The most amazing thing happened to me:)

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Wed May 05, 2004 11:41 pm

Tonight I went to my brothers house to tell him about my CD. I pretty much cut to the chase and just said "I have been crossdressing since I was 11 years old." He said "we know, it's ok we love you."(It made me cry again)Started crying uncontrolably, and cried for about 2 hours He said that he was not all suprised. He reminded me of the horror of our childhood, and then he reminded me of how often the picture you see ,displayed with my name on this page was used as a source of ridicule for me, not just when the photo album came out, but referenced all the time. I guess I just got tired of thinking about it. Anyway, he said that I was the victim of a tragic childhood, and my accomplishments and willingness to help others far outweighed any social stigma anyone could place on me. (crying again). He again said that he and his wife loved me, we have all known each other since we were kids, she was the girl next door. They have been together since I was 14. and they were 15 and 16.. He said that it did not matter to them if I dressed or don't dress as long as I can find some way to let go of the guilt and shame, I had nothing to be ashamed of. (crying again) I needed to hear that so bad. Total unconditional love and aacceptance. I am too emotional to continue, but i love you all.
Elizabeth

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Thu May 06, 2004 12:00 am

I am so happy for you Elizabeth, Tis not as bad as it appeared.

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Thu May 06, 2004 2:38 am

He told me to tell my therapist, work through my issues, and if when all was said and done I wanted to wear dresses, it was ok with him. It is like this huge weight has been lifted from my chest. I so much wanted him to be proud of me, and I was so worried that this would shame him. He told me he was very proud of my achievements and this did not change that. I love him so much, we have always been very close, we have always counted on each other. I am just so overwhelmed with emotion right now, I just keep crying. All of my worst fears were not realized. I am on this incredible high. I am casting out my demons. I just have to say that this place, all of you have saved my life. Whoever started this board? Thank you.
Elizabeth

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Thu May 06, 2004 3:05 am

This is the kind of thing that makes it worth our effort to continue to try and help people. I (and I'm sure we) thank you Elizabeth.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Thu May 06, 2004 7:06 am

Awwww.. Elizabeth!

You had me tearing up and I'm a toughie to make cry!

(Real crying)

Wow.. that's so great !!!!!

You have support now. Your feet are no longer in the air and falling, you've found footing. Thinking of your wife being supportive is no longer important. She can't hurt you anymore. You have a support line that is REAL and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!

I think we've just welcomed someone to the forum.

Nothing can stop you now.

BTW! Your brother is right. The next step is counseling, but you can consider your worst days of self-acceptance over. When you told your brother was your independence day!

Beauty

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Thu May 06, 2004 7:57 am

Elizaberth,
Congratulations! It takes intestinal fortitude to "come-out", especially to family. Don't wish to steal your thunder, but...... I came out to my wife, I told her I as not embarrassed by my CD'ing, and I did not really care if anyone knew, except I would prefer that "the family" not know until I figured "it out!" Well that lasted about a day, when she told her mother, who of course told her father, who told her brother, then my wife told my daughter who told her husband! So if any of you need someone to broadcast your situation, my wife is available!!! Oh, we are working it out, but after 27 years the loss of trust issue is tough to deal with.
Love, Deborah

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Thu May 06, 2004 3:31 pm

Good for you, Elizabeth! I'm so happy for you, girl!

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Thu May 06, 2004 9:29 pm

Way to go Elizabeth!!

So glad to hear what happened. Isn't it a wonderful feeling to be accepted by someone, unconditionally!!

Hugs,
Kyra

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Thu May 06, 2004 10:14 pm

I just can't say how much better I feel. I really honestly don't care who knows now. I was so afraid I was going to end up alone. Knowing that I will always have my brother and my children, and that for them the good outweighs the bad is just everything to me. My oldest daughter has been so supportive about it. Totally loving and non judgemental. Just as I raised them. I really feel like I have a new lease on life now. I see possibilities for the future now, that I did not see before. I am not saying the suffering is over, and everything is wonderful. I am just saying that I want to live again.
Elizabeth

Josey · Post by **Josey** » Fri May 07, 2004 8:18 am

Hi Elizabeth,

That was such wonderful news. I am so happy for you. I started reading your report of your meeting with your brother and tears formed in my eyes. Beauty said it so well when she said you are no longer alone and your wife's criticism is no longer that important.

Girl, I wish you all the best. Just remember, every life has it's mountains and valleys. We're here no matter where you are traveling.