I Can", "When I Shouldn't" and when "I Can't"....

I don't know about the other CD'ers here with live in SO, but I have a really tough time reading this aspect of my wife...

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Fri Oct 31, 2003 10:33 pm

I hope she does!!

It would be great to see the interaction.

I think it'll be a web first!!

$\:D/$

Beauty

Mandy (SO) · Post by **Mandy (SO)** » Wed May 26, 2004 3:45 am

I know this is an old topic, but I just wanted to add....Rikki said she finds when her wife is upset...that is definitely one for me. Also, I will throw around "hints", "clues" as to when I'd definitely prefer him to "stay male" for the night, like saying something about his stubble feeling sexy against my body, how good he looks in those boxer briefs, etc. Also, it's not even a point of contention, just understood that it's not around the kids...and the one that I think may differ more than anyone else's...when we are in bed (that is, to SLEEP for the night) I don't sleep well in general, and since the beginning of our relationship I will frequently roll over to him in the middle of the night, and he always wraps his strong arm around me, and it makes me feel better. It just wouldn't be the same if I was up against a silk nighty when it happened...

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Wed May 26, 2004 8:01 am

I just respect my wife's wishes. She does not want to meet Deborah, so I follow her request. On the other hand, I do try and push the envelop, like if we go out, to a movie or to eat. I will put on a small amount of mascara, some neutral eye shadow, a bit of make-up, some neutral nail polish and of course the "proper underware." The other day I got brave and wore a pair of black pull-up, silk, slacks and silky pullover white shirt.
Don't know if she did not notice or care, but she said nothing.
Makin inroads!
Love,
Deborah

Gelinda · Post by **Gelinda** » Wed May 26, 2004 2:35 pm

Well To me as I have never went out the door en femme, I can't truly answer but in my case.

1. When other of the family is around.
2. When I might be seen by someone from work.
3. Depends on what my wife says when I finally tell her.
4. Formal Occasions Funeral, Weddings, etc.
5. Church
6. Other things like these. Gee.

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